This week’s theme is Magical, Fulfilling Relationships.
Do you have one with your special partner?
Do you have magical, fulfilling relationships with your family, friends, co-workers and the people around you? Maybe you have good relationships….could they be better? Do you want them to be better? Maybe you do not have any, don’t worry things can change, or even transform if you do. Success leaves clues and it sure helps being around people who are examples of what you are looking to create or achieve.
Back in 1983, I was a young man living in NYC wanting to succeed big time, in all areas of my life. Fortunately, I met a wonderful man, Michael Wyman, who helped people live their dreams and taught a seminar called “The Power of Acknowledgement.” In this seminar I learned about being, not doing or having…..just being. What a concept! In NYC there was not much time to be because there was so much to do, so many people to deal with and so little time….at least so I thought.
In the months that followed, my life starting transforming….not just changing but transforming. Spending time with Michael was unlike anything I had experienced before. When I spoke to Michael I felted truly heard, listened to and acknowledged. When he looked into your eyes, which he did consistently when speaking or listening with you, it was as if he saw into your soul. It felt really good. He asked what my vision and purpose was for my life, my career, my health and my relationships? No one had every asked me these questions before. It started a process inside me that continues to this day.
From that moment on, my life took on a new direction. Being financially successful, having the things that I always wanted was not so all important anymore. I wanted to grow and to find out who I was and what I truly wanted in my heart, not just in my head. I was 27 years old, had a BA in Economics and an MBA in Finance and I felt like my real education was just beginning. It was a very exciting and I spent as much time as I could with Michael for a number of years. We became partners and he shared his wisdom and his heart with me and trained me to teach his wonderful workshops. I read every book and took every seminar that I could on personal growth and success. The human potential field was exploding. I met Tony Robbins, Stuart Wilde, Zig Ziegler, Dr. Vasant Lad, Steve Stein, Laurie Sue Brockway and so many incredible people and teachers. I was on the fast track to health, happiness, wealth and fulfillment.
Our seminar company was growing, so was my income, I started teaching corporate sales seminars and worked with Tony Robbins on his staff for a few years. In 1986 I married a powerful woman who was Tony Robbins’s top female trainer at the time. We were in love and life was great. At least so I thought. Within a year, the party was over, our marriage was crumbling and I was lost. How could it all fall apart so fast? Another relationship seemed to be ending.
At that time a friend, Brett recommended that we meet Ariel and Shya Kane. They had just come back from Europe and were sharing incredible, transformational information about being present and living in the moment. Brett thought they could help us. He was right. The first thing I noticed about Ariel and Shya was that they treated each other differently than any couple I knew or ever met. They listened to each other, spoke individually and collectively to our group and could even finish each other’s sentences spontaneously and brilliantly. They lived what they talked about. They shared their experience and what worked for them and suggested others try it and see how it worked for them.
A lot fascinated me. Specifically their communication and relationships skills. They shared powerful information about communication, really listening to the speaker from the speaker’s point of view and being present to the nuances in the communication and the person you were with. As much as I had learned from Michael and Tony Robbins, who was hailed as a “Master Communicator,” I was discovering exciting new information and skill sets with Ariel & Shya and creating a different reality. My life was transforming again and I had hope!
My first wife and I discovered that it was best for us to separate, as we were moving in different directions, but I continued working closely with Ariel & Shya for the next few years. Not only did I learn and grow so much but I had a lot of fun too. There were also times when I faced my greatest personal challenges and some of the most difficult patterns of my life. But through it all Ariel and Shya and many other good friends around them were honest and compassionate with me. There are times when the best thing that could happen is for the people who really know you to be straight with you and give you accurate feedback so that you can see your actual behavior and its affects, not what you think is happening. I am forever grateful, because that became the foundation in some key areas for my future success and happiness.
Although when I met Ariel & Shya, I had a number of quality relationships since college, they always ended after about 2 years, even my first marriage. After learning and practicing the principles they shared, my relationships significantly improved. I had a relationship make it four years. Then in 1995 I moved to Southern California and met the woman of my dreams, Denise and we have been together ever since our first date. We are going on 16 years of magic together and 7 years of marriage. This one is always and forever.
Now, what’s all this mean for you? Well, on September 4th, Ariel & Shya are coming out with their brand new blockbuster book, “How to Have A Match Made in Heaven.“ It’s a transformational approach to dating, relating and marriage. This week, I will be sharing with you powerful information that can transform your relationships, both personal or business to a much higher level of accuracy, quality, respect, intimacy and success. You will also find out how to access great information from Ariel & Shya’s website, books, seminars and coaching.
As I said, success leaves clues and when I returned to NYC last May I visited Ariel & Shya at their “Monday Night Alive” meeting after twenty years. There was a great group of people having fun and passionately exploring and discovering new ways to improve the quality of their lives. I even connected with some great friends from twenty years ago that are still thriving and moving forward with their lives and still continue to work with Ariel & Shya. I noticed that many of the participants “twinkled” with a definite glow and excitement about life.
I first met Ariel & Shya in 1987 and since then they have a long trail of success in many areas of life and business, but along their entire path are people who have improved their lives in so many incredible ways. Ariel & Shya are definitely catalysts of transformation and when you spend time with them you can’t help but feel their love, passion and commitment. They are dedicated to making a difference. I have seen more fulfilled couples around them over the past twenty five years than anywhere else I know. As I was there in the last 1980′s when Ariel & Shya first started teaching, it is very special for me to see how their love has deepened after so many years and continues to be fresh and grow.
Ariel & Shya’s website link is on the right under my Blogroll, so just click on “Instantaneous Transformation“ and check out all of the many opportunities they offer. There are some very special prizes and giveaways coming up on September 4th when they launch their new book. By the way, I started reading an advance copy this weekend and you do not want to miss this information!
Check back each day on my blog for new information regarding communication and how to achieve the best relationships possible, along with more information on Ariel & Shya.
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”
Henry David Thoreau
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