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A ‘Dear John’ Letter to Jon Gosselin

posted by Ellen Leventry

jongosselinedhardy.jpgDear Jon,
Once upon a time, I sympathized with you, cringed with you as Kate commanded your every movement (to the point of telling you not to breathe so loudly) and browbeat your every decision. With reports of Kate off on extended book tours while you tended to the brood, it looked as if things remained status quo, but then came the nagging rumors of an impending separation. When the confirmation came, I expected you to do what you had always done, continue with the lovably-schlubby, laid-back caring father routine to which we had all become accustomed.
Sure, you spoke of new-found freedom and had two brand new hard-not-to-notice diamond studs in your ears, but I didn’t expect you to be traipsing around Saint-Tropez with your new girlfriend, Hailey Glassman, the daughter of the plastic surgeon who performed Kate’s tummy tuck, mere weeks after splitting with Kate. OK, so you’ve moved on, and perhaps you’ve been moved on for a while as all the tabloids have been reporting, but maybe you could keep it under wraps for a bit. Ya know, for the kids.
And now, after many protestations of wanting to reclaim some privacy, you sign a deal with Ed Hardy designer Christian Audigier to create your own line of children’s clothing. The kids are signed on to model, natch. I had noticed you sporting M. Audigier’s bombastic, Hollywood scenester-wear in recent episodes and in the pics in the magazines, but I simply put it down to dirty laundry and lots of free swag, not some cliche post-divorce player awakening. (By the way, I think Ed Hardy has officially jumped the shark with this move.)


Had you still been the washed out polo shirt wearing dad that I remember, I might have entertained the purchase of say some Jon Garanimals. But over-priced, vintage-y, kids t-shirts designed by a former IT worker? I think I’d rather buy Kate’s book.
Remember when it seemed Kevin Federline was the reasonable parent, the sympathetic caretaker of Sean Preston and Jayden James, compared to Britney. Now remember how he quickly blew that image? I’m getting that same feeling with you, Jon.
Sincerely,
A Former Fan
Jon and Kate Plus 8 at LocateTV.com



  • http://minemac minemac

    Jon has quickly shown that he is the ‘Peter Pan’ in this relationship, the ‘forever child’ of the family. Good luck, wife number 2!!!!

  • FRUG

    YES JON I’M VERY SADDENED BY YOUR TURN-AROUND I USED TO FEEL SORRY THE WAY KATE PUT YOU DOWN, BUT NOW I ONLY FEEL SORRY FOR THE KIDS IMAGINE HAVING A PLAYBOY DAD, AND A MAN CHASING SKANK FOR A MOM. PITY, PITY, PITY………………… FRUG 7-15- 10:08 AM

  • Ex-Fan

    I can only say I’m completely saddened by all this. Jon portrayed himself to be a loving father, a loving husband KNOWING how Kate was when he married her, then, when money and freebies came into his life, bam….he wants *freedom*, and is having his midlife crisis infront of the world all at the expense of his CHILDREN. And now he still wants to use his children for a line of clothing? Are you KIDDING ME? You KNEW how Kate’s personality was when you MARRIED HER, you never complained before. How sad……your love of money destroyed the lives of 8 innocent children. They’re now one more statistic in the world of divorced parents. What exactly is your reasoning for leaving Kate??? She was only being who she is by nature, and you AGREED to marry her being very aware of her strong personality. You were CONTENT in your life with her and the children UNTIL the almighty dollar sign and *audience* of young women came into your life. Shame on you Jon, shame on you for falling for the most selfish sin there is……*greed*. What will you think of yourself 30 years from now?

