Dream Gates

Dream Gates


How the deceased grow green again

posted by Robert Moss

Emma Jung played by Sara Gadon in "A Dangerous Method"

In most dreams, the departed appear to be living, and very often the dreamer is unaware that the person he or she encounters is “dead” until after waking. The reason is that the departed are indeed alive, though no longer in the physical realm.

The departed may appear as the dreamer remembers them from their last days of physical life, especially in the first dream encounters.

Over time, it is quite common for the departed to alter their appearance, to shrug off signs of age and bodily ailments, and to present themselves as healthy and attractive. People who died in later years frequently reappear looking around 30 years old. In the west of Ireland and in Scotland, it is widely believed by country folk that the departed grow upwards or downwards in their apparent age until they look 30 years old. This is also the experience of many contemporary dreamers. I was amazed and delighted when my own deceased mother displayed herself, some years after her death, as a stunning 29-year-old blonde in a swimsuit on a beach.

The departed may change their appearance and personal style even more radically, as they evolve in understanding and come to realize that they are now living in energy bodies that are quite malleable.

Jung dreamed of the two central women in his life, his wife and his “junior wife” and life companion Toni Wolff, after their deaths. Toni appeared looking much taller and younger than she had been when she died, and exceedingly beautiful, wearing a lovely multi-colored dress in which the wonderful blue of the kingfisher was the dominant hue. After Emma’s death, Jung saw her in a vivid dream in which she appeared in her prime, “perhaps about thirty” but with a depth of wisdom beyond youth or age. Jung concluded that his wife’s dream persona was “a portrait she had made or commissioned” for him. “It contained the beginning of our relationship, the events of fifty-three years of marriage, and the end of her life also. Face to face with such wholeness one remains speechless.”



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Diane Bonds

    Thanks for posting this, Robert. I’ve been visited by a number of dead family members who seemed young or revitalized. My grandfather, who died at age 88 with a little of his black hair intact, appeared as a very young man—perhaps younger than ever knew him—with his black hair all spiked out like punk rocker, and a very adolescent kind of slouch. He in the kitchen of the house where I grew up, next to my mother who was probably in her 30s or 40s. There was a third figure in this dream, a mysterious blonde golden looking young man leaning against a portal or doorway that does not exist in waking life. I asked who he is and my mother said, with extreme coyness, something to the effect of “Oh, he’s from another realm.” [As I write this it occurred to me that this could have been a young version of my dad, who was in his own way kind of spaced out much of his life.]
    In another dream, my mom played a leading role, appearing first as a beautiful young woman—perhaps late 20s or early thirties, but later morphing into a much older version of herself, trying to deliver a message but in a strange voice and words I could not understand.
    I am more puzzled when people show up in different guises. In one, my dad did not look like himself, but was much sturdier and more fully fleshed (he was exceedingly frail in old age and skinny much of his life). I hugged him and could feel exactly how he had filled out! More recently my mother returned as a sort of squashed down older women with black ringleted hair that looked like a bad wig and a lot of bright red lipstick, to inform me she had broken up with her boyfriend. I was in shock and she proceeded to give me a few more facts but never explained, before the dream faded, who he was or why she broke up him.
    Following this dream, I wrote a dream intention to connect with her, and I dreamed of old white-haired lady (with somewhat ringleted hair) who showed up in my apartment and was apparently doing laundry for me. I have trouble connecting her with my mother, and yet I can’t help feeling this figure was a response to my intention. She told me she had lived for eleven years after the war, and I kind of wondered if she was someone who had lived previously in my pre-war apartment.
    Anyway, it’s all very interesting; I‘ve gotten wonderful help and support from the dream forums, and I it is definitely inspiring a lot of writing about my dreams.

    • http://www.mossdreams.com Robert Moss

      Thanks for sharing these rich and varied encounters. Diane. Without commenting on specifics, you remind me of a couple of other things to consider in relation to the appearance of the departed in dreams” (1) more than one energy vehicle survived physical death, and sometimes we are looking at an energy “husk” rather than the embodied consciousness of the departed; (2) figures in our dreams may ALSO be aspects of ourselves.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Diane Bonds

    Sorry for the lack of spacing in my previous post. I could not type in the message box so I typed my post in Word and pasted it in the box. Unfortunately, I did not realize that the spacing had disappeared between paragraphs.

    It seems to me that I used to be able to type my post directly. Is this a change in the blog or a problem with my computer? I had no problem typing in my e-mail address and user name.

    Thanks, Diane

    • http://www.mossdreams.com Robert Moss

      I haven’t noticed any problem in typing in my own posts.

      I shall experiment here with leaving a line blank…Success.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Diane Bonds

    Thanks, so much Robert, for your two comments, both of which (and especially the last) make a lot of sense to me in connection with the encounters I’ve had. It will be fun to write about a few thoughts that are already surfacing.

    I think the problem with entering text pertains to a problem with my computer equipment at work. I will have to post something else from home computer and see how it goes.

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