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Mooching Off Your Parents: An Adult Child’s Perspective

posted by hfields

In my family, love and money sometimes get confused, and I’m sure I’m not alone there. My folks have been known to show their affection and concern, though not exclusively, in the form of cold, hard cash.

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My “Oblication” Vacation: Holiday Survival Tips For That Stressful Family Trip

posted by hfields

I’m not the kind of gal who likes a whole lot of family togetherness. I live within city blocks of my whole family, so I get plenty – some would say too much – of it with my own side of the clan. And I’ve just never been comfy being on my P’s and Q’s with other people’s relatives. The idea of spending 7 days cooped up, smiling politely and nodding as we negotiate our way through decisions both great and small (who’ll grab up the check on dinners out, where we should souvenir shop), makes me break out in a sweat, and we haven’t even hit the beach yet. From the moment the idea of this family trip came up, I experienced panic, resentment, anger, then great steaming heaps of guilt and shame.

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Yours, Mine, And Ours: How Do We Decide How To Spend Marital Assets?

posted by hfields

Like most couples, my husband and I have limited funds. Deciding how to spend them can be a source of tension, to put it delicately. Last night, my husband and I had one of our “delicate” moments. My husband wanted to take a class at the local college. I wanted to repaint the apartment. To do either one would put off any number of other projects/pleasures we’d had in mind.

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Fighting In Front Of The Kids: Never, Sometimes, Or… They’ll Get Over It?

posted by hfields

I’d like to pose a question for all the parents out there — and for all those who lived through tough family situations as they were growing up.  Is it OK for parents to fight in front of their kids? […]

What-If Wednesday: When A Friend Does A Disappearing Act, Should You Seek Them Out?

posted by hfields

Ever had a friend who simply vanishes from time to time? Well, I’ve got three. Yes, three. And not just acquaintances, but dear, close friends. We’ll be gabbing on the phone, emailing, hanging out and doing girl stuff like bffs […]

ABC’s “Cougar Town” Begs The Question: Are Cougars Victimless Predators?

posted by hfields

Yeah, yeah, guys have been robbing the cradle since before there were cradles. But do we like it when they’re the culprits? Noooo. We scorn “trophy wives” (a hideous moniker for women to throw at other women, IMO) and look […]

Friends And Money: An Uneasy Mix

posted by hfields

Neither a borrower nor a lender be,For loan oft loses both itself and friend,And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry. Polonius, Hamlet Act 1, scene 3, 75-77 Good advice from one of Shakespeare’s flightier characters. This weekend a good friend […]

Failure Friday: I Ignore Unpleasant Things

posted by hfields

At the risk of living up to our “popcorn” reputation, here’s a truly trivial confession: There are days when I walk right past stuff I simply don’t wish to see. Like the cat puke I don’t want to clean. We’ve […]

What-If Wednesday: Would You Forgive a Cheating Spouse?

posted by Padmini Mangunta

Ok, I admit it — I don’t think I have it in me to forgive a cheater. Oh, I’m a forgiving person in general, believe you me. But forgiving a cheater? Nope, no way. Future significant others beware — don’t […]

Does Lying on Your Online Dating Profile Get an Ethical Pass?

posted by Padmini Mangunta

If there were ever an area where the little white lie came into question, it would be online dating. Oh, you’re not 6′ 2″ with abs of steel? Or petite with the body of a goddess? Whoops. And funny how […]

The Best Worst Date Story Ever

posted by Padmini Mangunta

One of the fundamentals of ethics is honesty, I’d say. Yet, I’m kind of a dishonest person. I consider myself to be basically morally sound, so why do I say this? Well, I tend to tell people what they want […]

High Class Problems

posted by hfields

Ever heard the phrase, “High Class Problems”? As I understand it, it refers to those who bitch and moan about their woes, when they really have it pretty good. In other words, if you look in the dictionary, you’ll find […]

Chris Brown Apologizes To Rihanna…On Video Tape.

posted by hfields

Take a look at this videotaped apology Chris Brown just came out with to address the 2009 Grammy Awards Eve beating of his girlfriend, singer Rihanna.  I’m curious… after watching it, do you think he’s sincere? And, if you think […]

An Etiquette Roundup for the Ethical

posted by Padmini Mangunta

One of the many things I love about my friends is their unflagging enthusiasm – since I started writing for this blog, countless dinner conversations and happy hour chatter have ended with the refrain, “Hey! A new ethical dilemma perhaps??!” […]

Facebook: Is It OK to “Friend” An Old Flame?

posted by hfields

I know, I know–we talk a lot about Facebook on this blog. I suppose that’s because Facebook and other sites like it have become the engines of social interaction and social networking for our generation. And, out of everyday social […]

How Sacred Is the U.S. Mail… When It’s Your Husband’s?

posted by hfields

Here’s my quandary.  It’s been a long day.  I’m tired and grumpy.  My husband, who usually brings the mail upstairs, is home sick so I’m the one swinging by our building’s mailboxes on the way back from work.  This in […]

Good Neighbors: Respect Privacy, or Leap In to Lend a Hand?

posted by hfields

My neighbor has OCD–a fact I just recently learned. For the longest time I believed she simply hated me, or that she thought I was a psycho, and here’s why: she wouldn’t get on the elevator with me. We’d wait […]

Privacy, Dating, and Ethics: Ok to Spy?

posted by Padmini Mangunta

I received quite a few comments on my recent breakup post, but one really stuck with me. A friend of mine had recently gone through a breakup herself, and the story behind it was so horrible my immediate response was, […]

When Do You Tell a Friend Her Boyfriend’s a Jerk?

posted by hfields

When I say this happened to a friend and not me, I really actually mean it. My friend had a dinner party at her summer place with some old friends–two couples, plus herself and her own boyfriend. Drinks went around […]

Leann Rimes Stalks Eddie Cibrian…So They Say

posted by Padmini Mangunta

So, the hot news these days is that Leann Rimes is allegedly stalking Eddie Cibrian after their alleged affair. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not the person to ask about “hot” celebrity news. It’s possible I was […]

The Great Guilt Debate: Is Using Emotional Blackmail to Get What You Want Unethical?

posted by hfields

“Not if you’re Jewish,” is my mom’s answer. And indeed, it’s been my experience that we Jews ingest guilt with our mother’s milk (not that I’d know, since my mother didn’t find it ‘convenient’ to breast-feed me [ha, see what […]

Dating Rules Follow-Up: When Is It OK to Stick Your Nose In?

posted by hfields

Paddy’s recent post about how to date honestly (or too honestly) got me thinking about relationships, intentions, and the perils of long-term commitment, particularly when cultural, religious, and social mores collide. Her post asks us whether ’tis better to be […]

The Rules: How to Date Honestly (Or Too Honestly)

posted by Padmini Mangunta

You’re on a first date, gazing into the eyes of the perfectly lovely (or handsome) person across from you, when they casually mention that they don’t have plans to marry, ever. Or to marry someone white. Or perhaps Jewish. Or […]

Controversy Over New Hugging Trend Among Teens Leads to Hug Bans in High Schools

posted by hfields

Yep, that’s right, now affection is illegal. The New York Times today reported on the new fad for hugging among teens in an article entitled For Teenagers, Hello Means ‘How About a Hug?‘ Kids these days are embracing all over […]

The Weekend Wuss-Out–Musings On the Ethics & Responsibilities of Friendship

posted by hfields

This Memorial Day Weekend has been a long and busy one for my family. My brother’s wedding took place (yippie! Mazel Tov, guys) so I spent the last three days in a flurry of bachelorette parties, rehearsals, rehearsal dinners, and […]

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