Heart of the Soul

Heart of the Soul

How Would Your Life Be Different?

posted by Jodi Chapman

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How would your world be different if you suspended disbelief – just for a single moment? If you allowed yourself to open your heart to miracles and believe that the world is a magical place.

How would your life be different if you walked through your day imagining that every person you came in contact with was there to support you? What if you imagined that they were messengers of love – coming to fill your day with positivity?

How would your life be different if you focused on what was working rather than what wasn’t? If you focused on the good rather than the bad. If you focused on the abundance rather than the lack.

How would your life be different if you stopped pushing yourself endlessly – if you simply allowed yourself to be? If you went a little easier on yourself and saw how wonderful of a human being and loving soul you truly were? If you saw yourself in the way that someone who loves you dearly saw you. If you gave yourself permission to rest, relax, and play.

How would your life be different if you allowed yourself to believe – at a very deep level – that you were so very loved? That the universe was infinitely loving and you were always cherished.

How would your life be different if you gave people the benefit of the doubt – if you listened before judging and breathed before reacting? If you assumed that others were coming from a place of love, and that if it didn’t feel that way in a certain moment, it was just because of a misunderstanding – one that could be worked out.

How would your life be different if you allowed yourself to live in faith rather than fear? If you allowed yourself to believe that you are always taken care of and that it was truly okay to move forward without knowing the outcome. It was truly okay to surrender your fear and welcome faith.

How would your life be different if you embraced each day rather than dreaded it? If you woke up excited and grateful rather than seeing each moment as a chore and something to just get through.

How would your life be different if you spoke up and allowed yourself to be heard rather than shying away and hiding in the background? If you stepped into the light and stood proudly in your own essence.

How would your life be different if you allowed yourself to be exactly who you are? Not who you think you should be. Who you actually are. If you accepted this person and loved this person and welcomed this person to shine.

How do you think your life would be different? 

I have a feeling it would be pretty amazing. I have a feeling it would be a life filled with love, light, truth, faith, hope, trust, and gratitude. 

And I have a feeling that this life is something that’s available to each of us at any moment.

It’s all up to us. It’s always been up to us.

Are you ready to allow your life to be just a little bit different?

Hugs,

Jodi

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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Is Your Routine Healthy?

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Jodi Chapman - ChangeAs I was cooking lunch the other day, I started thinking about how I tend to eat the same basic things – there’s definitely not a huge variety of ingredients. I guess I’m a creature of habit. I like my routine, and I get comfortable making the same recipes.

As I was making my veggie pasta, I was thankful that the foods that I tend to eat over and over again are nutritious. It’s not realistic to expect that I’m going to change drastically and start trying all sorts of new foods and cook different recipes each day. But what is realistic is to make sure that the foods I eat most often (my “routine” foods) are healthy and feel good in my body. The most common foods that I eat are: coconut (oil, milk, flour), brown rice (flour, pasta, crackers), green veggies (kale, spinach, zucchini, etc.), nutritional yeast, and eggs.

And I realized that I could apply this to other areas in my life other than food. While I have a wide circle of friends, I tend to keep a small handful in my inner circle. Just like with my food, I’m pretty picky about who I will let in. With my food I make sure my body feels good after I eat it, and with my friends I make sure my heart and soul feel good after spending time with them.

Most of us like our routines. We find something that works for us, and we tend not to deviate too far from it. 

But how often are our routines chosen unconsciously? How often are they chosen because maybe they felt good at one point but no longer feel good (such as eating processed foods or being in a circle of friends that no longer nourish you)?

I would love for each of us to look at our day-to-day habits (from what we eat, to who we hang out with, and how we spend our time) and really ask ourselves if they are healthy for us right now in this moment. Are they feeding our body and/or our soul? If so, that’s great! Keep them, nurture them, and love them. If not, though, it may be time to change them. To honor our natural inclination to fall into a routine and to make sure that our routine feels good and feels healthy.

Most of us follow a similar routine each and every day – we’re creatures of habit. And rather than going against our natural inclination, why not just make sure our routines fill us up and help us live the life we want to live!

That’s what I’m going to remain conscious of, and I invite you to do the same.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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What If You Smiled More?

posted by Jodi Chapman

imagesI haven’t been getting enough sleep. I’ve been going to bed later and waking up earlier. I’ve been dreaming about work projects and waking up thinking about my checklist. I even woke myself (and my husband) up the other night when I sat up and screamed (most likely about something work related).

One of the effects this lack of sleep has had on me is that I wake up grumpy. Really grumpy. I wake up thinking about how everything that I have to do is taking me away from the one thing that I long to do: sleep.

And I truly don’t want to go through life in this way. I don’t want to be among the many, many sweet souls who are walking through life in a daze because they are so overworked and so overstimulated and so over it all that they just can’t imagine doing anything more than putting one foot in front of the other in order to just make it through another day.

I want to feel joyful again. I want to embrace my life again. I want to get a full night’s sleep again.

