“Only 15% of a person’s success is due to their technical ability, while 85% is due to their ability to get along with people.”
You can have wonderful, expressive, fun, empowering and fulfilling relationships! The secret is that it starts with you because you attract and create your life. Is your desire true and are you willing to go total?
It is not a coincidence how people treat you and respond to you. In fact, you train others how to treat you. They pick up on your energy and communication. You are communicating every moment whether you actually say anything verbally. Words are 7%, tone is 38% and body language is 55% of communication.
Be an example of what you want in your life. Especially since you are a magnet that attracts other people, situations and opportunities. Be the kind of person that deserves the relationships of your dreams.
Do your primary relationship skills and patterns only affect your love life? Don’t they also impact all of your friendships, work relationships and most importantly, your family? How much do your relationships affect your financial and career success? Communication is a powerful force.
“The Quality of my life is directly related to the quality of my communication, with myself and with others.”
Conscious awareness, kindness, compassion, tenderness, giving, unconditional love and quality communication are key qualities that make a relationship attractive and desirable for the long term. Do you have these qualities? If not, you can develop them and you can always improve them.
Whatever the current state of your relationships, you can transform them by transforming yourself. The secret is to look inside yourself and take responsibility instead of blaming your partner. After all, how can you ask your partner to be or do something that you are not willing to be or do? Who would want to have a long term relationship with someone who was not kind, caring, loving and a good friend?
No matter how challenging your current relationship may be, you can make a quantum leap. You can be a good communicator and listener. You can be more sincere and interested. You can be a wonderful partner. Anything is possible and the great news is it’s up to you!
Make your life and relationships heaven on earth and manifest the divine plan of your life, under grace and in perfect ways!
The MEGA Coach
Who is the most important person for your success? Who is totally responsible for your experience and reality? That’s right, it’s you! You deserve the credit and acknowledgement for it all.
If you are not happy or satisfied with any part of your life, your health, your relationships, financial position and success, there is only one place to look…..within yourself. This is why it is so important to have a good relationship with yourself and to communicate effectively with yourself before looking to other people.
More valuable information from Ariel and Shya Kane – Instantaneous Transformation
“In order to build a strong foundation for relationship, you must first investigate your relationship with yourself. If you are unkind to yourself, you will ultimately be unkind to anyone who forms a partnership with you. When you connect with another, he or she becomes an extension of you. Ultimately, you will pick on that person in the same manner that you pick on yourself. Think back to disagreements you’ve had with others in your life. Haven’t the worst fights or meanest arguments happened with those you love? That is because Heaven on Earth begins with you, If you are in turmoil inside, there will be no peace in your relationship.“
The Three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation:
1) Anything you resist, persists, grows stronger and dominates your life and relationships.
2) No two things can occupy the same space at the same time.
You can only be doing one thing in any given moment of your life.
3) Anything you allow to be exactly as it is will complete itself and dissolve all on its own.
The best place to start is be kind to yourself and to be kind to others. You can have anything you want in this world as long as it does not violate the rights of others.
“Kindness is a language that we all can understand.
Even the blind can see it and the deaf can hear it.”
The MEGA Coach
Life is quite simple when you live and love from your heart. After all, it is difficult, if not impossible to have a relationship with someone in your head?
When you feel loved is it an actual feeling or is it a thought? Have you discovered your own strategies for feeling loved? Have you discovered your partners strategies for feeling loved?
Don’t you agree that all relationships require love, care and encouragement to grow and thrive? Doesn’t true communication require being present and active listening? When you give yourself and your relationships these qualities, you are watering your victory garden.
We all need nurturing. People are so much more sensitive then they like to admit. Most adults are just little kids in big bodies We are like the beautiful flowers in nature’s garden. We need sun, water and fertile soil to grow. We want to be loved.
A friend shared the following profound quote with me:
“We are not responding to this instant if we are judging any aspect of it.
The ego looks for what to criticize.
This always involves comparing with the past.
But love looks upon the world peacefully and accepts.
The ego searches for shortcomings and weaknesses.
Love watches for any sign of strength.
It sees how far each one has come and not how far he has to go.
How simple it is to love, and exhausting it is always to find fault,
for every time we see a fault we think something needs to be done about it.
Love knows that nothing is ever needed but more love.
It is what we all do with our hearts that affects others most deeply.
It is not the movements of our body or the words within our mind that transmits love.
We love from heart to heart.”
Gerald G. Jampolsky
“Teach Only Love”
Water your own garden and acknowledge, recognize and appreciate the people in your life.
Create your own “Match Made in Heaven!”
The MEGA Coach
Do you have unconditionally loving and fulfilling relationships? When you are with someone you are attracted to are you present in the moment with them? Do you fully associate to the joy and fulfillment available? Do you tune in to what’s going on with them and listen?
Most people are so busy thinking about other things instead of being with the person they are with. Like, what am I going to say, do they like me, when should I make my move? Does this sound familiar? Maybe you have your own questions or chatter. Are you texting and playing with your cell phone while with another person?
If you are busy thinking about anything else other than the person you are with how can you be fully present with them? When you are thinking, or concerned about how it’s going, then you are not engaged in being with the other person. Magic happens in those special, little moments that most people miss because they are distracted and somewhere else.
Are you in the past, present or future when you are asking someone for a date or when spending “quality time.” Maybe your thinking about something you have to do later. Maybe something from earlier in the day is nagging at you. The point of greatest power is always the present moment.
How important is it for you to be present to experience true communication and clarity to connect with another person? How important is active listening when you are with another person? Active listening is listening from the point of view of the speaker. It does not mean trying to finish their sentences while they are speaking, or figuring out what you are going to say, or trying to come up with something cool to impress them. Do you see how easy it is to be distracted or occupied when you are actually wanting to be with someone or make a good impression?
Do you expect to create wonderful, meaningful, fun and passionate relationships with someone if you are not really there with them? What do you think the other person is feeling when they sense you are not really listening to them or are not connecting with them? Maybe they think you do not really like them? How does this affects your results?
These patterns do not just affect romantic relationships. They affect family interactions between parents and their children and between relatives. Does the quality of your communication affect everyone in your life, especially you? What would happen if you were present when you communicate with your children and taught them by your example?
Take a look at your business relationships – jobs, interviews, opportunities, contracts, sales, training, merger, etc. – You succeed or fail by the quality of being present, and your listening skills. What about your body language, tone and words? Communication is made up of so many nuances and components that can either enhance or destroy potential outcomes and relationships?
What if you could improve the quality of your communication?
What if you could learn powerful information to be more present and become a good listener?
What if you could become a master communicator?
How would this change your life, your business and your success?
These subjects and more along with great ideas and solutions can be found in Ariel and Shya Kanes’ book, “How to Have A Match Made in Heaven.” The Kanes have been communication specialists for decades and have coached and consulted thousands of individuals, couples and companies.
Remember, the most important person that you communicate with every moment is YOU!
The MEGA Coach