Fellowship of Saints and Sinners

Fellowship of Saints and Sinners


Most Popular Posts and A Response to Flirt to Convert

It’s always amusing to discover which of my previous posts have been shared the most in the blogosphere. With 399 shares, “Flirt to Convert” is one of them. And it seems that posts relating in some way to love, marriage, sex and gender are largely the most popular among my fellow saints and sinners. With one exception. Technically, “You Know It’s a Bad Day When You’re Giving a Blowjob to a Stranger for $5″ (640 shares) isn’t really about sex, in spite of its title; it’s more about the systemic nature of poverty and the tragedy of prostitution and sexual exploitation as (often) a symptom of that poverty.

This week in response to “Flirt to Convert,” another reader shared her take on so-called missionary dating:

Based on my 20 years of marriage to a non-believer, my choice now is to date only believers. I fell in love with a man who is an agnostic. Some people told me, with great judgment, that it was a sin to marry him. Others told me that God had entrusted him to my loving care. The reality was this: my relationship with God suffered, and we lacked a shared life map and commitment to God that are necessary to a good marriage. I understand now in sharp detail why we are not to be unequally yoked. I don’t date anyone who is not a Christian. If I date a non-Christian, I may find myself right back in love and justifying why “it’ll be okay” to marry him. And who knows? Maybe hearing that my faith is that important to me may plant a seed in a non-believer. May God bless you.

So what do you think on the matter? Is it worth the risk to date someone who doesn’t share your faith? Or, would you agree with this reader?



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posted 6:16:41pm Nov. 12, 2014 | read full post »

The Prodigal God—Inspirations from Tim Keller's Book
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posted 10:04:03am Nov. 01, 2014 | read full post »

The Neuroscience of Temptation
It's been too long. I hope you're enjoying God and life. That next book I'm working on is now evolving into a book about addiction and mental illness—and how churches can and must learn to love and wel

posted 1:52:23am Oct. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Brokenness—as Creative Tension?
This morning a meditation from Paula Ripple's Growing Strong at Broken Places sparks some thoughts about embracing brokenness as the very site where God seeks to form us, like a master po

posted 10:13:15am Oct. 03, 2014 | read full post »

Mental Health Break—The Worship Service To End All Worship Services
It's been a while since we've had a mental health break. As a little bit of comic relief at the start of another work week, this clip from a worship service somewhere in America comes from saint and sinner Paul. The comments from readers are just about as funny as the weird break dancing routine in

posted 2:12:30am Sep. 30, 2014 | read full post »




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