Life is quite simple when you live and love from your heart. After all, it is difficult, if not impossible to have a relationship with someone in your head?
When you feel loved is it an actual feeling or is it a thought? Have you discovered your own strategies for feeling loved? Have you discovered your partners strategies for feeling loved?
Don’t you agree that all relationships require love, care and encouragement to grow and thrive? Doesn’t true communication require being present and active listening? When you give yourself and your relationships these qualities, you are watering your victory garden.
We all need nurturing. People are so much more sensitive then they like to admit. Most adults are just little kids in big bodies We are like the beautiful flowers in nature’s garden. We need sun, water and fertile soil to grow. We want to be loved.
A friend shared the following profound quote with me:
“We are not responding to this instant if we are judging any aspect of it.
The ego looks for what to criticize.
This always involves comparing with the past.
But love looks upon the world peacefully and accepts.
The ego searches for shortcomings and weaknesses.
Love watches for any sign of strength.
It sees how far each one has come and not how far he has to go.
How simple it is to love, and exhausting it is always to find fault,
for every time we see a fault we think something needs to be done about it.
Love knows that nothing is ever needed but more love.
It is what we all do with our hearts that affects others most deeply.
It is not the movements of our body or the words within our mind that transmits love.
We love from heart to heart.”
Gerald G. Jampolsky
“Teach Only Love”
Water your own garden and acknowledge, recognize and appreciate the people in your life.
Create your own “Match Made in Heaven!”
The MEGA Coach
Do you have unconditionally loving and fulfilling relationships? When you are with someone you are attracted to are you present in the moment with them? Do you fully associate to the joy and fulfillment available? Do you tune in to what’s going on with them and listen?
Most people are so busy thinking about other things instead of being with the person they are with. Like, what am I going to say, do they like me, when should I make my move? Does this sound familiar? Maybe you have your own questions or chatter. Are you texting and playing with your cell phone while with another person?
If you are busy thinking about anything else other than the person you are with how can you be fully present with them? When you are thinking, or concerned about how it’s going, then you are not engaged in being with the other person. Magic happens in those special, little moments that most people miss because they are distracted and somewhere else.
Are you in the past, present or future when you are asking someone for a date or when spending “quality time.” Maybe your thinking about something you have to do later. Maybe something from earlier in the day is nagging at you. The point of greatest power is always the present moment.
How important is it for you to be present to experience true communication and clarity to connect with another person? How important is active listening when you are with another person? Active listening is listening from the point of view of the speaker. It does not mean trying to finish their sentences while they are speaking, or figuring out what you are going to say, or trying to come up with something cool to impress them. Do you see how easy it is to be distracted or occupied when you are actually wanting to be with someone or make a good impression?
Do you expect to create wonderful, meaningful, fun and passionate relationships with someone if you are not really there with them? What do you think the other person is feeling when they sense you are not really listening to them or are not connecting with them? Maybe they think you do not really like them? How does this affects your results?
These patterns do not just affect romantic relationships. They affect family interactions between parents and their children and between relatives. Does the quality of your communication affect everyone in your life, especially you? What would happen if you were present when you communicate with your children and taught them by your example?
Take a look at your business relationships – jobs, interviews, opportunities, contracts, sales, training, merger, etc. – You succeed or fail by the quality of being present, and your listening skills. What about your body language, tone and words? Communication is made up of so many nuances and components that can either enhance or destroy potential outcomes and relationships?
What if you could improve the quality of your communication?
What if you could learn powerful information to be more present and become a good listener?
What if you could become a master communicator?
How would this change your life, your business and your success?
These subjects and more along with great ideas and solutions can be found in Ariel and Shya Kanes’ book, “How to Have A Match Made in Heaven.” The Kanes have been communication specialists for decades and have coached and consulted thousands of individuals, couples and companies.
Remember, the most important person that you communicate with every moment is YOU!
The MEGA Coach
From “The Power of the Spoken Word” by Florence Scovel Shinn
All life is vibration. You combine with what you notice, or you combine with what you vibrate to. If you are vibrating to injustice and resentment you will meet it on your pathway, at every step. You will certainly think it is a hard world and that everybody is against you. Hermes Trismegistus said several thousand years ago, to change your mood you must change your vibrations.” I make it even stronger; I say, to change your world, you must change your vibrations. Turn on a different current in your battery of thought and you’ll see the difference immediately. Suppose you have been resenting people and saying you are not appreciated. That the statement; “God appreciates me, therefore, man appreciates me, I appreciate myself.” Immediately you will meet with some recognition on the external.
You are now a master workman and your tools are your words. Be sure you are building constructively, according to the Divine Plan.
“I GIVE THANKS FOR THIS PERFECT DAY! MIRACLE SHALL FOLLOW MIRACLE AND WONDERS SHALL NEVER CEASE!”
The MEGA Coach
Sandstone Wall, Antelope Canyon, Arizona by Dennis Flaherty
(August section of Inner Reflections 2012 Calendar from the Self-Realization Fellowship.)
“Darkness may reign in a cave for thousands of years, but bring in the light, and the darkness vanishes as though it had never been. Similarly, no matter what your defects, they are yours no longer when you bring in the light of goodness.”
We live in an incredible world of wonders. Even now, with all of the challenges and turmoil, with darkness, evil and greed, the LIGHT is still here. It illuminates the darkness and transforms the world.
Light or Darkness, Good or Evil, Health or Disease, Love or Hate, Failure or Success. Is it more important for you to follow your greatest good or to follow the selfish and hurtful pattern of your conditioning? You make the choice!
Every moment is a choice and opportunity for goodness and love. There is a way in each situation, circumstance or relationship to let your light shine. It is the Power of Truth, it is the Power of Acknowledgement.
There are people around you right now who need your love and your light. It may be unspoken in just your energy and being. It may be in your actions or in your eyes. Kindness is a language the whole world understands.
It is available every moment and you have the power and the freedom to choose it. Although the temptation of the ego, selfishness of getting what you want is seductive, you can overcome it when you give everything you have to follow the light. To overcome the most difficult patterns it takes everything you have to not succumb to them and to follow a different path, the path of light and love.
The world is moving at such a fast pace, people forget to be here in the moment and let their light shine fully. The light of awareness, the light of love, the light of God is within each of us.
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!
The MEGA Coach