When you want to give something of real value to another, give your gentle and focused attention. When you seek to develop true understanding, listen with your heart and your eyes.
You build lasting relationships and intimacy and create great value by paying attention and being here. When lecturing, pleading and arguing fail to carry your point across, giving your attention very likely will.
Yes, it can be difficult to give your full attention in a fast-moving world that is filled with distractions. And yet, the more distractions there are, the more precious and valuable your attention becomes.
Give something to others that is one hundred percent you and go total. Give the gift of your gentle and focused attention and do your best.
There are people around you yearning to be heard, seen, acknowledged, recognized, loved and appreciated. By truly paying attention, you enrich your life as well as theirs.
Even if you have nothing else to give, you can always give your focused attention. It will be surely welcomed and treasured as it brings real light to the world.
And just maybe, you will feel God’s presence and grace. Miracles are possible……they happen when you are here to experience them.
The MEGA Coach
One day the man decided to quit…
He quit his job, his relationship, his spirituality… “I wanted to quit my life.” He went to the woods to have one last talk with God. “God”, he said, “Can you give me one good reason not to quit?”
His answer surprised him… “Look around”, God said, “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?” “Yes”, he replied. When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. “But I did not quit on the bamboo,” God said. In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. “I would not quit,” God said.
Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.
I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle. God said to man, “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots. I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. Don’t compare yourself to others.” God said, “The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern … Yet, they both make the forest beautiful.”
“Your time will come,” God said to him. “You will rise high! “How high should I rise?” he asked. How high will the bamboo rise?” God asked in return. “As high as it can?” he questioned. “Yes,” God said, “Give me glory by rising as high as you can.” The man left the forest and brought this story.
A happy and meaningful life requires your continuous presence and creativity. It does not happen by chance. It happens because of your choices and actions. Each day you are given new opportunities to choose and act and, in doing so, you create your own unique journey.
The MEGA Coach
Do you feel loved and satisfied in your relationships? Do you experience joy, happiness and fulfillment now? Do you want the most important people in your life to feel nurtured and loved?
There are five main love languages. If your primary love strategy is not satisfied, you cannot feel totally loved. If your primary love strategy is not satisfied, you cannot feel totally loved. You may intellectually know your partner loves and cares for you, but that is different than feeling it and being physically and emotionally satisfied. Do you know your own primary love language?
How important is it for you to feel totally loved? How important is it for your partner to feel totally loved? What would happen to your relationships and the quality of your life if yours lives if you and your partner felt totally loved?
People have different styles of communicating and letting each other know that we care.
“The 5 Love Languages” is a wonderful book by Gary Chapman.
Here are the 5 Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation: Words matter. This person treasures hearing, “I love you.” Honest compliments and praise mean a great deal, and insults or harsh words are taken to heart.
Quality Time: This person wants your undivided attention. The gift of your time is worth more than any material present you could give.
Receiving Gifts: From trinkets and flowers to diamond rings and season tickets, this person feels loved when you present them with a token of your affection.
Physical Touch: A gentle hand on the shoulder, a peck on the cheek, a warm embrace or simply sitting beside this person makes them feel loved.
Acts of Service: Doing household chores or helping out in the home office is, to this person, the equivalent of saying, “I adore you.”
People have different strategies to communicate and feel certain feelings. A person is wired a certain way and if you want to share your love with them and want them to feel totally loved than you need to discover their love strategy and effectively communicate with them.
You do this unconsciously without even knowing it. However, you may not be using a person’s primary strategy, so although they feel good, until you satisfy their primary strategy they will not feel fulfilled.
The MEGA Coach
One of your greatest blessings is that God sends you angels to help on your path in life. These angels can take the form of special people and helpers who guide you with their love and kindness. Has someone special made a difference in your life? Has someone encouraged you, nurtured you or inspired you?
God blessed our family by sending us not only a “Nanny,” but an angel named Madeline Brown. She like to be called, “Maddy” and also “Brownie.” Maddy took care of our family in many more ways than just cooking, cleaning and laundry. Maddy brought love, kindness and true service into her work.
Maddy knew the secret to being an incredible Nanny, she loved us. She cared about people and she cared about doing a good job – so naturally it showed and you could feel it. During those challenging high school years Maddy and I were pretty close and would talk often. I could share my feelings, questions, confusion and find a caring, wise and loving soul who truly listened to me. When I did not understand why people could be so cruel or when life seemed so unfair, Maddy’s love and compassion were always there to fill me with hope.
Happy Birthday Maddy!!!
The MEGA Coach