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Have a Magnificent Day!

How to Create Loving & Fulfilling Relationships

posted by The MEGA Coach

A good friend called me and shared that they were in a tough situation with their girlfriend.
Although he is a good and caring person, he was not able to create and enjoy harmony, intimacy, fulfillment and true communication with his partner – even though he really wanted to.  But men and women, people have different ways to communicate.  Even with good intentions, the end results can not only be lacking but turn into a painful argument.

In speaking with him it was clear that he did not know his partners love languages and most importantly their ranking.  Because this determines true fulfillment, satisfaction and feeling loved.
He also did not know his own.

People have different styles of communicating and letting each other know that we care.
“The 5 Love Languages” is a wonderful book by Gary Chapman.

During the early days of our relationship, this book and information helped my wife and I develop a successful and loving way to communicate, share our love and feelings and transcend life’s challenges.  We were able to listen to each other in a caring way and share our feelings without hurting or attacking the other person.  We developed new strategies to communicate the difficult feelings and share them in a way that works.

Have you noticed that during the first two years of relationship you and your partner create the basic patterns that determine how you communicate and ultimately the success or failure of your relationship?  Do you see that the way in which you navigate  “the bumps” or the challenges will determine not only if you remain together long term, but if you can create intimacy, trust, unconditional love and true communication?

We each have a predominant love language.  Which is yours?
Which is your partners?  What about your parents and children?
You may respond to each of the 5 languages, but every person has a definite ranking.
You need to know both yours and your partners so that you can feel truly and deeply loved and cared for.

You see, you may want to share your love, but not effectively reach the person you care about because you are not using their top strategy that makes them feel loved.  Even if you touch them, if their top love language and strategy is not satisfied, they will not feel totally loved.  This explains why you meant well, said or did nice things, but the end result was not what you hoped for.


Here are the 5 Love Languages:

 

Words of Affirmation: Words matter. This person treasures hearing, “I love you.” Honest compliments and praise mean a great deal, and insults or harsh words are taken to heart.

 

Quality Time: This person wants your undivided attention. The gift of your time is worth more than any material present you could give.

 

Receiving Gifts: From trinkets and flowers to diamond rings and season tickets, this person feels loved when you present them with a token of your affection.

 

Physical Touch: A gentle hand on the shoulder, a peck on the cheek, a warm embrace or simply sitting beside this person makes them feel loved.

 

Acts of Service: Doing household chores or helping out in the home office is, to this person, the equivalent of saying, “I adore you.”


Discover your love language, your partners and the members of your family.

Share them and talk with each other about how you each feel and what you each want in your relationship together.  Be specific and make sure you determine the true ranking and preference order.

Most importantly, stay present in the moment.  Pay attention and observe.  Be sincerely interested.  This allows you to truly acknowledge each other and create harmony, unconditional love and intimacy.  After all, isn’t the true purpose for relationship to give and receive unconditional love?

blessings,
:) Lee
The Mega Coach

Enjoy this bit of joy:
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Sticking Your Neck Out

posted by The MEGA Coach

One of the lessons giraffes teach us about life is that you have to stick your neck out.
Isn’t that how they reach such high and difficult places to find delicious treats?
For such large creatures, they are so gentle.
They take extraordinary care of each other in their families.

In life, there are times we have to stick our necks out and take a risk.
Sometimes it is to help a friend.
Sometimes it is to achieve something important for yourself.
Sometimes it is a leap of pure faith.

In the end, all you have is your belief, faith and trust.
It is based on your deepest feelings and courage to listen to your heart and your truth.
A good friend helped and supported me based on his faith and trust in me.
He wants to see me succeed and took a risk by sticking his neck out for me.
I am deeply grateful and know that God sends us special people to share his love with us.

Today I was speaking with a friend who shared some challenges they are facing in their relationship.
His challenge is to stick his neck out by being vulnerable and sharing his love.
The risk is that he could be rejected and embarrassed.
No great reward or accomplishment comes without risk.

How can you encourage the people in your life?
How can you inspire them to go forward and create their vision in the world?
What can you do to make a difference?
Remember, even the smallest, kindest act can be the most powerful.
By shining your light you liberate others and raise the world up.

Our lives are better when we make someone else feel better or help them to have a better life.
Acknowledge, recognize and appreciate the people in your life.
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
People are the greatest resource in the world.

Share a smile, a kind word, open the door for someone, make someone laugh.
Take a risk, stick your neck out!
Be a smile millionaire!

smiles,
:) Lee
The Mega Coach

Enjoy this beautiful song, The Prayer:
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Keep It Light!

posted by The MEGA Coach

Hummingbirds are incredible creatures.
They can hover in mid-air by flapping their wings 12 to 90 times per second and they are the only bird capable of flying backwards.  Hummingbirds weigh less than a ping pong ball.

Hummingbirds can teach us important things in life.
Remember, it is wise to keep it light!
Enlightenment gives us a definite clue in the very center of the word.
Make sure that light is at your center.

Keep it real,
Keep it clear
And let it flow.

It is easy to let situations, circumstances, relationships and things in life get you down.
Our culture tends to become attached to “things” and to worry about the future or even live in the past.  By keeping things light and staying in the present moment, you are much more likely to be healthy, happy and successful.

Whenever you notice that you are taking life too seriously, let go.
You might as well, because you will never get out of it alive!
Take a few deep breathes and let it all go.

Observe the people around you who are the most joyous, healthy, happy and successful.
You will also notice that they keep it light and do not tend to worry about little things.
After all, why worry because it will probably never happen.
Less than 6% of all of your fears ever happen, so give it up and let go.

The more present you are, the more aware you are and the less you think or worry.
It is a powerful, healthy and resourceful place to be.
That is why the present is a gift.

Have a wonderful and prosperous day!

smiles,
:) Lee
The Mega Coach

 

Preponderance of the Small

posted by The MEGA Coach

From The I Ching or Book of Changes by Brian Browne Walker:

In a great storm the wise bird returns to her nest and waits patiently.

During difficult and dangerous conditions you should not be seduced into struggling, striving or seeking solutions through aggressive action.  Success is met only by waiting modestly for the guidance of the Creative.

Trying times are a test of our integrity and commitment to proper principles.  The ordinary person reacts to challenges with fear, anger, mistrust of fate and a stubborn desire to strike out and eliminate difficulty once and for all.  While the temptation to act in this way can be great, to do so can only lead to misfortune and the loss of hard-won ground.

The way of the superior person faced with difficulty is that of nonaction rather than action.  She does not strive after recognition or resolution or attempt to gain a higher position by conquering others.  Instead, she retreats into her center and cultivates humility, patience and conscientiousness.  On the path of acceptance, self-inquiry and self-improvement we obtain the aid of the Creative and meet with success after the storm has passed.

It is a wise person who observes the guidance presented in the moment and acts accordingly.  As it is the ego that tempts you to act or react to situations without looking properly.  Foresight and wisdom come from your intuition and offer great benefit.

All things happen in their proper time.

Have a wonderful and prosperous week!

smiles,
:) Lee
The Mega Coach

 

 

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