Oh, now I know where all the incredibly nasty and vulgar commenters came from who joined our discussion when I posted Joshua Berman’s reflection on the threat gay marriage would pose to women. It was linked by editor Dan Savage at The Stranger, one of our two local alternative papers here in the Seattle, on his blog.
can be amusing but Savage himself is a shockingly vulgar writer, so much so that I won’t link you back to his link from this blog which, after all, should be readable by your whole family.
Speaking of families, I’ve heard Savage on the radio talking about his “marriage” to another man with whom he has adopted a son. Who knows what Savage is like as a father. Maybe he’s a model dad — as well as being a wonderful, faithful “husband.” Let’s stipulate that he is both. I do know, however, that I would never publish anything that I wasn’t comfortable with my kids reading. The idea of any father engaging in such public displays of vulgarity — well, it could hardly be a worse advertisement for the societal stamp of approval on homosexual activity that Savage himself ardently seeks
. If he really thinks he is advancing his own cause, what a delusional trip the gentleman is on.
Incidentally, on further reflection, the instructive point I took away from Professor Berman’s citations from Roman literature is that a society that formally approves male-male sexual intimacy is approving something else that goes along with it. What’s that?
Men are unruly in their passions, far more so than women with their natural affinity for monogamy. This is not a stereotype. It’s reality. I suspect that women in the lesbian community would confirm that it is so. Normally, men’s unruliness is somewhat limited by women. In gay culture, that’s not the case at all. An important break on male sexuality has been removed.
Savage himself has written, “Monogamy is nice
, but it sho’ is over-rated.” He notes
, “men are bad at monogamy, and gay men are especially bad at it.”
The creation of gay marriage by a society means the approval, too, of gay culture with its unique mores. To the extent that the culture, not necessarily the practice, of homosexuality permeates the society, then brutalization and vulgarization will likely follow — of a kind that, yes, can’t help but hurt women even more than it does men.
UPDATE: As with the previous post on this theme and its accompanying thread, I will unpublish any comments that cross the line into obscenity or pointless, grotesque insults, name-calling, etc.