Heart of the Soul

Heart of the Soul

A New Lease on Life

posted by Jodi Chapman

Jodi Chapman - Let it GoI used to think that if I opened the floodgates to any painful emotion (fear, anger, sadness, etc.) that the pain would never stop gushing out. Because of this belief, I did my best to stuff the emotions down – to never feel them at all.

I remember a group therapy session I was in when I was 19. I had been having a really hard time coming to terms with being abused as a child, and I couldn’t imagine ever “going there” and allowing the feelings of betrayal and sadness and fear and anger and shame and yuck to come to the surface. I thought that if I just continued to smile and pretend like everything was okay, eventually it would be.

Except my body wasn’t cooperating. I was losing weight. My heart was constantly racing. I was having a hard time sleeping and eating. It felt like it was completely falling apart.

My therapist asked me to yell at the top of my lungs – scream at the man who had hurt me. Allow all of the pain that had been stuck inside my body for years to come out. He wanted me to throw a ball at the face that I drew of my abuser onto a cardboard box. He wanted me to get angry.

I quietly whispered that I was angry. I quietly said that it wasn’t okay what happened. I nervously laughed to the other group members and even posed for a candid picture of me smiling next to the image that I drew (below).

While I left that session feeling discouraged and wishing I had been able to free myself of these painful emotions, I did begin to let them come out years later. I bravely began to release the tight grip I had over this pain and slowly allowed it to come to the surface, be expressed, and leave my body for good.

What I realized during these extremely painful and absolutely exhausting moments of release was that the pain did eventually stop. It wasn’t the bottomless pit that I had feared. It wasn’t a constant gushing of yuck that never ended.

And knowing that helped me feel safer the next time another layer of pain wanted to surface. I felt much more willing to allow it to come out because I knew that I was going to be okay after it did. I knew that I was going to feel so much lighter and freer. I knew that I was going to be that much closer to my essence – the person that I had always been. The person that had been covered up by all of this pain.

And while my default setting is still to push my pain down, I will say that I’m getting more comfortable with making space for it to surface.

We all have experienced pain, sadness, and anger throughout our lives. We have all felt betrayed and wounded by another. And we have probably all feared on one level or another expressing these emotions and letting them out. Like me, you may have been concerned that they would never stop – that you would just be filled with a never-ending supply of sadness, anger, or pain. And because of this belief, you may have stuffed the emotions down and tried to forget about them.

But they’re still there. And unexpressed emotions will always find a way to be expressed – whether it’s through lashing out at someone or getting sick or feeling shame or suffering depression.

And what I would love all of us to take into our hearts is that being brave enough to release these painful emotions is the start of the healing process. It’s the beginning of coming back to your essence – of letting yourself know that you’re worthy of happiness. And while the process of letting the emotions surface is usually painful, it doesn’t last forever. It probably doesn’t even last as long as you fear it will. And one thing I know for sure is that you will feel so much better after releasing this pain from your body.

When I give myself permission to do it, I feel like I’ve been given a new lease on life. 

And that’s what I would love for you to feel, too. 

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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Why Don’t You…

posted by Jodi Chapman

Why don’t you… 

 

Love yourself

Love another

 

Follow your passion

Speak your truth

Share your heart

 

Embrace the possibility

Give yourself permission

 

Slow down

Ask for help

Offer help

 

Face your fears

Take that leap

 

Say an affirmation

Take time to meditate

Balance your chakras

 

Talk to your angels

Listen to your soul

 

Journal

Write a love letter

 

Hug someone

Take a hot bath

 

Eat something nourishing

Eat something that gives you pleasure

 

Sing and dance

Laugh and play

 

Forgive yourself

Forgive another

 

Honor your needs

Stand up for yourself

 

Let it go

Raise your vibration

 

Breathe

Feel grateful

 

Embrace this moment

 

Yes. Why don’t you? 

Really. Why don’t you take these words into your heart. Let them flow throughout your body. Right here. Right now.

 

Why don’t you? 

I sure will. And I hope you will, too.

 

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook   ♥   Angel Fund    ♥   Free Ebook

Are You Waiting for the Rain?

posted by Jodi Chapman

change copyI have a friend who is currently living her dream come true. Everything seems to be working out in her life. She enjoys her job, her kids are happy and healthy, and she’s in a loving relationship. She makes a comfortable living, lives in a nice house, her basic needs (and oftentimes more) are accounted for. She should be happy. Or so she says. And she is… but she also isn’t.

Her soul wants her to be happy. Her soul knows how deserving she is of all of this good fortune. Her soul knows that she is worthy of this life.