  • What were you thinking

    Jon,
    Basically you need to get a reality check and stop being a heathen.
    You need to go back to God

  • Your Name

    It takes two to tangle. My opinion Kate’s personality and attitude she always thought what I saw of the show that she was better then anybody else. They way she treated people and embarrassed them on national T.V. she should take a long look in the mirrow of herself. She embarrassed the house cleaning people, where if she used God’s sense she would of taken the person aside and talked to her privately. Like she can clean her home any better. Jon is no better. Money is their God they way it seems. It states in the Bible; that Money is the work of all evil. I believe Kate and Jon are both responsible for their own actions and both of them their love of money destroyed their marriage. The truth hurts, but as I mentioned above it takes two. Shame on them both. I no longer watch the show. I feel sadden and sorry for these 8 innocent children. My heart goes out to the 8 innocent children. Judge Ye Not!

  • TERI button

    Jon made up Kate having an affair. That makes him a real scumbag liar.

  • No Longer a Fan

    Jon:
    I understand that Kate is very aggressive and her tone was not appropriate in many episodes; however, you are the Head of Household and if Taming of the Shrew was necessary, you should have done so. I am not interested in watching the show any longer. I seriously doubt that I will be purchasing any of your clothing line either. What a sad turnout! May the Lord be with the children!

  • someone who loves God

    I use to watch your show and think that you were the all american kind of family. After what has happened though I see that you both are know different than all the money hungry people out there. You both need to let God be number one in your life and let Him straighten out the mess you both have made. You have 8 little miracles that God gave you and they don’t need to suffer what they will because of there selfish parents. I’m praying that God will help you open your eyes and see what you have done through your kids eyes.Believer.

  • Your Name

    Wow Jon it seems as though everyone used to be on your side and feel badly for you, but now I wonder what was going on all along to make Kate behave like she did. It’s not all Kate, that’s for sure. Your clothes line is a serious no for me, but would I buy Kate’s books oh yeah, and her clothes line yes. You have made all the Kate haters out there now be on her team and not so much you any more. May God help your children.

  • Kizzy

    I think that both you, Jon and Kate should just wrap it up. I am as tired of seeing you both in the headlines, as you are being in them. Those poor kids. Just proves everyones point – – – you were both in it for the money afterall. TLC – – – cancel this ridiculous show. Nobody cares anymore. These kids are being taken through the wringer for their parents money profits!

  • TC

    HEY JON YOU DID THE WOMEN OF THE WORLD A FAVOR FOR ONCE WE ARE BEING ALERTED TO A CHEATER AND A LIAR THEY BOTH GO TOGETHER. WOMEN BEWARE THIS MAN IS A PLAYER I HAVE SEEN ENOUGH OF THEM TO KNOW. THIS TYPE OF A MAN IS A BAD INFLUENCE TO HIS MALE CHILDREN. HE IS NOT TEACHING HIS BOYS TO RESPECT WOMEN AT ALL. ANOTHER THING JON WHAT’S WITH THE ATTITUDE IT WAS FINE FOR HER TO TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING. THEN WHEN THE MONEY ROLLED IN WHERE WERE YOU? YOU WERE THERE WITH YOU HAND OUT.
    NOW YOU ARE SELLING THE CHILDREN OUT. AT FIRST IT WAS UNDERSTANDABLE SIX CHILDREN ARE EXPENSIVE TO RAISE. I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW MUCH OF THIS MONEY IS ALLOCATED TO THE CHILDREN FOR THEIR FUTURE???? I BELIEVE KATE WAS TRYING TO DO HER BEST AS A MOM TO PROVIDE FOR THE CHILDREN. WHILE SHE WAS CONSTANTLY BEING JUDGED WHERE WERE YOU WHEN SHE NEEDED YOU TO STAND UP FOR HER. NO WONDER SHE YELLED AT YOU-YOU WERE DEAF TO HER NEEDS. I HOPE KATE REALIZES SHE IS MUCH BETTER WITHOUT YOU DRAGGING HER DOWN. KATE WAS JUST TRYING TO BE A GOOD MOM AND WAS OVERWHELMED. SHE NEEDED YOU THERE-SHE SHOULD HAVE NEVER HAD TO YELL FOR YOUR HELP. YOU CAN’T GO THROUGH LIFE WITH BLINDERS ON JON. YOU OWE KATE RESPECT FOR ALL SHE HAS DONE FOR YOU IN GIVING YOU THOSE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN. YOU ARE THE CLASSIC CHEATER WHO GOES AROUND DESTROYING WOMENS SELF ESTEEM. MAY GOD BLESS THE CHILDREN THEY ARE THE INNOCENT ONES. WHY DIDN’T YOU GO BACK TO WORK INSTEAD OF WHINING ABOUT EVERYTHING. IT WOULD HAVE WORKED OUT SOMEHOW-DON’T BLAME KATE WHEN YOU COULD HAVE OPENED YOUR MOUTH AND SAID SOMETHING LONG AGO.

