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When the Door Closes, Look for the Window

posted by Jennifer E. Jones

There’s a beautiful scene in The Sound of Music when a distraught Maria has just returned to her abbey after falling in love with the father of the children to whom she was a governess. Trying to make sense of her situation, she cries to her mother superior, “When God closes a door, somewhere He opens a window.”

It’s a variation of a famous proverb that also goes: “When God closes a door, He opens another.” It refers to the natural ebb and flow of life that when one thing ends, another begins.

I think about this a lot as I realize that a friendship that I once enjoyed seems to be dissolving. My natural inclination is to get to work. Figure out what happened and over analyze every piece of our last conversation. I want to assess blame and establish clearly who was right and who was wrong.

But of course, I stop. And I breathe. And I remember this quote: “When God closes a door, somewhere He opens a window.”

Every time someone walks out my life, they pass the next person walking in. It’s one of those universal laws, and this isn’t just for people. You can see it when someone loses a job and finds a better one. The old door closed and another one opened up to a new opportunity… most times better than the last.

When you look at life like that, it’s almost impossible to get upset over who’s leaving. They are making room for the next teacher (because, after all, everyone and everything in your life is here to teach you something).

Whatever you’ve lost today, take just a moment to grieve the loss, but then have faith and feel good. That door closed so another one could open to reveal something much better that’s waiting just for you.



  • http://facebook.com/dani.spratley Dani Al-Basîr Spratley

    Lose something everyday; Gain Love, Gain Yourself. Lose your illusions; Gain your Liberation.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment louise

    This is so true.Life is very mysterious.But I know there is a plan.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment dtscls

    The key to this belief…IS belief; you must be willing to believe that what “comes” IS better for you in some way….than it would have been for you to continue with “what was lost”. You must be willing to be open to and SEEK to find the “better” in what follows or comes next in your life. Happiness is relative….to what you are willing to believe IS good. If you will allow yourself to be “open” to the good….you will find it.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment LINNET PELLICCIA

    SO TRUE, GOD HAS A PLAN FOR ALL OF US…HE ULTIMATELY HAS THE LAST WORD…

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment ttc

    Thank you Thank you thank you/ Normally when I see things like this I delete it. However, today I got upset, because I was denied unemployment and my financial situation is not up to par. But to God be the Glory, when MAN close one door God opens a window.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sharon

    The door of my 40 year marriage closed when I recently lost my husband to suicide. Unfortunatey I’m unable to find an open window to overcome my tragic loss. I feel my heart & soul will never heal because of the way my husband died !!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Michelle

    I just can’t tell you how much this has inspired me in so many ways today. I have cried for 2 months because my husband whom i love very much moved out. Me, constantly thinking of what i could of done different or what mistakes i must have made. Yet i read this today and it really inspired me!!! I do believe that God has a special plan for me and when i get sad i will always try to remember this!
    Thank you!!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment anita

    funny where i work is closing and all of us there are trying to report each other. someone mentioned that if we area too busy watching the door close we wont notice the window opening. funny how spirit works.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment anita

    support i meant support one another! ha I work at a prison you see where my mind goes?

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Erin

    Sharon?
    I hope you see this..
    I am sending you lots of Love,Hugs and Healing.
    God is with you always.
    Much Love! Keep strong xx

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment T. Alexander

    This is a good article.It is so true. I do not agree with the saying “everything happens for a reason”. I believe God has a life plan for all of us and our faith is the main component and key to our behavior. I am going to be sixty in a few weeks and feel younger than I have felt in a long time. God had been speaking to me for a long time about a friendship I had for close to 7yrs. and telling me that the feelings I was having were correct.There was a issue of trust and finally God swept this person out of my life. It happened in the first week of the new year and the thought that kept going through my mind was “out with the old and in with the new.” I have so much peace now and the only regret I have is that I did not bring God into her life like I had hoped. The door has closed on this relationship but the open window blew in a breeze of peace and hope for a better and true friendship to come.May the Lord in his wisdom bless and keep everyone here today in his love and light. A word to Sharon.I am so sorry for what you are going through.You can e-mail me anytime to talk if you need to.Thrugodslove@yahoo.com

