Face the Pain

Face the Pain


Husband, father, trainer…All of me Face The Pain!

posted by Jana Melpolder

When I realized why God put me on this earth, Christian life for me opened up and became so much easier.  Lives are changed when others reap the benefits from inspiring one individual.  For me, this happens when I encourage someone who encourages others.  I motivate people to get healthy!   I encourage others both to strengthen their body and mind.  It is amazing what a few resistance exercises and an improvement in nutrition can accomplish.  How do I do it?  I listen to and learn from people. I take what they say and help them use it to make improvements with their lifestyle choices.  Most of the time I help them transform into a physically stronger, and mentally more confident person.  There are, however, instances when I use their own words against them to create change.  This is what I call Tough Love.  I tell them what they have to hear, not what they want or need to hear.  I tell them the truth!  To improve one’s health and body it takes consistent exercise, sound nutrition, time and patience.  It’s a process!  Facing The Pain of your own body and mind.

I am more than just a personal trainer and coach.  I am a husband and father.  My wife, Lisa, and I have a son named William.  He is amazing!  William was born a 1lb 14oz micro preemie on September 11, 2006.  We were told by the doctors that he would not live.  “He will not walk.  He will not be able to see.  He will not be able to breathe on his own.  He will not be able to feed himself.  He will be stuck in a wheel chair for the rest of his life”.  We grudgingly digested their bleak prediction, yet embraced our son’s complications and set backs with faith that he would prevail.  Here I am almost 5 years later writing about him!

Along with William, I am Facing The Pain.  There is nothing easy about William’s battle.  It’s everyday.  There are ups and downs.  I do my best to maintain a positive attitude, and, at the same time I have moments when I break down into tears.  The feeling is indescribable.  What I do know is that ever since I started writing about this experience, I feel better.  Many say that time heals, however, a friend of mine emphasized, “It’s not just time that heals, it’s what you do with that time.”  Therefore, I am using my time wisely and blogging diligently.  Writing heals!

I look forward to sharing  through my eyes and heart actual moments of my son’s life with Cerebral Palsy.   His life continually opens my eyes as a husband, a father, and a business owner.  William is my strength and inspiration.  I see where he began, see where he is, and see where he is headed.  Much like what I do for a living, it’s a process.  I Face The Pain.  I give myself my own Tough Love.

My son is a person with special needs and I believe he will do everything doctors promised he would not.  It will take time and patience.  It will happen.  I have embraced his struggle as well as my own.  I am hopeful.  I have faith.

Billy



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Mario

posted May 30, 2012 at 7:15 am


Thats a great thing you guys are doing, helping others is one of the best things you can do!

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Clark Smith

posted July 28, 2011 at 9:21 pm


Please tell me more about Ms. Roth. Does she travel to your home, or does she have her own facility? Are her rates reasonable? It sounds as if she works with William on a 1-on-1 basis. Does she also work with groups? Please post Ms. Roth’s information, particularly her fee schedule. Bless you, your family, and Ms. Roth!



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byancey

posted July 15, 2011 at 5:40 pm


Lisa,

Thank you so much for the kind words. It is encouraging that you took the time to read about my son, William. I will definitely keep writing. Not only is it helping me with my own pain and frustrations, but moreover, it seems to be helping and encouraging others. That means the world to me. Yes, I did include Conductive Education as one of my categories. We have been blessed with a Conductive Educator by the name of Judit Roth. She is absolutely AMAZING!!!! The progress William has made since teaming up with her is nothing short of astonishing! William is more mobile, has a stronger core, is more verbal and is closer and closer to walking unassisted everyday! My wife, Lisa, and I are doing our best to get Conductive Education recognized in the state of Virginia. It is a real shame that it is not. So many women, men, girls and boys would benefit from it.

We most definitely share common ground, Lisa. As a personal trainer and father of a child with special needs I 100% believe that an integral part of attaining goals such as changing your body forever OR walking and doing other tasks unassisted is honoring and sticking with “the process”. In all that WE do a process is involved. Certain things must happen, certain criteria must be met, a certain amount of work must be done, a certain amount of pain must be faced and overcome. Some are willing to accept and embrace the process, whatever it may be, and some are not. This belief was reinforced by me watching my son work with Judit. She does not come to hold hands with William. She comes to teach, coach, push and direct him tough lovingly, period. Plain and simple, if the goal for him is to walk, then he must be taught step by step from the ground up.

Billy



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Lisa Gombinsky

posted July 6, 2011 at 2:09 am


Hi Billy –

My name is Lisa Gombinsky – I am a Canadian personal trainer and a Conductive Educator living and working in Sydney, Australia. I discovered your blog through a friend and a colleague — an English conductive educator living and working in Germany — I believe you have the label ‘Conductive Education’ in your blog which is how Susie was alerted to your blog — gotta love the internet — the world is a very small place. You can find Susie’s post about your blog at http://www.susie-mallett.org/2011/07/bedfordshire-1984-normal-0-21-false.html. I would love to hear more about your Conductive Education experiences

I am writing because I thought we might have some common ground — I am often asked how I make sense of the world working from the extremes of movement and personal training — from able bodied and disabled athletes to regular folk looking to lose weight and be fitter and healthier to elderly people to people working to achieve control over uncooperative bodies due to cerebral palsy, brain injury, ms, parkinson’s etc — anyway — common ground, perhaps something to correspond about

Please keep writing — it is quite rare to hear a father’s voice especially in the world of disability, and you have a gift with honest words and eloquent story-telling

Lisa Gombinsky
Senior Conductor
Personal Trainer



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