Small steps add up to be big improvements one step at a time. Be patient and supportive of yourself and allow life to be the way it is. Make a small change every day and take consistent action. You will enjoy significant growth in 30 days.
“Little things don’t mean a lot, they mean everything.”
Acknowledge even the smallest wins, acts of kindness or good things. By acknowledging, recognizing and appreciating the small wins you gain momentum. As you gain momentum your belief, faith, energy and enthusiasm grow. This raises your vibration and increases your vitality and energy.
In turn, this gives you more self-confidence and self-esteem. Your expectations expand and you become a magnet for success. Make sure that your self-talk or self-acknowledgement is positive, nurturing, encouraging and consistent. If you do not take care of yourself and program your mind, who will?
Consistency, like a steady, gentle wind blowing in the same direction creates long term change. Gradual, steady growth and progress is the best way for lasting success.
You can give your full effort and go total without a reckless or unbalanced approach. If your effort or energy is out of control it is a clue to take a few breaths and center. Balance, focus and consistent action creates long term growth and success. Be appropriate to the moment.
Awareness is very important to a healthy process.
Learn to observe and be present without attachment or judging.
Listen to your intuition and let it guide you.
With time, patience and consistency you are guaranteed to succeed.
Failure is impossible unless you quit.
It is not about how fast you succeed, it is about the quality of how you succeed.
Remember to enjoy the journey.
The Mega Coach
A good friend called me and shared he was in a tough situation with his girlfriend. Although he is a good and caring person, he was not able to create and enjoy harmony, intimacy, fulfillment and true communication with his partner – even though he really wanted to. Men and women have different ways to communicate. Even with good intentions, the end results can be lacking or turn into a painful argument.
He did not know his partners love languages and most importantly their ranking. A persons love language and their ranking determines their fulfillment, satisfaction and feeling loved. He also did not know his own.
People have different styles of communicating and letting each other know that we care.
“The 5 Love Languages” is a wonderful book by Gary Chapman.
During the early days of our relationship, this book and information helped my wife and I develop a successful and loving way to communicate. We could transcend life’s challenges. We were able to listen to each other in a caring way and share our feelings without hurting or attacking the other person. We developed new strategies to communicate the difficult feelings and share them in a way that works. We continue to do this on a regular basis.
Have you noticed that during the first two years of relationship you and your partner create the basic patterns that determine how you communicate and ultimately the success or failure of your relationship? Do you see that the way in which you navigate “the bumps” or the challenges determines if you remain together long term and your ability to create intimacy, trust, unconditional love and true communication?
We each have a predominant love language. Which is yours? Which is your partners? What about your parents and children? You may respond to each of the 5 languages, but every person has a definite ranking. You need to know both yours and your partners so that you can feel truly and deeply loved and cared for.
You see, you may want to share your love, but not effectively reach the person you care about because you are not using their top strategy that makes them feel loved. Even if you touch them, if their top love language and strategy is not satisfied, they will not feel totally loved. This explains why you meant well, said or did nice things, but the end result was not what you hoped for.
Here are the 5 Love Languages:
|Words of Affirmation: Words matter. This person treasures hearing, “I love you.” Honest compliments and praise mean a great deal, and insults or harsh words are taken to heart.
Quality Time: This person wants your undivided attention. The gift of your time is worth more than any material present you could give.
Receiving Gifts: From trinkets and flowers to diamond rings and season tickets, this person feels loved when you present them with a token of your affection.
Physical Touch: A gentle hand on the shoulder, a peck on the cheek, a warm embrace or simply sitting beside this person makes them feel loved.
Acts of Service: Doing household chores or helping out in the home office is, to this person, the equivalent of saying, “I adore you.”
Discover your love language, your partners and the members of your family. Share them and talk with each other about how you each feel and what you each want in your relationship together. Be specific and make sure you determine the true ranking and preference order.
Most importantly, stay present in the moment. Pay attention and observe. Be sincerely interested. This allows you to truly acknowledge each other and create harmony, unconditional love and intimacy.
The MEGA Coach
Loving Kindness and Forgiveness are your keys to freedom.
When something is wrong in your life, it is usually a sign that forgiveness is needed.
To forgive means to let go, it does not mean you condone someone’s words or actions. When you hold a grudge or judge another person you stick yourself to that energy, pattern and vibration. The only way to peace and freedom is to let go and forgive.
Loving kindness for all beings from the one beyond the stars
Through the darkness, into light, we behold the gift of peace
Here in the heart, all is well
Here in the heart, all is peace
“All is Forgiven“
Footsteps on the journey
Oceans in the sand
Sunlight on the valley
Stars across your hand
Beauty all around you
Beauty deep within
The sign of awakening
When all is forgiven
“The only meaningful prayer is for forgiveness, because those who have been forgiven have everything.”
A Course in Miracles
The MEGA Coach
Hummingbirds are incredible creatures. They can hover in mid-air by flapping their wings 12 to 90 times per second and they are the only bird capable of flying backwards. Hummingbirds weigh less than a ping pong ball.
Hummingbirds teach us important lessons. It is wise to keep it light! Enlightenment gives you a definite clue in the very center of the word. Make sure that you are light at your center.
It is easy to let situations, circumstances, relationships and things in life get you down. Our culture tends to become attached to “things” and to worry about the future or even live in the past. By keeping things light and staying in the present moment, you are much more likely to be healthy, happy and successful.
My teacher and good friend, Michael Wyman used to say, “Don’t take life to seriously because you will never get out of it alive!“ Take a few deep breathes and let it all go. Have fun and lighten up.
Observe the people around you who are the most joyous, healthy, happy and successful. You will notice that they keep it light and do not tend to worry about little things. After all, why worry because it will probably never happen. Scientists have proven that less than 6% of all of your fears ever happen, so give it up and let go.
The more present you are, the more aware you are and the less you think or worry. It is a powerful, healthy and resourceful place to be. That is why the present is a gift.
Keep it real.
Keep it clear.
Let it flow.
Have a wonderful and prosperous day!
The MEGA Coach