Do you have the kind of relationships you want?
When you are with someone you are attracted to are you present in the moment with them?
Do you fully associate to the joy and fulfillment available?
I know it seems like a simple question, but most people are so busy thinking about things while they are with someone else. Like, what am I going to say, do they like me, when should I make my move? Does this sound familiar? Maybe you have your own questions or chatter. I am amazed at how many people are texting and playing with their cell phones while with another person.
My question to you is, if you are busy thinking about anything when you are with the person you are with and maybe even attracted to, how can you be fully present with them? Because if you are thinking, or concerned about how it’s going, then you are not really engaged in your energy to being with the other person. Magic happens in those special, little moments that most people miss because they are busy thinking or worried about how they are doing.
That’s why this picture is a great reminder…are you in the past, present or future when you are asking someone for a date or with them spending “quality time.” Maybe your thinking about something you have to do later. Maybe something from earlier the day is nagging at you. Remember, the point of greatest power is always the present moment.
So how important is it for you to be present to experience true communication, clarity and connect with another person? In addition to being present, how important is active listening when you are with another person? Active listening or being fully present when someone is speaking is listening from the point of view of the speaker. It does not mean trying to finish their sentences while they are speaking, or figure out what you are going to say, or trying to come up with something cool to impress them. Do you see how easy it is to be distracted or occupied when you are actually wanting to be with someone or make a good impression?
How can you create wonderful, meaningful, fun, passionate relationships with someone if you are not really there with them? What do you think the other person is feeling when they sense you are not really listening to them or are not connecting with them? Maybe they think you do not really like them? How often do you think these factors affect the quality of your relationships and outcomes?
By the way, these patterns do not just affect romantic relationships. Look at how they affect family interactions between parents and their children. How about between relatives? Doesn’t the quality of your communication affects everyone in your life, especially you. What would happen if you were present and really communicated with your children and taught them by example?
Take a look at your business relationships – jobs, interviews, opportunities, contracts, sales, training, merger, etc. – they all can be lost or gained by the quality of being present, and true listening skills. What about body language, tone and words? Do you see that communication is made up of so many nuances and components that can either enhance or destroy potential outcomes and relationships?
What if you could improve the quality of your communication?
What if you could learn powerful information to be more present and become a good listener?
What if you could become a master communicator?
How would this change your life, your business and your success?
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Remember, the most important person that you communicate with every moment is YOU!
The MEGA Coach