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https://static.pexels.com/photos/2029/landing-stage-sea-holiday-vacation.jpgI am that. I am that man who doubts. I am that man who wants to fit in. I am that man who wants to express himself. I am that man who wants to leap free of uncertainty. I am the rich man and the poor man.

I was deeply diving into a yoga stretch yesterday when I realised that I am no different from anyone else. I was striving for perfection, and realised that it’s not going to happen (at least this lifetime!), my feet may never touch the ground in downward dog, my sun salutation may always look like a cat on steroids. Is it okay to stop striving so hard for a goal that’s unreachable? Or is it the striving that will always take me closer to my goal (but never quite get there) – yet get me much closer than I would get without the striving?

Now, this isn’t a discussion just on perfection, and revealing and accepting imperfection – it’s also about how our society wants to make us into these figurines of photoshopped perfection – and our role-models are usually the biggest fakes.

I want to be naked. I want us all to be naked.

I want to stand strong, look deeply into your eyes and reveal all of my soul, strong in my own truth. I am tired of all the judgements I see around me. Judgement eats at the soul of the judge, not the judged. All those who think that they understand or perceive reality, when all they are seeing is the limitations of their intellect, the failure to be able to open up to their hearts. I speak to you, I speak to me, I speak to all of us. We are together.

The judgements are at breaking point. It’s become normal to break others down. Life is too short for all this judgment.

What does getting back to love look and feel like?

Relaxed acceptance, allowing flow to enter and exit gracefully. Simple to experience? Yes. Simple to achieve? Maybe!


Thich Nhat Hanh writes in ‘Cultivating the Mind of Love,’

“Your first love has no beginning or end. Your first love is not your first love, and it is not your last. It is just love. It is one with everything.”


Call to action.


Next time you catch yourself feeling unworthy, judging yourself (or others), feeling inferior to others – or just inferior to the “impossible self” that you created in your mind – stop and let that go. Accept that these quirks of the mind are just quirks, just thoughts (not real) – and reach out to another living person. It doesn’t have to be anything more than it will be – just start a conversation. Be present. And be a witness to your interaction. Even better, go outside of your comfort zone and talk to a complete stranger. Conversations are what bring us closer.

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Via Flickr I stand before you naked, revealing, strong in my own truth. I am alive with the desire to be myself, to be fully animated and express myself in the world we share. I have clung to limitation so many times in my life, and released so many layers of healing.

Have I become a cliche, as many sceptics and the intelligentsia who want to break everything down into intellectually formulae, want to believe of me? No. I am just myself, having a human experience. And that is meaningful and not a cliche. Because 8 billion other people are also having this experience, doesn’t make my sharing less worthwhile or relevant. I am tired of all the judgements I see around me. Judgement eats at the soul of the judge not the judged. All those who think that they understand or perceive reality, when all they are seeing is the limitations of their intellect, the failure to be able to open up to their hearts. I speak to you, I speak to me, I speak to all of us.

I am tired of feeling unworthy, tired of feeling that I am not the Divine, loving, caring, graceful person that I am at my core. Despite all the cynicism, my heart shines, my love spreads and I know in the end, that’s all that matters. How I leave this planet counts the most – will I leave it a more caring place – or will it be worse of for my presence? I know I am here to shine my light, and to show people that Divine Love still exists, still rings true…to demonstrate what unconditional love is, what unconditional forgiveness is, what true love feels like. I am here to leave a kinder world. That’s all I care about at the end of the day. That’s all I want to be judged for.

Life is too short for all this judgment, and the cacophony of intellectual statesmen who want to dictate what “reality” is based on their perspective of limitation. I am here to shine the light on this narrow world-view of limitation, where reason rules over feelings. I want experience to be the greatest teacher. I want the voice of love to be the loudest guide.

No matter how much people try to run away from their hearts, their spiritual hunger will always ultimately speak to them. This is our time to let our love shine.

Osho says (in Vigyan Bhairav Tantra, Vol 1 Page 3):

“The less you know, the better. To be philosophical, to be dogmatic, to be doctrinaire – this is easy. To tackle a problem intellectually is very easy. But to tackle a problem existentially – not just to think about it, but to live it through, to go through it, to allow yourself to be transformed through it – is difficult. That is, to know love one will have to be in love. That is dangerous because you will not remain the same. The experience is going to change you. The moment you enter love, you enter a different person. And when you come out you will not be able to recognize your old face; it will not belong to you. A discontinuity will have happened. Now there is a gap, the old man is dead and the new man has come. That is what is known as rebirth – being twice-born.”

This is your journey. Let your love shine from your heart. And don’t listen to the other voice – it’s not what will leave a mark on the world. All that truly matters is the voice of your heart.

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Via FlickrWe all face hardship and suffering. The idea that we can make a change, an internal shift and in some way transform or transmute our inner experiences, is in itself inspiring.

