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Knowing God

posted by Cheryl Petersen

It’s hard to get to know a person. Even when we think we do know a person, something comes up to surprise us. The good surprises are nice. The bad surprises aren’t. Well, it’s just a hard to get to […]

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Human minds aren’t judging us as much as we think

posted by Cheryl Petersen

It’s important to feel good about our self. When we don’t feel good about our self, our level of self-consciousness is so weighty it takes all the fun out of life. The enormous scope of what it takes for a […]

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I don’t want to be afraid of God

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Leviticus 25:17New International Version (NIV) Do not take advantage of each other, but fear your God. I am the Lord your God.   When I was younger, it was difficult to wrap my head around the demand “to fear God.” […]

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Saying NO

posted by Cheryl Petersen

It’s a quick and snappy word. It’s easy to remember, but do we remember to say it appropriately? The almost universal word, “no” probably began with hunkered down eyebrows, becoming more serious with a shaking head. Well, we can take […]

Human intentions are secondary to the intentions of the Holy Spirit

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Promises generally come with good intentions, however, neither the promise or the intentions have the power to fulfill themselves unless resolve, endurance, diligence, aplomb, grit, and common sense pulls through. Human promises are inert without the Holy Spirit. Promises fall […]

Find a partner for right reasons

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Millions of people are looking for a partner. Why this rampant pursuit? I only ask that because this phenomenon isn’t new. Being a Bible reader, I recall the first chapter of Genesis reiterating a spiritual view of creation. The picture […]

Compromising with a list

posted by Cheryl Petersen

After getting married, although I worked away from the home, I still was in charge of home care and cooking. After having children it was obvious my husband needed to negotiate because the house work was becoming a burden. I […]

We forgive you mommy

posted by Cheryl Petersen

“If you knew the gift of God…” are words imputed to Christ Jesus in the Gospel John. This gift of God is also imputed to us. God’s gifts are not restricted to that which can be observed and studied, the […]

Can this religion be saved?

posted by Cheryl Petersen

For the lack of better words, religions generally refer to shepherds and sheep. Church leaders are the shepherds and church members are the sheep. As with any union, there will be disagreements. Problems in religious unions arise, not because of […]

Experimenting with cookies

posted by Cheryl Petersen

I just made some oatmeal/cranberry/chocolate chip cookies. Spectacular. The recipe wasn’t spectacular. My mixing and baking technique wasn’t spectacular. It’s what I did with those cookies that proved spectacular. I put some in a plastic bag and personally delivered them […]

Don’t bother impressing the turkey

posted by Cheryl Petersen

With Thanksgiving peeking around the corner, I happen to associate moral courage with the holiday. It all started when I was talking with Marie, who was asked to be a Bride’s maid in her friend’s wedding. Marie said yes. Marie […]

Incorporating wisdom and generosity

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Heating expenses come to mind when winter approaches upstate New York, a territory that doesn’t mess around when it comes to snow and cold. Our winters are long. Modern inventions provide for comfort levels beyond what history has known for […]

Raising children without NO

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Exhausted, I slumped into the chair. Our daughter toddled over to the DVD player and started pushing buttons. I blurted, “No, no.” She looked at me, smiling, almost smirking, and pushed a button again. I didn’t feel as though she […]

Ramping up on Relationships

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Decide to be married every day

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Our daughter told me something worth repeating. Because being married isn’t easy, she realized that every single day, she wakes us and decides to be married. “I knew I wanted to get married four years ago. I got married. Some […]

Keeping Tabs on Zeal

posted by Cheryl Petersen

The ceaseless struggle between religious zealotry and common sense conjures conflict and confusion. Zealotry is destructive. Common sense is sometimes uncommon. Zealotry is defined as fanaticism or excessive intolerance of opposing views. But, it also can mean ardor or fervor. […]

Brides Cooking

posted by Cheryl Petersen

It’s been “Brides Cooking” all over again at our house. Thirty years ago, I pumped out what is famously known as brides cooking. Now, my husband has been doing a lot of the cooking and we’ve been eating some interesting […]

Emotional Affairs Stab Happiness in the Back

posted by Cheryl Petersen

The studies are out. The statistics are alarming. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy reports that 20% of married couples have been impacted by emotional infidelity. Infidelity has been redefined in the 21st century.  Infidelity has been broadened […]

Strong Emotions Outside a Marriage

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Human beings are designed to relate. We socialize, communicate, narrate, and associate. In the 21st century, we connect. And, sometimes we connect with someone we really like. The emotional juices get racing, and we can find ourselves fascinated. Emotional relationships […]

