Everyday Spirituality

Everyday Spirituality


Strong Emotions Outside a Marriage

posted by Cheryl Petersen

Human beings are designed to relate. We socialize, communicate, narrate, and associate. In the 21st century, we connect. And, sometimes we connect with someone we really like. The emotional juices get racing, and we can find ourselves fascinated.

Emotional relationships can result in marriage, or a physical intimacy that oftentimes grows into a family. But, with the relationship and family come responsibilities and challenges. And, as time passes, sometimes, the happy emotions get smothered in a boring routine.

Today, technology has made it so we can connect with others in a blink. What if we are married but meet someone else who recalls those happy emotions of by-gone days? Life is more exciting. We perk up. We dress nicer. We make an effort to get to know the person better because we feel so good when we are around them.

To connect beyond a normal friendship is an emotional affair. And, they don’t last, no matter how you define it. An emotional affair is not the element for a soul-mate, any more than sawdust is the ingredient for chocolate cake.

The emotions will ride themselves out. Don’t stay on an emotional roller coaster headed for a derailment. Put that energy into your marriage. Put space between you and the person who evokes the strong emotions until the emotions are under control. Research and realize the rationale behind the confusion until you are no longer confused by the emotions. To stay faithful is to feel good about yourself.



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