  • Damester

    Never been a fan of either of the Gosselins.
    Never thought I might even say anything to defend either one.
    But listen, it’s Jon’s life. And why does he now have to hide when he’s separated and awaiting divorce?
    First of all, he couldn’t hide if he wanted to given the media following them. (and who do we blame for that folks? If the media didn’t snap the photos, publish the info…)
    As for making deals, he knows he needs money. And if you condemn him for making money off the kids back, well, Kate has been doing that for quite a long time.
    This family was doomed when those six kids came along. Nobody wants to say that, nobody wants to hear that.
    If you remember the history, John didn’t even want a third child but, once again, Kate pestered and pestered and pushed. Sure, you say, he could just have said no. Frankly, if he even could and be heard, she’d have probably gone behind his back and had the treatments.
    He got married young to a woman who probably appealed to him, on some level, for her drive. You cannot tell before you are married how that will turn on you (ASK the others who’ve been thru it). If he ever had any confidence, she whipped it out of him. And this is what you get.
    Funny that he is criticized for going out and about while when they were still together, Kate did same thing and was praised. You’re gone, you’re gone. Your kids don’t care where you are or who you are with.
    Frankly, I worry more about the kids being alone with Kate and no mitigating force (Jon’s sense of play and goofiness is something kids need) against her rules, gloom and doom.
    She is overwhelmed and always has been. Both of them pretended like crazy that they were OK with all those kids. Neither ever was and it’s the elephant in the room that people won’t address.
    Someday those kids are going to be upset with their parents. But NOT for the reality show exposure. But for the reality of this “family” that one parent pushed and one parent ultimately toppled the cart because of her “greed” for lack of better word to have another child, even knowing the risks (She’s a nurse, for goodness sake. Not the stupid octomom. Kate should have known better.)
    For every one who praises this family for keeping the kids, etc. I say: Look at the result. Divorce. Dissollution of a familly.
    People need to be more responsible. Period.
    In today’s world, having that many kids, no matter how you get them, unless you are rich to begin with, is a recipe for disaster for all.
    I have tons of friends who would have loved to have had more than one kid. But they knew financially and otherwise that the could not do it.
    What ever happened to personal responsibility and discipline? Family PLANNING. This is what you get when you don’t have it. Sad but infinitely avoidable.

  • Illinois viewer

    I’ve watched this family from day one,and laughed and cried with them. I think the children will adjust to what ever comes their way. They seem to be happy,and really don’t know any other life style. It needs to be explained to them what is going on and that both parents love them and will always be there for them. As for Jon and Kate, I wish them both well in the future. I hope they find peace in their lives. It’s too bad their lives have been exposed to the whole world.. Everyone judges.. God has a plan for them…

  • Charm

    Well, really, people, what did you expect? You made your monsters.

  • kathlyn

    Im very sadden about the whole story. Watched the show since the beginnig.But the truth of the matter is that the ones who are really hurt from it are the beautiful kids.I really hope and pray that Jon and Kate get back together. Because people do make mistakes,and everyone desever a second chance.

  • Bobbie

    I have always been a fan of this show and I believe there are 3 sides to tell, his side, her side and the truth. i also believe everyone has some secret that they wouln’t want to air. So jon good luck on your new life and kate good luck to you. the children will be fine.

