Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

The myth of closure

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My heart goes out to all those touched by the loss of the Malaysian jetliner, which is said to have crashed into the Indian Ocean with all lives aboard lost. What agony the families and friends must be feeling, collectively and individually, and how horrible that their grief has been compounded by agonizing days of waiting for word, any word, about the fate of their loved ones.

Now, on the news and in other reports, I’m hearing a lot about “closure,” and how it might be possible, once remnants of the plane are found and possible human remains, too, for family members and others to get “closure.” I feel as if, by saying this, we should think that tangible discoveries will somehow dull loss and assuage grief. But, having suffered many a loss myself, I am more inclined to believe that these proofs of the fate of the airliner and its passengers and crew might provide one piece of the puzzle, but true closure will probably never occur. And, in fact, in any heart-wrenching loss, closure doesn’t really put the lid on grief, either.

A loss is felt in so many different ways and under different circumstances that it’s impossible to go through life afterward as if, completely, the loss never happened at all. As if, by going through the motions of facts, services, and closets and drawers, we can compartmentalize our loss so surely that it won’t re-emerge or hurt again. As if, after a certain timeframe after the loss, the days have passed and the future holds no looking back or feeling the loss. Some in society might think otherwise and expect that a person can get back to “normal” within a certain period of time. But those who have lost a loved one understand that days, years afterward, if we’re honest with ourselves, we think of things we’d like to say to the person who has passed. Or, we regret something and wish we could take it back. Or, we arrive at a milestone in our lives and wish that person were with us to celebrate, too.  Those who lost someone on the Malaysian airliner might expect closure, but what they’ll feel for years to come is something else entirely.

Even in the moment of supreme grief, it is possible to laugh, remember fondly, love and have faith. As time passes, we have more moments of these and other positive, affirming emotions. Our spirits are truly resilient, and God is with us all the time, so He brings comfort every day and night. But, closure? Complete and final? I think that it really is  a myth.

So, I’ll continue to pray for all those who’ve lost loved ones, whether on the flight or in other respects. Compassion for those who mourn doesn’t have an expiration date, just as grief doesn’t, either.

Blessings for the day,

Maureen

Blooming Time!

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Photo courtesy of Maureen Pratt/www.maureenpratt.com

Not long ago, I posted a picture of my season-challenged Christmas cactus. It had bloomed at, when else, Christmas, but for some reason a few weeks ago began producing buds again! Just in time for…Lent?!

As sometimes happens with plants, you never know quite what is going to happen. I thought, perhaps, the buds might not open, but still took the opportunity to offer an observation in a blog that it’s never the wrong time to bloom when it comes to life.

Today, I’m happy to post this picture of my blooming Christmas cactus. We’ve just passed the 3rd Sunday of Lent, and if the buds and blooms are any indication, I might have these beautiful flowers at least until Palm Sunday. Thank you, Lord, for the surprise treat!

Of course, I have another thought besides the obvious to offer – Just as it’s never too late or too early to blossom with God’s light and love, so, too, it’s never a bad idea to let that light shine as brightly as can be. If it’s Lent and your a Christmas cactus, bloom anyway! If you’re in pain and you feel like sharing support with a friend – do it anyway!

And if you’re living with a chronic illness that seems to never let up, praise God anyway! That light that you shine in the face of suffering is mighty powerful and can work in ways you might have only begun to understand.

Blessings for the day,

Maureen

A Prayer for the Restless Spirit

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For all of you whose spirit is restless and waiting…

 

Lord, I’ve prayed for a cure, but none has come. I’ve prayed for understanding of “why,” and haven’t received that, either. I sit, stand, and wait, Lord, for your wisdom and word, but O, Lord, my spirit is restless.

Inside of me is worry, and it is growing stronger. Disappointment, and it festers. My courage is flagging. My patience is falling away. And, even more, my spirit is restless.

So, Father in Heaven, instead of praying more for a cure or understanding or a release from pain, I turn to you with another supplication: Please, Lord, be with me and help me. Help me in my frustration and disappointment. Help me in my fragility.

And, most of all, Lord, help me in my restlessness so that I may be still and quiet and truly listen and truly hear. For I love you, Lord, with all my heart. And my restless spirit does, too.

Maureen

Add a Little Spring!

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Image courtesy of SimonHowden/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Hallelujah! Today is the first day of Spring!

Even if your neighborhood is still digging out from snow, or you have to wear heavy clothing just to go out to get the mail, rest assured, the calendar has spoken – Spring has begun, and we can benefit in so many ways just from the knowledge that warmer weather and more abundant blooming is just around the corner.

If you’re having a bad day, remember that Spring is going to spring.

If your pain is particularly bad, focus – a little or a lot – on the beauty that will soon blossom and the marvel that is God’s world around.

If your illness is flaring, and you’re really frustrated about it, meditate today about how the world has been through a really, really rough winter – but God is now about to give us the gift of Spring outside and will surely give us spring inside, too.

Need something more tangible than a thought or a meditation focus to make Spring seem possible?

Linger in the Produce and Floral section of your grocery store and see the variety that abounds, now.

Add something enjoyable and relaxing to the extra hour of daylight we have, now, and put this “Spring ahead” time to good use.

Read the Gospel accounts of Jesus’ arrest, death, and resurrection, the foundation of our faith, and let the profound implications for each of us sink in deeply and rejuvenate your spirit.

In short, in all, add a little Spring today to celebrate what is and is to come. And let that, too, accompany you through your journey now and in the days and months to come.

Blessings for the day,

Maureen

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