Do you have unconditionally loving and fulfilling relationships? When you are with someone you are attracted to are you present in the moment with them? Do you fully associate to the joy and fulfillment available? Do you tune in to what’s going on with them and listen?
Most people are so busy thinking about other things instead of being with the person they are with. Like, what am I going to say, do they like me, when should I make my move? Does this sound familiar? Maybe you have your own questions or chatter. Are you texting and playing with your cell phone while with another person?
If you are busy thinking about anything else other than the person you are with how can you be fully present with them? When you are thinking, or concerned about how it’s going, then you are not engaged in being with the other person. Magic happens in those special, little moments that most people miss because they are distracted and somewhere else.
Are you in the past, present or future when you are asking someone for a date or when spending “quality time.” Maybe your thinking about something you have to do later. Maybe something from earlier in the day is nagging at you. The point of greatest power is always the present moment.
How important is it for you to be present to experience true communication and clarity to connect with another person? How important is active listening when you are with another person? Active listening is listening from the point of view of the speaker. It does not mean trying to finish their sentences while they are speaking, or figuring out what you are going to say, or trying to come up with something cool to impress them. Do you see how easy it is to be distracted or occupied when you are actually wanting to be with someone or make a good impression?
Do you expect to create wonderful, meaningful, fun and passionate relationships with someone if you are not really there with them? What do you think the other person is feeling when they sense you are not really listening to them or are not connecting with them? Maybe they think you do not really like them? How does this affects your results?
These patterns do not just affect romantic relationships. They affect family interactions between parents and their children and between relatives. Does the quality of your communication affect everyone in your life, especially you? What would happen if you were present when you communicate with your children and taught them by your example?
Take a look at your business relationships – jobs, interviews, opportunities, contracts, sales, training, merger, etc. – You succeed or fail by the quality of being present, and your listening skills. What about your body language, tone and words? Communication is made up of so many nuances and components that can either enhance or destroy potential outcomes and relationships?
What if you could improve the quality of your communication?
What if you could learn powerful information to be more present and become a good listener?
What if you could become a master communicator?
How would this change your life, your business and your success?
These subjects and more along with great ideas and solutions can be found in Ariel and Shya Kanes’ book, “How to Have A Match Made in Heaven.” The Kanes have been communication specialists for decades and have coached and consulted thousands of individuals, couples and companies.
Remember, the most important person that you communicate with every moment is YOU!
The MEGA Coach