Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

January 1970 Archives

6 Ways to be Positive in Any Situation

Life can seem negative if you see yourself as a victim the way many DoorMats do. When I was one, I waited for the next bad thing to happen, and my attitude attracted more bad stuff. When you don’t feel […]


Am I a Cougar or a Kitten?

The cat name I can claim depends on the guy I date. If he’s younger than me, I’m a cougar, according to the latest pop culture labels. And if he’s older, I’m a kitten. A woman becomes different versions of […]


Being Ruthless Eventually Gets You Screwed

You may not have succeeded in everything you want yet. There might not be a romantic partner in your life. Money might be a little tight. But as long as you have integrity, consider yourself a success! Many people get […]


Giving Permission with Silence

Since this week I’ve been encouraging you to be true to what you really want, I’ll end the week with this thought. People continue to do what they get away with. If you don’t tell them that something is unacceptable, […]

More on Expressing What You Want

I seemed to strike a nerve with my post on Tuesday about separating your thoughts from what you think others want, or what you’ve been in the habit of agreeing to. DoorMats are especially vulnerable to being acquiescent in a […]

Pamper, Please

Self-empowerment is a body, mind and spirit mission—a total and comprehensive effort to take control of all aspects of your life that influence your decisions and your happiness. I consider taking control of your body a very important endeavor! When […]

Interview with Daylle

Today Kerri Fivecoat-Campbell posted an interview with me on her blog, K.C.’s Write For You. This blog is about the freelance writing life life, which I’m part of. If you’d like to know a little more about me in relation […]

What Do You Really Want?

I was just talking to a music producer who said that when a new client comes in, the first thing he asks is “What exactly do you want?” Musicians are often surprised that he asks, and even more surprise when […]

Scary Bachelor Used Kisses

I just caught the end of The Bachelor. Had to. It’s comedy on the one hand. But it sends a very sad message on the other. They all hoped to kiss this bigger than life man. Each woman lunged for […]

Shake Your Head & Then Get Your Butt Movin’

In my last post, Chris Melton talked about how your must walk the walk of your dreams by taking action. It’s easy to dream and hard to enact them. Are you one of those dreamers? I had many back when […]

Use Your Passion To Reach Your Potential

This week Chris Melton is my guest blogger. He’s an entrepreneur who markets The Rotator, a devise that rotates the shoulder to increase its range of motion. He’s also the author of, a blog dedicated to inspiration and motivation.Use […]

Double Standard Alert: Half Naked Guys Fine! Bikini Topped Girls Banned

I’m getting very tired of seeing double standards against females sanctioned. Guys are still the princes of society in many circles and get away with so much more! Females are held to much higher standards in many situations. This was […]

Down with The Bachelor–You Can’t Win Love on TV!

Last night I flipped on The Bachelor for a peek and was horrified. This show is so degrading to women!! Considering how we’re supposed to be getting more empowered, this show is going backwards! I know much of it is […]

7 Random Things You May Not Know About Me

I’ve been tagged by Lorraine Cohen at Powerfull Living to participate in the meme asking to share 7 random things about myself and then tag other blogs. Hmmmm…. Here goes! 1. When I went to Alaska last summer, I had […]

Desiderata Project

Bob at the every every minute blog came up with an interesting project this month. Throughout the month of October, he has guest posts from a variety of bloggers offering his or her personal interpretations and reflections of a few […]

Reach for the Sky

I’ve been laughed at since leaving DoorMatville. People can’t believe some of my ambitions or the dreams that I say I intend to make real. They couldn’t imagine how I might think about getting the things I went after. Yet […]

Debunking the Wish Fairy Myth!

Many of my clients wistfully say a version of, “I just wish [THIS] would happen or work out.” Or “If only someone would help me.” I’ve got news for you boys and girls! These thoughts will just keep you in […]

Stepping Toward Your Passion

I heard from many people about my last post, Passion Makes a Life. Some expressed how bored and stuck they are and feel it’s too late for them to make changes to have a more satisfying life. I hear it […]

Passion Makes Life a Life!

People know how much I do. As a full time freelance writer, I can spend 16 hours a day working. But to me it’s not work most of the time. Answering emails is work. Other non-writing aspects of earning a […]

Toot Your Own Horn!

I’m delighted to have Lorraine Cohen, President of Powerfull Living as a guest blogger today. So many of us, especially recovering DoorMats, have a hard time owning our accomplishments. Lorraine has kindly allowed me to post this article that appeared […]

Saturday Night Solo Isn’t Death!

I was walking down Second Avenue early Saturday evening. In front of me was a couple. The guy had a loud voice. As a writer about life, I pay attention to small stuff going on around me. As he passed […]

I’m a Beauty Product Whore & Proud of It!

Guys who enter my bathroom often make sarcastic comments about how many bottles of creams and lotions and other stuff I have. They’re clueless about why or what any of it is for. They tease and ask why I need […]

Previous Posts

Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank ...

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to ...

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks ...

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to ...

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when ...

posted 12:01:14pm Jul. 08, 2014 | read full post »


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