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Brain Dead? Why You Can’t Use That Excuse!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ever heard this conversation between two people at work?

” I am so brain dead, I can’t do another thing today.” “I know, right. We are way overworked. And I heard that we only use 90% of our brains! I think mine is maxed out! ” 

How many times have you heard someone say that we only use a fraction of our brain?

How many of you believe this to be true?

Ok now put down your hand –if you said, YES!

You believe a popular myth perpetuated by many sources, e.g.,a 20th century, misquoted psychologist, who suggested that humans don’t take advantage of their full mental resources; William James who said we use only a fraction of our brains, etc.  Through the years, pop culture has concluded that we only use a fraction of our brains.

The truth is that we use all of our brains, 100% of the time. Imaging (MRI) confirms that all areas of the brain are wired and active.

Dr. Paul Aravich, Professor of Pathology and Anatomy at Easter Virginia Medical School, tells us that the brain is in constant use, even when we sleep. In fact, the brain is more active in REM sleep that when we are awake.

The  “brain dead” excuse doesn’t cut it! Even when we do nothing, the brain continues to work.

No the next time you tell someone to, Use It Or Lose It, think again …wait you already are, you can’t lose it even when you don’t use it, because you are already using it!

 

Three Divorce Predictors

posted by Linda Mintle

It may surprise you what researchers Alan Booth,  Paul Amato and colleagues at Penn State found to be important predictors of divorce when they studied long term marriage and divorce.

1) Couples who do NOT own a house. House owners are less likely to divorce. Owning represents commitment and stabilizes relationships. Think about it. House owners may be reluctant to sell or divide the property. So owning a house may help a couple avoid divorce.

2) Intergenerational transmission of divorce. If your parents divorced, it is twice as likely that you will divorce. This is one of the strongest risk factors. Sometimes this is due to a lack of skills regarding conflict, dealing with emotions compromising, etc. So if you didn’t have great role models for interpersonal skills in marriage, go to seminars, be open to changes and learn to better communicate and meet the needs of your spouse.

3) Living together. Couples who live together prior to marriage report more problems and are more likely to think about divorce. Living together does not help create a stronger marriage like so many people think.

Dr. Linda’s 10 Super Bowl Highlights

posted by Linda Mintle

Super Bowl  is a bit like Christmas.- the hype outweighs the actual event. Don’t get me wrong, it turned out to be a good game even though I was routing for San Francisco. But all the hoopla surrounding the game is exhausting.

Like most of you, I watched the game (although in and out of it many times). Here are my highlights, love to hear yours:

1) The best moment was when the lights went out.  Twitter was ripe with pithy comments. My favorite from Neil Pollack , “This time, it’s the rich people trapped in the Superdome.”

2) President Obama’s comment, “…if I had a son, I’d have to think long and hard before I let him play football.”  Jim Harbaugh’s response to that comment–this means less competition for his 5 month old son Jack!

2)  Alicia Keyes--Someone forgot to tell her this was a football game, not a concert–piano, gown, soulful. I believe it was the longest version of this song ever! It was a great beginning for those not so interested in the game.

3) The First Family’s Role Model–Beyonce in leather and lace, the outfit we want all our teen girls wearing to sell a sex kitten image. Come on, Mr. President!

4) Beyonce again. At any moment, I expected Michael Jackson to appear and the two would end doing a Pepsi commercial.

4) The Clydesdale commercial. It was WAR HORSE all over again. The entire movie flashed before my eyes.

5) Oprah being vintage Oprah–I like it when she is not confusing me with her brand of spirituality.

6) When everyone in the room yelled, “Ooh, creepy!” every time some dark beer commercial appeared.

7) Jim Harbaugh’s desperate attempt to get a ref to call holding near the end of the game. Looking at the review, it was holding and even the announcer began to change his mind.

8) The Facebook photo of Jim Harbaugh telling mom that his brother wasn’t playing fair. 

9) The suggestion that post Super Bowl Monday become a national holiday. 

10) The actual game. Turned out to be a good game once the lights went out. Congrats to the Ravens!

Superbowl? Super Calories! Press Pause Before You Eat!

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you ready for some football?

How about the snacks?

Super bowl can mean super calories. Move over Thanksgiving! Let the calories begin!

Public health advocate, Charles Platkin, editor of DietDetective.com provides some exercise equivalents to combat those handful of snacks you will consume. it may freak you out a bit!

SIX (6) TRADITIONAL HAND-SPUN BUFFALO WILD WINGS DIPPED IN RANCH DRESSING = DOING “THE WAVE” 6,480 TIMES
Stand up, wave your hand and be counted 6,480 times. Six wings from Buffalo Wild Wings have 990 calories. Then add about two servings of ranch dressing at 170 calories each for a total of 340 calories. That’s 1,330 calories if you have only a small dip of dressing per wing.

HANDFUL OF PITA CHIPS, EACH WITH ARTICHOKE DIP = RUNNING 141 FOOTBALL FIELDS
Each chip is 13 calories, plus just 1 tablespoon, probably just about a chips worth, of dip is 80 calories.

THREE (3) PEPSIS = 57 MINUTES OF DANCING TO BEYONCE DURING THE SUPER BOWL HALFTIME PERFORMANCE
Each 12-ounce can is 100 calories. So to burn off just three Pepsis you need to dance for more than an hour to a Beyoncé song. Have you heard her music? Have you danced for an hour straight?

ONE (1) HANDFUL OF TRAIL MIX = 49 TOUCHDOWN DANCES IN THE END ZONE
Keep in mind, nuts and chocolate have about 160 calories per ounce, which is not bad if you don’t take five handfuls before you’ve even noticed.

TWO (2) SLICES OF DOMINOS BACON CHEESEBURGER FEAST HAND-TOSSED SPECIALTY PIZZA (16 inches) = 209 MINUTES PERFORMING IN A MARCHING BAND
Pizza AND a cheeseburger what will they think of next? Each slice is 490 calories, but it is hand tossed.

TWO (2) HANDFULS OF CHEETOS JUMBO PUFFS = 30 MINUTES OF PLAYING PROFESSIONAL FOOTBALL
The only problem is that, according to The Wall Street Journal, there are only about 11 minutes of actual ball playing in a football game. That means you need to play almost three games of professional football to burn off two handfuls of Cheetos. Keep in mind, that’s 320 calories for about 2 ounces yes, only 2 ounces.


 And there is more, check out his site and pace yourself. Press Pause Before You Eat!


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