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What Are You Waiting For? Your Joy is Now!

posted by Jennifer E. Jones

A lady in waiting… That used to be me.

I spent most of my teens and 20s wanting to get married. No, I mean, really wanting to get married. Sadly, in many ways, my happiness was put on hold for years, because for some silly reason, I thought that life begins after you say “I Do”.

Now, before you give me that look of pity, I’m not the only one. This isn’t just a problem for singles. Everyone does it. Just pick whatever applies to you for this statement: “I’ll be happy after…”

  • I get a new job
  • I get a new house
  • I have more money
  • I move
  • My annoying neighbor moves

… Or something to that effect. Lots of people are waiting to be happy.

“The future is no place to place your better days” – Dave Matthews, “Cry Freedom”

It wasn’t until I was older that I learned a valuable piece of advice about happiness:

There is no final destination for being happy. There is no stage of eternal gratification where you have everything you want and you’re blissful forever and ever. It won’t happen… at least, not while you’re still alive.

When you get that thing that you’re waiting for, you’ll be happy for a while, but eventually you’ll want something something else. It’s the nature of being human. We want. It’s just something we do.

Plus, the grass isn’t greener on the other side. It’s just different grass. It still needs to be mowed. That new house will need more maintenance than your apartment. That new job will come with tougher responsibilities. And let’s not even start on how much of a major life adjustment marriage is after being single. It’s not to say your life won’t be good, but it will never be perfect and free of effort.

Like I said, a lady in waiting is what I used to be. And it’s not that I’ve given up on my dream. It’s just that it’s not the end-all-be-all of my happiness. My joy is today. My happiness is now. Whatever happens down the line will simply add to it.

Ask yourself, “What am I waiting for? For what am I postponing my happiness?” Life doesn’t begin after a certain event happens. Your life has already started. You need to catch up. So, be content today with what you have right now. Be so deliriously happy with your current situation that whatever good thing that is on the horizon will take you by surprise.

And if you’re single reading this, say “I Do” to your life. Be in love with it. Find contentment in just being you. If you need help read our new gallery: 13 Reasons to Stop Looking for Mr. Right.



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Tina

    I so identify! It seems that I am always waiting for this or that to happen so I can start living my life. I love the quote by Dave Matthews! So true! I am still learning and growing. I like to think one is never too old to be new! I have let my fears rule my life and keep me prisoner for far too long. Thanks for this inspiring piece. I really needed it today!

  • http://Perfectain'tgoingtohappen-enjoythisminute Mike

    I am a Gerontologist (say what?)
    You know, like geriatrics…..I work with Senior Citizens. I listen to life stories on a continious basis. Some good, some bad, some a completely wasted life. “We wanted to have children, then we had children, and so we waited till the children were gone then we were going to start living. Then we waited for my husband to retire, then we waited for me to retire and we saved money, save save save. And then when we had the money we were going to live. But then he got sick, and we waited for that to pass then he had a stroke, and now I take care of him, and we are not going anywhere – a n y w h e r e.

    Live starting the minute you finish this. Call your mom, tell you you love her. Write your wife a love note. Send your best 3 friends a naughty e-mail. Call a talk radio station and be glad today to be alive. Have a bath with candles all around the tub, with your favorite incense. Give your husband a back scratch. You are going to have to exercise your mind cause you are probably out of practice.

    But move, do something, even if it is to give the dog a scratching.The TV will get along just fine without you for a night, a week, the rest of your life. Life is not certain, you could die in an hour or 20 years. Share a smile, share a soda, share – YOU.

    Today is the first day of the rest of your life – enjoy it.= Move

    Ken Williams – San Antonio

    plus remember Don’t just “Have a Nice Day” go out and make it a Great Day.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment shut-eye-doll

    How many of us are like the kids who when they leave the driveway on a 1,000 mile journey start the familiar refrain, “are we there yet,”? Yes, the there is right here. It’s the journey that’s the destination. There is no other destination as Dorothy finds out in “The WIzard of Oz.”

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment catch 22

    All my life I have lived for helping others in some way or another. I stayed in a bad, no love marriage for my 2 sons to grow up having 2 parents & a good life. Now they are gone & I’m divorced. Now I’m a at home care taker for my 91yr old Mom. It’s a 24/7 job, I never leave the property. My cat & horse are my best friends. I dream of the day I have someone strong in my life to give me a reason to live. I can’t have a life till God takes Mom, but no one wants their Mom to pass on. So now I find myself waiting for some sign from God as to a dirrection in life. I’m tired of waiting, but find no other way of life right now. So sitting here reading your thoughts, hoping for that miracle in life. “Belief” gives me the inspiration to keep going.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Roe

    I’m lucky my parents were able take us places–we went fishing alot and to Omaha to go shopping. After I was married and had four children my husband passed away from cancer-but we had fun toghether and have lots of good memories that help ease the pain. My parents have been gone for a while too–I tell my kids if it don’t affect you right now don’t worrry about it. Live Laugh Love

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Your Name

    This is a great reminder to me as well. To live for this day and experience joy in the present moment of where I am along the road of life. I have end stage heart failure and reside in an assisted living area at a Veterans Home. Days can be tough and a challenge yet this brief article says much to me. I am here and this is my life so why not enjoy the joy I have today.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment kathleen m peterson

