I know I have blogged–okay, bragged–about Elise Erikson Barrett’s book before, but I wanted to provide a link to the most recent WJK Radio podcast in which she is interviewed about her new book, What Was Lost: A Christian Journey through Miscarriage. In the interview I got to ask her about some of my favorite passages in the book. We also discuss the top things never to say to someone who has had a miscarriage. As Elise says, pretty much any sentence that begins with “at least” is flat out. No “At least you have other children” or “At least you know you can get pregnant.” (That last remark is something my doctor said to me, and it didn’t really feel that comforting.)
On a related note, this week I found out that an acquaintance of mine, Adam Walker Cleaveland, lost his infant twin sons last month. They were born extremely premature at 19 weeks and could not survive. In his grief, he is reaching out to other parents who have lost pregnancies and especially to dads through his blog, the Dazed Dad. My heart goes out to Adam and to everyone who suffers this loss.