  • http://natureisnurture.net/ Cindy

    Very wise words. Sometimes forcing a relationship is far, far worse than letting it run its natural course. I spent 13 years in a marriage that really should’ve dissolved in less than 3. I spent the last 10 years of the marriage struggling to hold it together and as a result, lived every day by walking on eggshells. No wonder I developed an auto-immune condition and when my ex-husband finally did leave, I had no sense of self. Although it was extremely difficult to endure his abandonment at the time, I realize now (5 years later) that I truly wasn’t ALIVE those dyfunctional years with my ex-husband. That relationship TAUGHT me to do my best, but when your best isn’t enough, it is definitely time to let things go. With patience and time, you will attract a better person or situation – one that is more suited to your evolved self.

    And Sharon – give yourself permission to grieve deeply. Know that your husband, no matter his situation on earth, wants the best for you now. You must believe this!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment JEFF SKLUTE

    I LOST MY WIFE OF 23 YEARS AGO 3 MONTHS AGO VERY SUDDENLY. I WOULD LIKE TO SEE THE OPENING, BUT THE PAIN & LOSS IS SO GREAT. I HAD BEEN WITH HER SINCE I WAS 18 & I JUST TURNED 49 YESTERDAY. I DO HOPE I CAN SEE AN OPENING SOON. I MISS HER SO.

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment kathy

    Cindy, Your words are so comforting to me. Three weeks ago, my fiance for no reason at all, became furious with me and sent me the most horrible email ever. Of course, I was shocked and responded with a hateful email, but then had second thoughts and have tried to get in touch with him ever since, but to no avail. Before this happened, I was becoming concerned because I was noticing red flags with his contolling and possessive attitude, and bad temper – not wanting me to visit my friends and family during the week when he was at work. He was livid when I went to visit my cousin in Houston…my only living relative on earth besides my 2 daughters. After reading this article from Belief and then your comments….I have to realize that God knows a lot more about this man then I do. He was married for 34 years to a woman he described as an alcoholic who never wanted to leave the house. She passed away from cancer and I met him 8 months later. This concerned me, but he said he’d dated about 10 other women before he met me. He’s with the government and looks so good on paper and had promised me the world. We had picked out the perfect home and were planning on building a second home on 10 acres of land he has. This is just proof that everything that glitters is not gold. We could all live much more peaceful lifes if we realized just how much the Lord loves us and has a plan for each of our lifes. Thank you for helping me get past this.It’s been one of the hardest things in my life, but I’ll survive. God Bless You!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Terry

    As I read through Jennifer’s story and then the comments, two things ran through my mind: (1.) A statement made by a very dear friend of mine who said “friendships (jobs, relationships, children) are for a season, however long or however short that season may be”

    And, to those who have suffered great losses as I did when I went through an unexpected and premature empty nest experience and I thought I had no purpose left on God’s green earth to live for, I would say that God showed me this … (2.) to focus on what I had left, what I had to be thankful for and “NOT” on what I no longer had on earth, or what I had lost.

    I didn’t say it was easy…but it is possible with the support of others (family, friends, support groups, therapy, etc.) it is possible to live again and be happy. I found hope again through taking classes to reinvent myself simply because it got me to focus on my future and not on my past. We don’t possess anyone or anything while we are here on earth…we simply get to enjoy whatever time we have with them. Just know, like Jennifer said…”a window will open again” in God’s good time.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Marsha

    I needed to hear this today.. Thank u!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Joann

    Sharon,
    I am truley saddened by your recent loss. Our family went through a suicide, and to this day we all still wonder why this happened. My conclusion is that this person made the choice that they did to end their life, and we are not responsible for their choices. We are however responsible for our choices. We don’t have control over anyone or anything except ourselves. I hope you don’t feel responsible for his death in any way, and hope that you understand it was his choice to end his own life. Please think about finding a support group for suicide. You will meet wonderful, supportive people who understand what you are going through. One day at a time is a wonderful slogan I learned when I too was at my wits end.