    Rember this,if you wake up in the morning and are able to walk on ground ,its a good day!!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kat

    Thanks for the message my husband passed away nine years ago this month a
    And I had two sons 16 and 14 years old so
    I worked and raised them and I’m still helping
    Them . Now I’m try to find out where I go ,
    So I just stay home or body family I know there
    More out there for me

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kath

    Last year after 26 yrs of marriage, my husband left. Our youngest was finally on his own, life was going to begin, except it didnt. Not for me. But then something strange happened. I started to do what I wanted to for a change. I had an opportunity to go traveling last summer with a wonderful man I had just met. Normally I would have said, Oh no I cant do that. Well guess what? I did. I had the most amazing time. And from now on, that’s what I’m doing, things that make ME HAPPY. and I’m a better person for it.
    Kath

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Your Name

    May God always at my side,always,so i will always be safe,whereever,whoever i am with,this is my only prayer,amen.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Edna

    When Life deals you lemons, throw them back & Demand Chocolate! I chose to be happy, no matter what life deals me!

  • http://EnjoyingtheJourney! Sharon

    What a wonderful article to start a fabulous day!! Today I pursue a job once again. Unemployed for the first time in my life, very little money to get by on, two boys that are grown but still need my help in this bad economy and I just broke off a relationship that was disturbing my peace and joy. Finally, I lost my dad two weeks ago. A lot to muster huh? I could choose the path to dwell in self pity, anger, resentment, worry and despair. What good would that do? It’s not going to get me a job any sooner or bring me instant happiness. I choose to trust the Lord with all my faith and let Him guide me to where He wants to place me. In the mean time? I enjoy my journey!! I’m a marathon runner so I run a lot, study scripture and teachings, job apps and make sure my home is in order. If you really think about it, that’s a lot! Telling you my dear friends, everyday situations are tough and they challenge our faith. Walk straight into any situation knowing you have the Almighty backing you 100%! Never give up!! I’m not where I need to be yet but I’m certainly not where I was either!

    Love and peace to all. Make this the best day of your life!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Michelle

    Wow….this is a great! I can relate to this. Year and a half out of a bad marriage. Married for 20 years, not happy for a majority of those years. Tried to wait until my son was out of high school as to not affect him. Not realizing that being in the bad marriage was probably affecting him more. Was always thinking to myself, when this happens I will be happy, when that happens I will be happy. I have had a lot of anxiety and fear in my life waiting to be happy. Now things are a lot better. I try to live everyday in the moment, being greatful for what I have and appreciating all the little things in life that used to go unnoticed. I am now blessed to have a wonderful new man in my life. He has showed me that it is possible to have a healthy relationship. It is the most wonderful feeling to have someone on your side, and be able to have fun with, talk to, and enjoy every moment together. I am starting to believe that we have to go through certain things in life to appreciate the next thing we are given. Have a great day everyone! :)

  • http://AfterreadingthisarticleIrealizedmyhappinesssiswithinmyself.Notalwayslookinforsomeone2 Martha

    I can relate 2 this article about the grass being greener.My daughter father left us after 11 years 2 c if the grass was greener. Little 2 his surprise the grass wilthered. The Lord immediately bacame THE MAN in my life. Yes I want companionship desperately but in due season God will supply my need he always have. The joy of the lord is my strenghth. Be Patient Ladies God has that speciaL GUY PICKED OUT FOR U.

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  • http://INAFEWWORDS K.D

    Happiness is nothing but a matter of attitude .All you have to do is make one of two choices be sad or be happy and the choice is yours and only yours.
    Think about it .
    This was a great article since we all loose track sometimes and forget about the realities and end up living only dreams .
    God bless you all .

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Beth

    I started out with an unhappy childhood, my mother has scizophrenia and my father joined seventhday adventism to survive. They divorced, I have a sister and 2 brothers. None of us are in the religion. I went on to a bad relationship in high school, but found my husband through that. I made some bad mistakes that I couldn’t let go of for the longest time. Then I realized that they gave me my compassion for the people I treat. I am now married with one son. He is my greatest joy, I have a good job as a dental hygienist its not perfect but it is good. I deal with alot of welfare patients. but when I treat them I look at it as a positive way to touch their lives. Many of them are like broken souls who never have been shown any real love or compassion. I want to go on to do more I want to invent my own dental products and help more people in a positive way… But I think I will always do some clinical practice it really allows you to interact with people and touch their life even though I’m treating their mouth the person sometimes just needs someone to listen…It makes me happy to know I made a positive impact on them..

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment teresa

    I so needed this story today I just experienced the same thing waiting on my answer and I didn’t get the one I want and reading this passage I will do just that be happy and whatever may falls my way then so be it

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Jacqueline Kennedy

    I am glad to read all of the stories. It helps to know people are struggling with the same problems I face. I have been told to start living now. I really don’t understand why I don’t. I guess with all I have been through it’s easy to get a foggy reading. A book I just read the author mentions that Jesus was on his way to meet up with the powerful Roman Empire. He had to go through the mud on his donkey to get there the people laid down their palm trees for him to get to the city. This is something to consider I guess in life we have to go through the mud, but Jesus is there with us to the other side.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Donna

    I like many others have heard this @church, therapy, thru a friend, etc. As an American consumer I need to hear this again and again. Thanks for the reminder.

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