Giving Clear Directions

posted by Cheryl Petersen

On my way to an interview, I called for directions and was told, “I live on Del Ave.,” then was asked, “Do you know where Del Ave is?” “No,” I answer scanning the map in my mind. “Drive over the […]

Selective Hearing, Selective Religion

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Why is it that my husband can hear me think, “The cookies are done,” and yet he can’t hear me verbally repeat over and over, “Please don’t wash my blouse with the mudroom rugs”? He can be on the other […]

Languages within a Language

posted by Cheryl Petersen

I meet a lot of people throughout the week as a newspaper reporter. I’ve concluded, although they all speak the English language, they have their own language within that language. And, if I don’t try really hard to understand them, […]

Deformity is in the Eye of the Beholder

posted by Cheryl Petersen

As a newspaper reporter, I cover stories that not only support the fact that what we physically see and hear is a subjective state of human mind, but also that people utilize this rule to free themselves of that which […]

An Argument Disguised as Complacency

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Anytime we criticize others, we really need to zero in and see if there is any validation to the remark. I hear preachers and religious congregants say things like, “Religion is dying because the people are so materialistic.” Granted, the […]

An Argument Disguised as Self-Righteousness

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Have you ever caught yourself wanting to be right? Have you ever caught yourself wanting to have it your way? Never works, does it? Even if we are right, or do get our way, life inevitably moves on and we […]

Matt Dances with the World

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Hope you like this video. Made my day. From 21st Century Science and Health, “The governor is not subject to the governed. Rhythm is not controlled by music notes, dance steps, or artistic performances. Rhythm controls the notes, and rhythm […]

Families Eating Together

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Parade Magazine had a front cover story Food, Family & Fatherhood, by Bruce Fieler, who talks with Chef, John Besh, and garners his thoughts on What’s for Dinner Dad? Good article. Honest and relatable. Although the statistics have it that […]

Replacing Loneliness

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Internet users want to avoid being phished—or deceived into giving out personal information by a legitimate looking icon that will later cause chaos in their life. No one really wants to be phished because it makes us feel like a […]

Stop Emotions from Hijacking Consciousness

posted by Cheryl Petersen

This is a terrible way to start an article, but it gets better fast. It was years ago and I had a form of Streptococcus that made my ear drain puss constantly. The doctor gave me antibiotics and told me […]

What About Punishment?

posted by Cheryl Petersen

I remember one day I was hot and tired, making dinner in the kitchen while the children were running around me playing. A daughter stopped and asked me a question—an abstract question that required genuine effort to wrap my brain […]

Looking Under the Car

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Last night, I got in the car and waited for Doug. Just before Doug got in the car, I asked, “Please check under the car for a cat.” Doug rolls his eyes and bends over, trying not to get dirty, […]

Crying Heart

posted by Cheryl Petersen

I just received a call from a friend who broke off a close relationship. I love them both and don’t want them to hurt. I also just read about a U.S. soldier who turned himself after killing 16 people in […]

The Foster Parenting Toolbox

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Doug and I were licensed foster parents for 15 years. I know fostering isn’t for everyone, it just happened to speak to me and open a world of understanding and empathy for which I am extremely  thankful. The new book […]

Empty Nest is Okay

posted by Cheryl Petersen

I recently met Anne and John Gohorel. They have circumvented the empty nest syndrome. Even though they live in a sparsely populated area, the Gohorels discovered a market for homemade organic bread and therefore started the new business of the […]

Gotta Laugh

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Oh sure, my last blog post is about making marriage work and this morning my husband wakes up grumpy and not exactly nice. Doug does apologize before going to work, but I could feel my brain triggering anger. I stood […]

What Keeps a Marriage Together?

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Human lifestyles or attitudes are not what keep a relationship intact. Truth keeps relationships intact. And the truth is we have to be adaptable in this world or else we adapt to all the materialism, consumerism, isolation, heartache, and deluge […]

Four Legged Grandchildren

posted by Cheryl Petersen

At first I crinkled my nose when I was introduced as “Grandma.” Not so much because I was WAY TOO YOUNG to be a grandma but because I was being referred to as a grandma to doggies and a kitty. […]

Give-and-Take in Marriage

posted by Cheryl Petersen

My husband and I compromise. However, the give-and-take is not a symptom of, “If you do this, I’ll do that,” syndrome. We compromise by applying spiritual rules of common sense, forgiveness, and honesty. The hardest part is not getting set […]