  • http://parablestoday.blogspot.com chess

    I think it was chris rock who said sometimes we grow out of some friendships.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Martin

    There could not have been a more important quote than this one i was suppose to work a job tomorrow so i could pay the deposit on an apartment so my wife an kids could move with me, but my boss called and told me that the job was cancelled it hurt because i don’t know when i will be able to get the money, but some how it doesn’t bother me because i trust in the lord, and i know he will make away. So when i read this i knew that things would be ok. They closed that door on me but i know the lord will open many windows in my life because through him all things are possible!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Michelle

    Today,I’m feeling like I lost funding to complete my education. I have no job and it looks like God has left me! I’m searching for a window! I have faith that God knows best. I’ve gained patience!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Bambi

    I was feeling bad today. Tomorrow the 19th will be the 1yr anniversary of my husband’s death. It has gotten somewhat better for me but I’ve cried for the first 9 months. I was thinking that I wish I had a sign that things will get better and once I opened this Belief article, I got my sign. My first name is Maria and I feel like God sent this personally to me. We actually never got a chance to marry as the multiple myeloma took his life within 8 months of diagnosis. He went into remission twice and would have married. I miss him terribly but after reading this article I feel better. He’s in a good place and most important no more pain. Thank you for my inspiration to keep going.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Brenda39

    This really inspired me today. Lost my job through no fault of my own, and the arbitration also. This job is behind me and the drama that came with it. I know God will open another door for me to make it!! I thank God for his mercy and his grace…..

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Amanda

    I really want to believe this. I seem to be having an early mid-life soul crisis. I have lost my true self to my marriage, work, children and financial stress. Everytime I find a way to move forward I get knocked back. I don’t seem to be able to regain a sense of myself and who I am. I love my husband and my children are a gift but my soul is crying and I am feeling so lost. I would give anything to have a window….some sort of sign that I am more than this.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Rosemarie

    Sharon,
    I will pray for you in your devastating loss. Know that God is always there with you and will make you stronger day by day.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Teresa

    I have a messy life…
    My mom past away in a coma when i was 17 years old.
    Im married with a pair of children ,when im 23 years old.
    I am divorced in 2000 , my daughter diagnose with leukimia in 2003 ,she was 23.
    i have breast cancer ops in 2004 , my father past away November 2006 ,he has lungs cancer , my daughter past away on april 2006.
    5 months after my dad leave.I have this 2 hard hit in my life.Its a tough journey to overcome all this sorrow and put my life back to normal.
    Is always the end of the world for me in my mind.

    In the midst of this sorrow , i found back my closest friend. HE walks with me , HE talks to me , HE cries with me ,HE comfort me,HE answer my prayers, HIS name JESUS ”

    Today , im blessed with a good position in my job, with many caring friends from church and also the hospice and cancer support group.
    I feel I receive more love and care from new friends.
    I have the chance to see the world .And learn new things .

    Let bygones be bygones.
    “Treasure today and ,let yesterday be a memory , Tomorrow is always a new day full of HOPE ”
    God Bless All of You.!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Melanie

    Thanks so much for helping me get perspective. As soon as things happened today, I thought of that quote and googled it. I ran across your blog and it is so true. When one persons leaves your life they pass another coming in. Onward and upward. :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Scott

    All of these accounts are touching but especially the ones relating to widows and widowers. I am there too. I lost my wife 3 years and about 5 months ago and I questioned the wisdom of this adage for a long time because I couldn’t seem to find the window. Then I sort of figured that her death really WAS the beginning of a new journey and that searching for the window was what it was all about. So I keep looking because that is what I am supposed to do.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment peggybythesea

    I so needed to hear that right now..I am in the process of working through leaving my husband of 28 years. I don’t know if it is for good or not, i just know for now we need to be apart to heal and figure out what we want and need in our lives. It is a huge move for me but I do believe God keeps opening doors and helping me walk through them…I am fighting the fear and again He is showing me through this that I am reading that He is with me…Thank you

  • http://celie@wildonionmarket.com Celie

    I have just left an abusive situation, it is like god took my hand and led me out. It was very hard because I loved this man very much, but he was emotionally abusive to my daughter. This site has saved my life. These kinds of things make you feel very old, but with gods help you are able to see the light, I know deep in my soul that things will get better!

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