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In Sweet Company

Love in the Shadowlands

[ A prayer I’ve relied on for years is ] ‘Please God, let me see this through Your eyes.’ Even though I don’t necessarily believe in a God that has a human form, saying this opens me up to a whole other perspective about the situation I’m facing, a much larger perspective.” — Margaret Wheatley, IN SWEET COMPANY: CONVERSATIONS WITH EXTRAORDINARY WOMEN ABOUT LIVING A SPIRITUAL LIFE

I was looking at a photo in a recent Time Magazine of a battalion of soldiers tucked in the belly of a transport plane, young men and women readying themselves to return to the States after their tour of duty in Iraq. I looked into their faces, faces mothers loved, and felt my heart rise in my throat;  the exhaustion, the knowing beyond their years. Twenty year olds, their childhood long behind them. I wondered if their families would recognize the adults these kids had become. Would these kids have jobs? Could they adapt to life “in country,” in a land where the skirmishes are economic, political, and moral; where every nuance of conflict is duked out ad nauseum on TV and social networking sites? Could hearts be at rest?


Research studies from The Institute of Heartmath ( now document that sustained feelings of appreciation, love, compassion, and hope elicit measurable coherent heart rhythms; greater internal synchronicity; and increased perception, cognition and higher thinking abilities. Anger, frustration, and anxiety cause heart rhythms to become erratic. Though the Institute has a program that teaches coping skills and stress reduction techniques to returning veterans and their families (, they help every segment of the population live in concert with the intelligence of their hearts. Their research and outcomes clearly legitimize the benefits of love, of joy, of hope


Goodness and mercy — positive thinking, doing good works, compassion and forgiveness — are always part of the prescription, part of the fix to healing the wounds we carry within us. When you’ve given it all you can and it hasn’t yet gotten the job done, when your emotional resources are stretched to the max, what then? Some things leave you with no other course of action, with no other choice, then to choose the Unseen Heart — not just to get the job done, but to rise above desperation and defeat and live in concert with Goodness and Mercy.

When you choose the Unseen Heart, you face your human limitations and shadows head on. You say, “This is what’s up, and I’ve given it my best shot, and I need more than I can manage on my own.”  You don’t beat yourself up or blame the other or the system. You don’t spin your wheels in frustration.  You don’t waste time and energy in worry and denial. Choosing the Unseen Heart keeps you centered, focused on something beautiful, peaceful, and bountiful. It bathes and renews your physical heart. It stimulates coherent heart rhythms that create greater internal synchronicity; increased perception, cognition and higher thinking abilities. It paves the way for answers to come, for peace, for gratitude. It opens you to finding Love in the shadowlands.

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posted September 27, 2010 at 7:29 pm

I so needed to read this tonight.l For the past month I have been facing a situation that has brought me fear, anxiety, hopelessness, anger, hurt, sadness. All the painful emotions I can imagine have been my day to day experience. There are moments when I can get out of me and feel a bit of peace. I need to know that I can weather this; that my Unseen Heart will carry me through. I truly need more right now that I can possibly manage on my own. Thank you for offering this as a way of moving forward.

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posted September 27, 2010 at 11:53 pm

Aloha Margaret, Yes, I ditto Michaeline’s sentiment above. I too am on a road ridden with potholes right now. It’s ok when it is a brief stretch, but this has been going on for a long time now. Just when I think I can’t take anymore, there are angels who show up with just the right words, or a smile or story that brings me right back to my heart space. And then I breathe and then I remember…
Thank you Margaret (& Michaeline) for being that angel.

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posted September 28, 2010 at 5:08 am

The Unseen Heart is Who we are behind circumstance. It is the Soul shining through the ego and mind into the true heart of the matter: we are all Souls having this ephemeral experience in the midst of our Infinitude, yet distracted by the exigencies of the moment that so capture us. What is the way out? Letting God in. When we do that, as time and circumstance progress, we come to the inevitable conclusion that what had seemed to come to disturb us so, came, in the end, to draw us Home.
After having passed through what in anticipation was the worst of circumstance, I can truly say that “It’s all OK!” … a phrase uttered by a dear one in the middle of the night out of a sound sleep as we were both in the midst of it. What I came to understand was that “It’s all OK” goes beyond what you want to happen, to include, perhaps, what you might not want to happen. It’s all OK because the Unseen Heart makes it so in our own hearts if we can go deep enough in our understanding, by seeing the Love that is always there, knowing that that Love is one thing that you can “take with you”. It endures, indeed thrives, beyond circumstance, beyond the ephemera.

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posted September 28, 2010 at 4:43 pm

Michaeline, Teri, and Peter. I’m in your corner.

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posted September 29, 2010 at 4:40 am

I was going through some material this evening and when I came across this I thought of you, Michaeline and Teri:
“To trust in God is to know thy life is completely in the hands of the Divine, no matter what. It is living God’s truth, knowing ye will always be shown the way. It is boldly going forth whether or not the way is familiar and comfortable or unknown, fraught with travails, unanticipated disappointments, and apparent desolation. It is feeling and acting with Divine comfort and confidence in all situations.
“Beyond belief, trust in God.”
Master Armaton in “The Folk of Yore – Sacred Mission”

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