  • LAUREEN HARRIS

    kate is responsible for this families demies, she should have loved her husband as much as the children and let him think he was the provider. She took his man hood away from him ever show in one way or another. She never figured out how to make her husband feel like all the decisions were his when in fact they were hers.
    She belittled him in front everyone all the time. God does not like ugly she created this mess and instead of fighting for her marriage vows and changing her behavior she splits and runs. What church does she got to???????? Marriage is work kate give and take all you do is want to take and now you don’t like it shame on you.

  • Your Name

    Was the hawaii renewal of vows a joke. I believe it you said kate that it was a promise to your kids that you and jon would always be together.
    Money can be a distroyer of families if you let it. You love the money. You both need to go to a room and remember why you fell in love in the first place and start treating each other with respect. I used to love your show except for the moments you would treat a wonderful husband like a dog. Give up control for one day really give it up, you will have a lot less stress kate marriage is not about control.

  • bird

    She looks like a “KATE GONE BAD”

  • Desiree

    Come on…let’s get real here. Jon was brow-beaten by that witch for years. If he wants to go out with his girlfriend…so what. Give him a break….

  • Leggins

    I am so disappointed in Jon. Okay, Kate seemed a little controlling at times with him. Can you blame her? All he wanted to do was play, meet famous people, get whatever he could for free. Shame on him for portraying her as exploiting the kids…she is trying to bring in an income that will comfortably provide for 8 children, which trust me, he couldn’t do. I admire her. She loves and nutures those kids and it shows. She’ll be there for them and what goes around comes around. The kids will grow up and guess what? They will be able to see just what a womanizer, cheating, uncaring father he really is. Go Kate! Your kids will respect you forever!

  • Your Name

    If you are a Kate Hater, please watch re-runs of earlier shows. It’s clear that from the beginning, Jon was a slacker who couldn’t think his way out of a paper bag. He has no parenting, organizational or planning skills. I hear he’s pretty good at partying and taking vacations though. Way too laid back to handle eight kids. He dumped all that responsibility on Kate as well as her being the main breadwinner. He chose to become a whiney weiner rather than rising to the task of raising a family.

  • Can’t blame Kate

    Really? You all want to blame Kate for Jon deciding to date? Have you ever been in a cheating relationship? I liked Jon and also Kate. Jon is the fool who decided his needs exceeded those of his entire family. He parading around with nasty girls, smiling big and appearing happy as a lark. To prove his dedication to fatherhood of such a large brood he bought a nice 2 seater car, motorcycle and has moved out of town. Nice guy -keep it up. I’m sure your family is happy to see you enjoy spending your time with half naked college aged party potheads -ya Dad shows alot of respect for your family, certainly proves you have a body part that is more important than your marriage. Get him off the show.

  • Agalag

    Jon:
    Now we all know why Kate was such a nag. You seem to be immature, selfish and full of baloney. You complained about the paparazzi following you around-now it seems not to bother you quite so much. Jon, you have eight children–perhaps you should get your act together for their sakes. 22 year old women? Give it a rest Gosselin. Grow up and get a job!

  • Your Name

    Really??? Is this any of our business? How would any of us feel if our lives were posted all over the tv and internet. I do not think any of us have any room to judge either Jon or Kate for thier actions. We are not in thier shoes. We’re all human, and different situations affect everyone differently. Sounds like alot of people on this board need to get a life!! How poignant your lives must be, to feel good about pointing out other peoples problems when you know you have your own to worry about.

  • Mary

    That last statement was mine. And by the way…I didn’t think that children of God were supposed to judge. Isn’t that His job?!!

  • Your Name

    I can’t figure something out. If they were having trouble with their marriage why did they repeat their vows and had a second honeymoon in Hawaii with the 8 kids. All I can say it must be nice to have a second honeymoon. I just wish I had my first. I know that she said on one of the shows that her or Jon didn’t have to pay for anything. Even her dress was given to her. I do realize that everything change has after they move into the house and it got worst when they got the dogs for the kids. I just that the kids will not be hurt by this. Jon needs to GROW UP before the kids do.

