Happy Haven with Brandi-Ann Uyemura

Happy Haven with Brandi-Ann Uyemura

How to Be Okay With the Unknown

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I guarantee our ancestors were better at it than we are. They didn’t have smart phones back then, or tablets, or digital notebooks. They looked to the stars for guidance and their hearts for hope. And when it got really bad, they sat on the earth, lifted their palms up to the sky and prayed for guidance.

I wish I had their faith and confidence. (I’m the type of girl who needs to check her iPad for the weather before deciding what to wear in the morning.)


With all our fancy gadgets, you’d think we’d be stronger, more courageous and adventurous. In some ways, yes. But surprisingly, it’s getting good with the not knowing in life that makes us strong.

The Bad Thing About Technology

I think technology has just given us a false sense of control. And we’ve gotten too comfortable in thinking we can know and control everything. So much so that when something hits us (an illness, a death, a loss), when something alters the way we perceived things previously, we’re shaken to our core. And that unsettling experience propels us from the false veil/shield we thought would prevent us from difficulty.

I don’t think we will ever get to a point where we enjoy the hardships, look forward to the pain or feel automatically grateful for it. But I think in learning that none of us really had control to begin with, we can let go just a little bit. We can stretch our arms into the unknown, feel the fear and be in awe of its power. We can remember that our lives are both greater and smaller than we make it. And instead of feeling anxious and overwhelmed by the enormity of that knowledge, we can remember that love, spirituality, hope, and faith always trumps fear.


We don’t need to know everything. Even if we knew the end of the story, we would not be any less fearful or more smarter, wiser, or stronger. For our lives to work the way it was meant to, we must let it unravel slow, bit by bit, giving us a chance to experience each moment as it should-when we have enough resources to digest it.

It’s okay if you don’t know what will happen next. It’s okay that you’re afraid. Realize that none of us have the insight or ability to completely predict the future or know what comes next. You are more than the choices you make and the decisions you didn’t choose.

Know this.

You will be okay regardless.


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