Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt


The greater the cheer, the greater the pain?

posted by mpratt
Image courtesy of nuchylee/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of nuchylee/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

If you have felt great loss this year, or if your health challenges are weighing heavily upon your spirit and life, the “cheer” that accompanies this season can be particularly difficult to be around.  In fact, the great the cheer around you, the greater might be the pain that you feel. Much like rubbing salt into a deep wound.

Perhaps retreating seems like a good idea about now. You want to avoid further hurt, and even the faintest Christmas carol can stir up your pain to the point of you breaking down.  But family commitments, work responsibilities, and other externals are powerful and important – and you can’t just curl up into a ball and wait out your extra pain until January.

What do you do?

Your medical team is a tremendous support for you, now. For those of us who live with chronic pain and illness – health challenges that can flare terribly during this Season – we sometimes forget that the “intangibles” matter, not just the rashes and other tangible manifestations of our illnesses. So, do not hesitate to talk about how you’re feeling with your doctor.

Also, understand that God is walking with you. Sense Him beside you, and sense that He wants to comfort you. Reach out for this comfort in prayer; you are no failure if you are hurting at a time that is supposed to be happy. You are uniquely, profoundly you, and God loves who you are now, in your present. Feel no guilt for sorrow, but let your tears wash and cleanse that sorrow and bring you through.

As we harbor pain in  our hearts, it’s important and helpful to remember that others hurt, too. Perhaps your whole family is dealing with a significant loss, or perhaps a friend is. But even if they are not, there are many throughout the world who are. And, if you cannot actively participate in volunteer activities, if you cannot be where those hurting are, you can be a powerful prayer warrior this season, turning your supplications toward the heavens on behalf of those who might be too weak, too low, too hurting to do so for themselves.

Advent is a season of waiting, but it also calls for us to become new – new in the spirit, new in our lives. Our losses make this hard to do because we remember those who were and that which was. It’s hard, but not impossible, to forge new traditions and to fold our losses into that which we celebrate at this time. Consciously work to bring your loss into this Season in a way that remembers, but also acknowledges that the present is blending into a future that need not always be so crushing. Light a candle for your loved one, relate cherished stories, and move ahead, seeking a joy that is within you because of faith, God’s love, and unwavering hope.

Our losses will undoubtedly bring tears, especially at this time of year. But we can work with them and through them, for there is still much to be thankful for, much to rejoice in, and much more life in which to feel God’s love – sure, true, and wondrous love.

Blessings for the day,

Maureen

 

 



Advertisement
Comments Post the First Comment »
post a comment

Comments are closed.



Previous Posts

TLC Tuesday: What if you missed Tuesday?
If you have a chronic illness or live with serious pain, you know that sometimes, you "miss" a day or two in the week. It's too hard to get out of bed. You are going through medical tests, and the outside world seems to disappear into the technicality of prep and procedure. You're brain-fogged, and

posted 1:56:46am Aug. 26, 2014 | read full post »

TLC Tuesday: Slow down!
It's TLC Tuesday, again. But it's also probably the heart of "Back to..." season. Back to school, back to work, back to lots and lots of activities. Yes, activities, and, probably, a lot more stress, a lot more "Hurry up!" But we know that our illnesses and pain often react negatively to "Hurry u

posted 1:31:48am Aug. 26, 2014 | read full post »

Chronic Illness: If You Were Not You
One of the techniques I try to use whenever I'm in a quandry over something regarding my health is to ask, "What if I were not me? What if I were my mother? My sister? My friend? What would I say? Do? Pray over?" This helps me take the sometimes-frustrated or "at sea" me out of the conversation a

posted 1:47:51am Aug. 23, 2014 | read full post »

Prayer for Grace-full Aging
Whether your day has passed or is coming up, we all will age one more year this year and onward. We cannot turn back the clock, but we can turn on grace as we move ahead. Her

posted 1:30:27am Aug. 21, 2014 | read full post »

TLC Tuesday: Laugh!
Oh, yes, I know about the scientific studies and the group research touting its benefits. I know all about the mechanics and the music of it. But sometimes, it is difficult to find the gift and the boost of laughter. Suggestion for today:  Perhaps you are having a bad day, or know someone who

posted 1:24:57am Aug. 19, 2014 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.