  • Kathleen

    Jon, i think you need to get a REAL J.O.B. in the R.E.A.L. world and cut the crap!!!!!
    but, i THINK YOU are BOTH WRONG- there is a thing called marraige counseling. and then family counseling! it seems you have both put the cart before the horse!!!!!BUT …..i THINK i’D BE JUST AS CRAZY HAVING CAMERA’S AND PEOPLE AND SO MANY LOVELY CHILDREN IN MY LIFE! i will continue to think of you all! you used to make me smile- now i worry for you all!!!!!! I’ll be quiet now and just keep wishing you all an ameable reconcilliation!!!!!!!!May God Bless you & yours !

  • jacket

    Who’s Ed Hardy? Does this website http://www.edhardyguide.com trusty?

  • silvia cabral

    I’m trying to understand where do you stand spiritually,a true family man fights to keep his family together,matures along with his mate and sets an example for his children to see. Marriage is not something that you just walk away from and decides that you don’t want it anymore. I thought you were somewhat a man of a promise to your mate til death do you apart. THINK OF YOUR CHILDREN, YOU ARE VERY SELFISH. CANNOT BELIEVE YOU ARE DESTROYING YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY. HOPE YOU ARE PRAYING TO GOD FOR WISDOM, YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANOTHER FAMILY LIKE THE ONE YOU ALREADY HAVE. IF YOU ARE A TRUE MAN, YOU WILL SURRENDER AND COMMIT TO YOUR DUTIES AS A FAMILY MAN. I could see why Kate had to wear the pants all the time. GROW-UP your kids need you both together. they are not puppies to be going back and forth between the two of you. I know what is like to go back and forth. I experienced this as a child and I hated doing it.

  • KTL

    I too was a Jon Gosselin fan and although I have never met these people I am genuinely hurt and upset over the way hes acting and portraying himself with his children most definitely going into stores and seeing there father on the cover of magazines with ‘moms friends’, 22 yr old daughter.He even stated in People magazine that he wants to take another vacation, very soon, only this time privately, so you meant for the media to be in on this one? You invited them on this trip? Thats all this family does is vacation, I am 32, I haven’t been on vacation since I was 12, nor have my children, 12 and 7, ever seen a beach with sand. Something is truly wrong here. I feel bothered by this when I wasn’t before, ‘Dear Jon’, well-put…………

  • Gladys Williams

    Dear Jon,
    How disappointed I was in you when you chose the 22 year old over Kate. It seems the things that you loved in Kate are now the things that you despise in her. She is a strong woman and she picks up your slack a lot. You needed her. Now you have this 22 year old that you will have to raise along with your kids. She will not love your children as Kate will. She will love what the show and the kids give to her, such as fame, money and their dad, but she will never love you like Kate does, enough to give you eight loving children. Cant you love her for that? Wrong move Jon, wrong move!

  • Ray

    Many people do not understand what a man goes through until they’ve walked in his shoes. So many are ready to jump in to help the woman when she struggles but it seems the man gets left on his own to figure it out. Thanks! No really, thanks! So easy to condemn. Congrats. Yeah, he is making bad moves. Who can he trust? Who can he turn to? Where are his friends? As a man, we’re supposed to figure it out on our own; while we’re hurting inside with guilt and shame and embarrassment. We failed. You’re a failure. Who cares about that? We want comfort and what we get, depending on our situation, vulture opportunists. Wonderful. How far do we have to fall before we’re allowed to heal? How much life gets sucked out of us while we’re trying to find our way back?

  • Your Name

    I see that everyone is putting down Jon. Now I agree here that he has done very wrong in this situation, but I feel that he is getting the raw end of the deal. It takes two to make a marriage work, and I think he has felt very belittled more than once on this show. Kate always acted like he was some kind of an idiot. What about Kate taking off with her body guard on a vacation in a 10,000 dollar a week house? Where did the body guard sleep? I just think there are two sides to every coin, ie, marriage. I think Jon is just doing what men do, and that is finding a much younger gal to play with.
    Just my opinion, Diana

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