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Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

The Importance of an Illness Mentor

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Second close-up of pictureWhen we work, a mentor can be a valuable ally as well as someone who steers us when we might be heading in the wrong direction. A spiritual mentor (or spiritual director) can be a wealth of wisdom and guidance, especially when life gets murky. And a mentor who has lived longer with the illness from which we suffer can be a tremendous support, too, a light for us when we might think all is darkness.

An illness mentor isn’t a doctor to us; we still need to work first with our medical team to manage our treatment, diagnoses, tests, and lifestyle issues impacted by our health challenges. But an illness mentor still fills an essential role in providing encouragement, a shoulder to cry on (yes, this is part of the journey!) and someone whose own life path can provide insight into how we, too, can “have a life” even if it is punctuated by frustrating and derailing symptoms.

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I met my treasured illness mentor, who is now a great friend, at my first lupus support group meeting. Her humor, knowledge, and common sense approach to the disease was greatly steadying after I’d gone through my first gauntlet of specialists and website “information hubs,” which were  unsettling (to say the least). Through the years, my mentor has been a rock of support and a source of humor and strength – an essential part of my life then and now.

It might take a few tries to find the right fit with an illness mentor. And it’s  important to remember that he or she also is dealing with tough health issues, so at times, we will (and willingly) be support right back! But life with illness is greatly enhancesd by a mentor who has “been there, done that,” and can shine a light for us, even when it seems very, very dark indeed!

Peace,

Maureen

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Chronic Pain and Illness: Aftermath of a Storm

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Image Courtesy of dan at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image Courtesy of dan at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I wish I’d had my camera!

Our area was pummelled by significant rain and wind last week, and in some places, there was flooding and even a suspected tornado! But in the aftermath, when the sun poked out from the receding clouds, oh, my, what a glory of light and clean air! It was wonderful, and very nice to be outside in the aftermath. But as I drove to the corner of my block and looked to the left, I saw a scary scene: A huge tree had toppled, its multiple branches and broad trunk spanned the street, blocking any traffic.

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And, beneath the thickest part of the trunk was a car, its top utterly smashed.

This is the second such tree-fall after a storm in our neighborhood. And it is, I’m sure, scientifically indicative of the effects of a drought and then torrential rains – trees starved for water and then the ground in which they grow suddenly becomes mush and roots can no longer provide an anchor for the dry, weak growth above.

But it also is a metaphor for something that often happens when we’ve just endured a very rough time with our illness or pain. When a catastrophic period occurs, we cling to God, hope, prayer, and other supports to get us through. But in the calm afterwards, sometimes we let go of those supports, perhaps thinking we only needed them in the middle of the storm. And we learn, as we begin to stumble again, that those are the very things on which we must rely at all times, in all “seasons,” rain or shine.

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Thankfully, no one was hurt by the tumble of the tree. Oh, yes, it snarled traffic and certainly provided a challenge for clean-up of car and street. But now, life continues and traffic flows.

But the reminder of what can happen in the aftermath of a storm is a good one: Keep our roots planted in faith always, and even if the ground becomes movable, we will stand firm!

Peace,

Maureen

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New Book Coming! Don’t Panic!

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Smaller book cover Dont PanicThis spring, my new book will arrive in bookstores and readers’ hands!

Don’t Panic!: How to Keep Going When the Going Gets Tough is for anyone who feels unsettled, even panicky, today, whether because of illness or personal turmoil or because of events moving and shaping our world. It contains practical advice on ways to help ourselves lessen stress, and very faith-filled examples of people who’ve overcome tremendous crises with grace, strength, and insight for us all.

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The book is an extension of how I believe we can take off victimhood and put on a resilient, deep-rooted sense of being calm even when other things in our lives are roiling the proverbial (and actual) waters. And I was thinking of it this week, as I had a tough couple of medical appointments, where keeping calm was important to a good outcome.

As many of you who live with ongoing health issues can appreciate, often, we have to give blood. But as we move through the days and years, we might begin to feel as if we’re pincushions. And it might become more difficult for phlebotomists to get blood from over-worked veins. This is the case with me, and this week, even my “good” arm was having a very “bad time.” It took two trips, three different blood-getters, and five sticks to finally get what was needed. As I type this, my arms are still sore, somewhat bruised, and I’m praying that the tests won’t lead to the need for more sticks anytime soon.

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Throughout this most recent ordeal, I relied on techniques I outline in Don’t Panic!: How to Keep Going When the Going Gets Tough.  The last (and successful) phlebotomist remarked that despite the difficulties and pain, I’d remained calm throughout. This definitely aided in eventual success, and it’s a lesson I’ll take well into this New Year.

There’s more I can say about the book – and I will in coming blogs. Yes, it’s a tough world today, and it’s even tougher to live in it with serious health issues. But, we need not panic; God is on our side, and we have wonderful tools within us to help us be and keep calm.

Joy and peace,

Maureen

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A Prayer for Doctors in This New Year

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Image Courtesy of graur codrin/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image Courtesy of graur codrin/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Two doctors I know have fallen very ill at the begining of this New Year. They’re hard workers and do not hesitate to help their patients, no matter how ill those patients might be. We sometimes forget that our doctors (and other medical professionals on our team) are people, too, and in their work they come in contact to many more sickies than we do – with sometimes dangerous consequences. So, here is a prayer for these wonderful caregivers – with much thanks and hope for a speedy recovery!

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Oh, Lord, you have put  many wonderful, caring people in my life.

I thank you for them, Lord, and I ask that they be protected from sickness and pain

as they reach out to help even the sickest and lowliest among us.

Give all medical professionals strength, Lord, and help them get enough

sleep, exercise, and nutrition to be able to maintain their own health

as they work.

And if they do fall ill, Lord, please give them the very same, excellent care that they provide to us,

help them heal swiftly.

and as they get back to work, help them use their experience as a patient

to reflect grace and compassion upon those whom they serve.

In Jesus name, I pray,

Amen.

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