But her brain isn’t so sure. Her brain keeps playing its old tapes – it keeps reliving the past. It keeps reminding her that life hasn’t always been easy – that it hasn’t always flowed so nicely. It keeps casting a black cloud over her sunny present – a constant reminder that maybe she shouldn’t get too comfortable and maybe she shouldn’t settle into this happiness because it could be taken away at any moment.

And so even though everything externally seems to be going really well for this friend, she hasn’t allowed herself to enjoy it. She keeps waiting for her blue skies to cloud over and for the rain to begin to pour down.

She is almost expecting it.

Can you relate? Are you also waiting for the rain – even if it’s gorgeous sunny days in your world right now, are you anticipating the storm to roll in? 

So many of us are uncomfortable being happy and staying in our own happiness. It can feel so foreign to us. And, if we aren’t conscious of it, we can sabotage this sunny life and settle for one filled with dark skies.

If you can relate, and you’re looking for a way to change this pattern, I would suggest the following:

1. Realize that this is a pattern. And realize that you have the power to change it – to shift away from it – to move in a direction that’s different from the one you’re used to going in.

2. Get really honest with yourself. Do you truly believe that you deserve to be happy? Not at the brain (everyone deserves happiness) level, but at the soul (you are enough) level. Because if you don’t, no amount of awareness and mental shifting is going to help. It’s just not. Unless you honestly can feel your own worthiness and believe in your own worthiness, there is no reason for this pattern to change.

3. Assuming you do believe that you are worthy and you are ready to shift this pattern, you can begin taking steps toward embracing your own happiness and shifting your pattern. Let’s say that something good happens to you – you get promoted or begin a new relationship or feel absolute love from your kids. And now let’s imagine that you feel pure happiness from this good event. And you allow yourself to stay in it. Whenever a thought tries to pop up and shift you away from this happiness, you kindly ask it to keep floating by. You continue focusing on feeling happy. You continue to tell yourself that you deserve this good news and this happiness, and you continue basking in it. And then another thought comes up – one of your “pattern thoughts” – the ones that live in the past and believe that just because something happened before means that it will definitely happen again. So this thought comes up and feels pretty powerful. It grabs your attention, and you feel yourself begin to get sucked into it. You can feel your happiness waning.

This moment is absolutely critical. This is where you’re going to choose your own happiness. This is a huge deal. 

Because it’s in this moment that you can actually change your thought pattern and create a new one. It’s in this moment that you can train your mind to no longer believe that you aren’t deserving of happiness or you aren’t lovable enough to experience it or just because you’re happy now doesn’t mean you’ll always be happy or who do you think you are to be happy. Whatever your thought pattern is, you have the power to change it! Right here in this moment.

You have the ability to create a new thought. One that allows you to be happy. One that believes that you are deserving of it. One that gives you permission to glow from it and bask it in. That kind of thought. You have the ability to replace your old thoughts one by one with self-empowering, loving thoughts that are based on the present moment.

And no, this change probably won’t happen overnight. But if you stick with it and stay conscious, it will happen – little by little. Until one day you’ll look around you and realize that you’re happy. And you’ll see that as a wonderful thing. You’ll realize that you don’t have to wait for the rain – you can dance in the sun! 

That’s what I wish for my friend, and that’s also what I wish for you.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook   ♥   Angel Fund    ♥   Free Ebook

You Are Enough

posted by Jodi Chapman

i am love copyDid you know that you could do or not do anything for the rest of your life, and it wouldn’t make a difference for determining your inherent value, how much you’re loved, how much you matter? Did you know that you’re already enough? 

Did you know that all of the pushing isn’t necessary? You’re already enough.

Did you know that all of the comparing yourself to others that you’ve been doing doesn’t matter? You’re already enough.

Did you know that your “enoughness” has absolutely nothing to do with your degrees or your job description or how big your house is or what kind of car you drive or how much money you have in your bank account or how perfect your kids are or how often you volunteer or how expertly you can cook. Your “enoughness” isn’t contingent upon anything external. Your “enoughness” doesn’t change over time. Your “enoughness” has everything to do with your being, your essence, who you are in the inside, who you have always been.

There is nothing that you have to live up to or strive to get to or push through to realize. It’s always there. It’s always been in you. It’s you. And you’ve always been enough.

Seriously. Truly.

So please remember this the next time you compare, push, or try to keep up. You’re already enough. And everything you do or don’t do is extra. 

Isn’t that wonderful to realize?

Please take this deep into your heart. Please don’t just read the words and move onto something else. Please take a few moments and sit with them. Feel them. And let them move through you.

You are enough.

You are enough.

You are enough. 

You don’t have to do anything to feel loved – to be loved. By yourself or by anyone else. You are already enough.

You are. You really truly are.

I think that’s pretty amazing. You’re pretty amazing. We all are.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook   ♥   Angel Fund    ♥   Free Ebook

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