The support we can get from practising visualisation or meditation is deep-rooted. The Transformation Meditation below offers a possibility to shift one’s perspective and let go of that which is holding us back. The limitations we see within are experienced in tangible and intangible ways, profoundly affecting the quality of our lives.

I have gained many benefits from shifting my awareness into my heart, and connecting to that field of love we all carry within. When in doubt, confusion, or fear, I have experienced rapid changes into calmness and insight.

With a courageous breath, we make the decision to be free of our past, free of the stories that have haunted us, free of the limited self-beliefs we have been holding on to, and ready to make a giant leap of consciousness into the present, into trusting a new way.

Helena Blavatsky writes, “Thou canst not travel on the Path before thou hast become that Path itself.” The road less travelled represents leaving the familiar and moving into the field of the spiritual warrior. Many lifetimes may have led you to this point – reading these words right here, right now. Something is awakening within, drawing you into this field of light, liberation and possibility.

We are living in a time of limitless opportunities for expanded awareness. One thing that blocks us is dissatisfaction with how things have arisen in the present moment. Are we seeing what we have and how perfect it is for our spiritual growth? If we feel dissatisfied, why are we feeling this, and how do we shift our perceptions? If we are not feeling at peace and fulfilled within ourselves, is there something missing from the outside (our environment), or is there a void within that requires addressing? Are we still haunted by our past experiences?

What beliefs do we have about ourselves? These beliefs shape our perceptions and what we are experiencing. To understand what we believe, we can observe how we feel. It is not only what what we are seeing, feeling and experiencing (that is the illusion) – it is the inner world behind that – the (smoke)screen of awareness that filters into everything. The reality of the womb behind the reality we perceive is where breakthroughs occur.

The development model means that we are always gaining wisdom from our experiences. We learn and grow through having those experiences, so even though we may have perceived our experiences as “negative,” really they are neutral feedback mechanisms that are just “showing us the way” – giving us information and lessons – so we may acquire learning and wisdom.

The great discoveries have always been on the back of hundreds or thousands of “failures” – so here we understand that really it is not “real” to think something is “negative” – or a “failure” – it is always our PERCEPTION that matters. With awareness and diligence, we may change our perceptions consciously and take control of our emotions, thus taking back our power. The opportunity is always in the present moment to make this change.

The deepest missing link may be our inner beliefs about ourselves – do we feel unworthy?

I am enough. And so are you. We are enough and we always were. That’s all you need to know. The rest is merely the details of learning how to trust the journey.

Stop searching for perfection…it does not exist. Start accepting imperfection. It’s not enough to keep telling yourself that – its impact will be felt and experienced when you embody that and step into the field of love that is your true home. You will feel embraced as if you never left. We go out on a ship from the harbour of safety offered to us via the mothership (mother, father, family) and leave our childhood behind. It takes a brave spirit. The development process is ongoing. We don’t suddenly arrive at a destination and our development ends right there.

Feel the touch of your skin on the earth again. Let your bare feet caress sacred earth. Here is the miracle. Right here, right now. It’s not in some far-off exotic location. Or in the arms of someone else.

This marks a new beginning for you. I encourage you to expand what your previous (old story) notions were of yourself. A positive mind will always lead us to the greatest outcomes. Terence McKenna offers an elevational frame of reference:

“Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it’s a feather bed.”

All is miracle. There are no absolutes in life, except in the power of perception. Think of all the miracles that got you where you are today. Now, start with your first breath that will embrace all the small things – the uplifting essences of gratitude, love, passion, grace and purity.

The love you seek is in your own heart. All that is left is to have faith that the stardust that you are – breaking through the fabric of space-time within this world of illusion – is also capable of making your dreams come true.

The poet, Rumi reminds us that the treasure we are seeking is within, “You wander from room to room. Hunting for the diamond necklace. That is already around your neck.”

Transformation Meditation

Visualise yourself standing over a body of deep, endless azure-blue water that fulfils and heals. Now dive in, completely submerging yourself until all of the stains of unworthiness that you have carried through lifetimes are cleansed and released.

Arise up from the surface of the water now. With your first breath you are reborn into a new expansive space.

Now, placing your hands over your heart and repeating:

The past is gone.

Now, All that I am is an entire universe.
Now, There is no part of me that is wrong.
Now, I accept all of me including those thi
ngs I perceive as imperfect.

Now I am ready for rebirth.

My heart is whole.

Now I am reborn.
I have arrived fully into my heart.

Now, I am enough.
I am home.

Acknowledgements: With gratitude to Jocelyn Joy Thomas: https://joysreadings.com

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iyanlaWe glimpse a small moment of time. An eternal flame flickers for an out-breath of the Divine – a flutter of an eyelid in history – and then we are gone. Will this now-moment be filled with abundant light, connection and love – or pain, heart-ache and suffering?