This morning, I woke up in the grumpiest mood yet. My body didn’t want me to get out of bed, but my brain was already awake and reminding me of all that I needed to do. “No time to sleep,” it told me. “There’s just too much to do.”

So I got up and staggered out of the bedroom and into the day ahead.

Somewhere in the midst of this fog of sleepiness – somewhere between the bedroom and the bathroom – I heard a voice inside that said:

“What if you smiled more?” 

In a perfect world, I would say that it stopped me in my tracks – that I immediately heeded this wisdom, put on a big fat smile, did a little dance around the house, and embraced the day with open arms.

That’s not exactly what happened. In fact, that’s not even close to what happened.

I continued for the next couple of hours in my grumpy state. I continued to think about all that I needed to do and how there just wasn’t enough time for it. I continued to worry that I was just one person and that I had more on my plate than one person could handle. I continued to walk around in a bad, bad mood.

And then, while in the shower, I heard this voice loud and clear again with the same message:

“What if you smiled more?” 

This time, I listened. I didn’t act on it right away, but I listened. And I thought about it. What if I did smile more? How would my day change? How would my mood change? How would my life change?

I’ve read studies before where participants were asked to smile, and their moods instantly improved. Something about the physiological response that the upward face muscles signal to the brain – causing it to react to happiness – actually causes you to feel happy.

So I tried it. It felt ridiculous to smile when I was in such a bad mood, but I did it.

I smiled. And I smiled some more. And some more. 

And my bad mood began to shift. My grumpiness began to dissipate. 

Yes, I was still tired. And yes, I still had a mountain of tasks ahead of me.

But I was happier. I was more joyful. I felt lighter.

All because of a smile.

What I found is that my “Okay, fine, I’ll try this, but I don’t have to like it” smile quickly turned into a genuine, “I really have so much to be grateful for in this moment” smile. My mood elevated, and my perspective shifted.

It’s so amazing how something so seemingly small as a smile can turn our entire life around. 

I definitely think that’s something to smile about.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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Four Words to Free Your Soul

posted by Jodi Chapman

Jodi  Chapman - People PleaserFor many years, I lived my life with fear in the back of my mind that if I did something, wrote something, said something, or acted in some way, someone would be mad at me or not approve of me or think negatively of me.

So I tried to gauge my next steps based on who would be happy and who would approve. I always second-guessed each decision, never wanting to rock the boat, always wanting everyone to like me.

I wonder if you can relate. I would imagine that you could. We want others to approve of who we are and what we’re doing and how we’re doing it. We want to be loved.

And so we live our lives committed to pleasing everyone because when they are pleased, they will approve of us, praise us, and love us.

It makes so much sense that we would live our lives in this way – who wouldn’t want to feel loved?

But what I realized is the cost of getting this love was absolutely exhausting. Even though I tried very hard to not upset anyone, I found that I still would. While it was rare, I would sometimes receive phone calls from angry people saying that I didn’t do x, y, and z quickly enough or well enough or in the right way. I would receive emails saying that I wasn’t soulful enough or caring enough or loving enough.

Hearing these criticisms would devastate me. But I was determined to not give up – I knew that if I just tried a little bit harder, I would still be able to please them. I knew I could eventually make them see my side and “win them over.”

And sometimes I could. But oftentimes I couldn’t.

Eventually I learned four words that were powerful enough to change my life:

You can’t please everyone.

Wow, right?

Whew!

This was huge! It meant that no matter how hard I tried to be good enough and likable enough, there would always be someone that I couldn’t please. I realized that it was absolutely pointless to spend this much energy on what others may or may not think of me. It was exhausting to care so much about their approval.

This realization helped me focus more on nurturing the relationships with others who loved and understood me rather than expending so much of my energy on trying to win over those who didn’t.

These four words have allowed me to live in the best way that I know how, to make decisions based on what I think is best – rather than living in fear of what others will think or how others will respond to each choice that I made.

It’s so freeing to realize that no matter how hard we work at trying to make everyone fall absolutely in love with us and absolutely in love with our ideas and absolutely in love with how we live our life, there are going to be some who just don’t see it the way we see it. There are going to be some who do take offense and who get angry and who get hurt and who criticize. And that’s okay. Because it just means that these aren’t the people who are meant to hear our message. It just means that these aren’t the people who are supposed to be walking side-by-side on this journey with us. It just means that they are on a different path.

And now, I’ve realized that it’s okay. It may be that I’m older. It may be that I’m wiser. Or it may be that I’m just a bit more exhausted after years of trying to please so many others. Whatever the reason, I’m happily hanging up my People Pleasing hat and walking away from even trying to make everyone happy. I already feel lighter and freer!

I would love for all of us to embrace these four words – to really take them into our soul. To feel the freedom that comes with them. Especially those of us who feel that pleasing others and wanting their approval is as common as breathing. This realization feels like a big, relaxing exhale.

You will never please everyone.

Ever. And that’s a good thing. It’s a great thing. It’s an amazing thing.

It’s a freeing thing. It’s everything.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook   ♥   Angel Fund    ♥   Free Ebook

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