Children and CEO’s

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Last week, I got a phone call. “Cheryl can you please come in and work for Kathleen, she cut her finger so badly, she can’t work in the kitchen for another 10 days?” “Sure.” The kitchen prepares and serves breakfast, […]

Outgrowing the Old Doesn’t Need to be Prickly

posted by Cheryl Petersen

It is common for human beings to outgrow clothes. Children outgrow clothes due to the sheer fact their bodies grow. Adults outgrow clothes due to style and fashion changes. Human beings are also known to outgrow friends and churches which […]

Taking Advantage of Loneliness

posted by Cheryl Petersen

From 1830 to 1900, a tide of influential Americans — artists, writers, painters and doctors — braved the treacherous journey across the Atlantic to visit Paris. They were faced with newness and oftentimes an intense loneliness which drove the fragile […]

Divorce Changes Workout

posted by Cheryl Petersen

How can I miss it? Plastered all over the news, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are getting a divorce. But, a lot of people are getting divorced. Moore and Kutcher had 6 protracted years, plenty of time to get bored […]

A Course in Miracles is Studied

posted by Cheryl Petersen

“I come here because we respect one another,” said Sabina, a participant in A Course in Miracles gathering in upstate New York. The group meets once a week to support and encourage one another on their spiritual journey to find […]

Serious or Curious about Loneliness

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Relationships are a big part of life. They are interactions. So what do we interact with? Do we relate to human arrogance, self-seeking policies, spending and earning money, or priding our self in our spirituality? Do we associate with the […]

Serious or Curious about a Happy Marriage

posted by Cheryl Petersen

With the 50% divorce rate, it appears as though many people are only curious about marriage, not taking it too seriously. However, to tolerate a bad marriage, while believing that is the serious responsible thing to do, is not very […]

Drummer’s Circle in Autumn Equinox Sunset

posted by Cheryl Petersen

The overused statement, “Spiritual, not religious,” is an attitude just as susceptible to lead to self-indulgence and a superiority complex as institutional religion. I figure, the conflict between the spiritual and the religious is similar to a married couple getting […]

Painful Thoughts Can’t Embed Themselves in our Memory

posted by Cheryl Petersen

A piece of broken glass had embedded itself in the bottom of our daughter’s foot. She didn’t notice the glass until after the skin had grown over it because it only stung when she walked going down a slope. Our […]

Tweens and Teens Show Their Originality

posted by Cheryl Petersen

For those of you who don’t know, I am diligently working on the 4th edition of the revision and update of 21st Century Science and Health. As I work, I continue to be happily astonished at the dynamic spiritual truths […]

The Decision to Foster Children

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Fostering children is not for everyone, but a sincere inclination to foster is not only valid but also necessary in today’s society where almost half a million children need homes. Many of us have love-spilling-over and are ready to help, […]

Hurricane Irene Series 6

posted by Cheryl Petersen

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Hurricane Irene Series 3

posted by Cheryl Petersen

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Sustainable Relationships

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Previous Posts

Good dissolves bad
Sometimes, I just feel bad. Bad about myself, or life, or my situation. I can figure out why, for example, it’s because of hormones. But giving it a name doesn’t get rid of the bad feeling. Science and religion both discuss the value of positive thinking and it has proven to be a good s

posted 9:54:06am Mar. 25, 2015 | read full post »

Keeping mercy
Deut. 7:9 Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations. (English Standard Version) Know now then that the Lord your God is the only true God! He is the faithful

posted 8:07:29am Mar. 16, 2015 | read full post »

Fishing Salmon River
Once experts realized genes aren’t stable and can mutate, the human mind took off in multiple directions, some not so good. Genetically modified organisms (GMO’s) have become popular, although not exactly admired. Many of the plants and trees we grow have been forced selected. For example,

posted 7:46:08am Mar. 10, 2015 | read full post »

Inspiring person, Rosamond Carr
Not what I’d classify as a religious person, but spiritual, Rosamond Halsey Carr tells her story in her book, Land of a Thousand Hills: My Life in Rwanda. Published in 2001 and read by me last month, I recommend this book as a picture of woman’s self-realized independence, inner splendor, and ou

posted 7:15:03am Mar. 05, 2015 | read full post »

A star gymnast
Film, The Gabby Douglas Story (2014), captured many of the emotions that surely were experienced before medals were earned at the 2008 Olympics. Gabby’s family, already at a level of impoverishment, sacrificed for Gabby Douglas to continue training. And, although tempted, Gabby didn’t give up.

posted 7:43:20am Mar. 01, 2015 | read full post »

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