Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Attracting Money With a “Where” Instead of IF

I’m a freelancer. No salary or benefits. According to people who see how I live, no security. But, I feel very secure because my spiritual mindset is strong. The Law of Attractions supports my thoughts and brings me whatever I need, because I expect it to come!
I hear people concerned about money:

* “I’ll get a new car IF I can come up with the money.”
* “IF I don’t get a raise, I’ll have to move.”
* “Daylle, what will you do IF you don’t get enough work this month?”


The common denominator in the above is IF. Because I expect to always have enough for what I need, I wonder where my money will come from, not IF I’ll get it. This makes a profound difference in what I attract. Fear and tentative expectations show a lack of faith. And a lack of faith doesn’t support you in getting what you want!

I’ve been talking about changing habits. Break the habit of thinking in terms of “IF I have the money.” Think with expectation about where it can come from. I’ve had moments where my checking account was on empty. Rent was due in 2 weeks and I had no income. Was I worried? Nope! Did I call around to borrow money? Nope again. I continued to put it out that I expected a source of income. And I always get enough for what I need. ALWAYS!


Since I also help others write their books, a guy offered me a big chunk of money to help him write his a while back. What good luck you might be thinking. It would have been had I accepted the guy’s offer. But I didn’t. I wasn’t interested in his topic and he seemed a bit weird. Since I only do projects I’m interested in, I turned him down, even though I wanted the money. Okay, I needed the money! But instead of agreeing to write the book for lots of money, I said out loud, “Close one door and another two open.” A few days later I got a great project and my checking account got healthier. And then something else materialized.

Worry doesn’t attract money and it can keep it from coming to you the way you’d like it!


A friend who knows me well teases that she doesn’t wonder IF I’ll get my rent. Instead, she loves to see where it will come from. She’s seen over and over that somehow, some way, from somewhere, I always get the money I need at the right time. The next time you express concern about IF you’ll have enough money or IF you can increase what you have by a lot, get rid of the IF and replace it with faith. Write down what you want and why you deserve to get it.

We get back what we put out. So get into better habits of expecting money to flow to you with ease if you want to increase your abundance.

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    This post spoke to me. I am one of the IF people and I know that I need to stop. I will not be negative and I will not worry. All I need is the faith of a mustard seed. Thanks you very much.

  • Chris

    I agree with your assessment whole-heartedly. I believe it was the law of attraction that led us to correspond and build our friendship. If you want something different in your life, look at what and how you are thinking. I believe that everyone will discover that the things that they think about the most come to pass.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for letting me know that my article helped you Creating good habits of thinking in ways that attract the most takes time. But you CAN get there if you keep trying. Good luck with all the goodies you can attract! :)

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks once again for your very kind words Chris!! Of course the Law of Attraction connected us. : ) Everything happens like that.

  • mimi

    Great reminder to watch how my thoughts phrase what I attract. I admire that you seem to live fearlessly. It’s an inspiration that I will try to emulate!

  • Cathy Meyer

    I saw your interview with Debbie Nigro and had to come by and tell you how much I enjoyed it and you.I work freelance also. I’m an expert at First Wives World and write for them on a regular basis. I’m also the Divorce Support Guide at I love what I do, can’t imagine doing anything else and learned a long time ago that if my thinking is in the right place then what I need in life will follow.I’m glad you mentioned your blog during your interview. I look forward to exploring it.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Glad that his helped you Mimi! Living fearlessly is made easier by having lots of faith.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for stopping by Cathy! I’m doing my best to help educate folks about how to be happier. I learned the very hard way over many years. If I can help anyone bypass some of the pain I went through, it makes what I do worthwhile.

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