Will we chase shadows and face the inevitable confusion of buying into the collective fear – or will we choose to take our opportunity and circumvent the forces that seek to keep us controlled and stuck in fear?

Let’s explore what is to be found in-between breaths and in-between thoughts. In finding peace, there is no search, for in the search one moves away from the destination. Alan Watts encapsulates this concept – “Buddha found out that there was no trap to get out of except himself. Trap and trapped are one, and when you understand that, there isn’t any trap left.”

Many of us are trapped by our environment and the people we surround ourselves with. We don’t always get to choose everyone we share space with – sometimes, we just need to accept and work with the imperfect. Yet toxic people and environments can severely erode our well-being.

What does it mean to be “toxic” – how do we actively discern which people are “good” for us or “bad?”

The arena of human relationships and interactions is one fraught with complexity. On one hand, all people have a soul and nobody is inherently “toxic” – yet, on the other hand, we do need to acknowledge that there are some very negative people around, and in order to protect ourselves from them, it’s healthy to be able to step away. As always, a clear set of personal boundaries is imperative to show us the path through what can seem like a labyrinth. Then with our integrity intact, we may navigate through our relationships consciously and lovingly.

What I see in the world is many people following old dogmas, old religions, old philosophies and thinking that is not of this time – not of the present – and not allowing people to be themselves. Instead they are hijacked and imprisoned by these old beliefs. A common approach at the moment is being “right” and making others “wrong.”

The violence and anarchy being expressed in the world shows where people are at – how did we get to a point of such fear? It is not necessarily what people are doing, but why that interests me. We get caught up with style over substance at times, instead of looking deeper to the root causes of conflict. What energy and focus are we placing on human suffering – versus on helping to alleviate this suffering?

How are we reflecting the whole – how are we perpetuating the same patterns – and placing ourselves as part of the problem, instead of the solution?

As the Earth becomes more fragile, humans are reflecting that in their reactiveness and health. An increasingly toxic environment creates increasing stress and rising fear. At the moment, a rhetoric of enmity seems prevalent, yet there is also so much shadow being exposed by the light, and consciousness being raised.

Leaders like Donald Trump feed into the collective fear and send a message that everyone is your enemy until they are dominated into submission – as in “dog eats dog” and winners take all. Lack of trust and building walls of separation to protect oneself from the “other” – xenophobia and exasperation predominate. Simplistic thinking of “us versus them” and a lack of unity consciousness prevails when we listen to the voice of fear.

Does one wish to continue to live at war with one another and the planet – or are there spiritual solutions to the challenges we face?

Gary Zukav writes in Soul Stories, “When one of us hurts, that is a sorrow for everyone. When one of us is happy, that is a joy to everyone. We are living in the same promised land. It belongs to each of us, and we belong to it. That is the Universe. There is no other land.”

We reflect the whole as a microcosm of the macrocosm – yet we are also able to rise above suffering and victimhood, as free-will creators. What happens outside reflects what happens on the inside – and the other way around. With this view, it is of paramount importance how we view ourselves – how we see and feel about ourselves.

Expectations of ourselves impose judgement and limitation on whom we can be and become. The more we expect of ourselves has a tendency to be mirrored in the external world by what we expect of others – affecting all relationships from work colleagues, friendships to loved ones. Further – whom we are comparing ourselves to – limits us from being (and becoming) ourselves. As Iyanla Vanzant wrote, “comparison is an act of violence against the self.”

Expectations can corrode our worldview and ultimately cost us authenticity and truly living in the present moment. More so, there is a routine and pattern in all things, including relationships, and within these bounds, it is fair to expect that certain standards are met. What I feel is important to focus on, is the areas where we are expecting too much of ourselves and other people, thusly limiting our (and their) experience. This can become destructive. The need to develop self-compassion as a counter to the current of judgement and high-expectation – in the developed world – remains a vital part of what it means to be human.

People are seeking a feeling of connection with themselves and with others, a connection to the sacred, and a feeling of being safe and grounded in their bodies at this time. This connection will not come from watching the news channels or avoiding bringing awareness and light to the shadows we so vehemently reject.

Some questions to ponder:

1 cocoWhat are we resisting that will keep persisting so long as we continue in the same paradigms?

What are we resisting about ourselves – or others?

Sometimes, saying “no” is the most loving act one can do. And simply learning to love the reflection we see in the mirror. Unconditionally loving ourselves is all we need.

Coco Chanel said: “beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” What will you do right now to show and be whom you are – a face of loving-kindness – or what? Perhaps all you have been waiting for all this time is permission to be yourself.

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David G Starlyte (ND) – Australia’s Leading Soul-Coach. PERSONAL SESSIONS NOW AVAILABLE VIA SKYPE (Email me for details: davidstarlyte@gmail.com)

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