Bernie Brillstein was an inspiration and a generally popular man who worked as a Manager in Hollywood.  He represented some of the most famous comedians of all time.  He wrote several books near the end of his life and The Little Stuff Matters Most: 50 Rules from 50 Years of Trying to Make a Living offers great insights into why doing the simple things keep you in the flow of life and turn occurrences into opportunities.

It’s interesting how we overlook the little things when we are caught up in the drama of our story.  Today try to remember the little things matter.  The small acts of inclusion.

I was out with a girl friend last night at a Hollywood mixer, it wasn’t that crowded and everyone was talking with everyone. This guy approached us and we all said hello. He mentioned he was an actor and asked the two of us what we do “I said I am a writer” and my friend answered “I am an independent producer.”  The guy went on to tell us he had just dropped his agent “Not a hair moved” and that he was working at a survival job that he wanted to kill himself.  He shared that he had just finished an advanced course weekend with a spiritually minded organization and he was working on himself. It was all way more than we needed to know but he was a nice guy. My friend and I were ready to go and as we started to leave the guy pulled out his business card and handed one to my friend saying to me “If you were an independent producer I would give you one.”

I couldn’t believe what I heard and I couldn’t believe in a town full of actors and writers and everyone under the sun looking to be understood that his approach would be separating who could be helpful and who would not be helpful instead of sharing, his exclusory approach was keeping this guy in a limiting bubble of contacts. Who is to say who knows someone who can help you or how they are guided to be in service to you.

By not giving me a card he cut off his nose to spite his face. His behavior creating a result that he does not want.

How often is our lack of presence to ourselves and our ingraciousness leading to doors closing?

Day Sixty Seven of  Melanie Lutz’s 100 days of Love and Inspiration.

Melanie Lutz is a screenwriter, author, and poet living in Los Angeles.  Follow her on Twitter….Tweets by @mobilemel