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Day 2: Dr. Linda on the Dr. Oz 3 Day Cleanse

posted by Linda Mintle

Day 2: I am motivated to keep going. I learned a few things from Day 1 so will make a few tweaks in this plan.

Starter: green tea, stevia and lemon slice. 

I wasn’t as excited to drink the tea this a.m. I am a coffee drinker so I really missed my morning coffee. Still it was pleasant and I rehearsed the benefits of green tea in my head. My husband asked to leave out the stevia. He thought the tea was too sweet with it.

Breakfast: Ingredients: 1 cup water, 1 Tbsp flax seed, 1 cup raspberries, 1 banana, 1/4 cup spinach, 1 Tbsp almond butter, 2 tsp lemon.

Last night, I froze the fruit and it made a big difference. I liked the shake colder. I wasn’t as full today after drinking it as I was yesterday. Hope that isn’t a sign that I will feel hunger today. Yesterday, I wasn’t hungry at all. There was so much bulk in the ingredients, that I stayed full all day and amazingly, all night. I wasn’t tempted to snack because of how full I felt. But I did end up doing the shakes later in the evening because of my schedule.

Lunch: Ingredients: 4 celery stalks, 1 whole cucumber, 1 cup of kale, ½ green apple, ½ lime, coconut oil, almond milk, 1 cup pineapple

Both my husband and I decided to cut back on the ingredients a little. Yesterday the shake was massive and took up more than a large cup. We used 3 stalks of celery instead of 4. We also halved the giant cucumber and split in it our drink. We made sure we didn’t over do the Kale (he put way too much in yesterday and almost gagged getting it down). I also peeled the lime and put the whole thing in rather than just squeezing the juice. I also threw in an extra chunk of pineapple. I know the Coconut Oil is healthy, but it looks like I am adding lard to my drink and that kind of creeps me out. I don’t mind cooking with it but eating it cold like that…thankfully it blends in. I can’t think about it too much. I cut everything in small pieces and blended for what seemed like hours. Still it was chunky. But today it actually tasted good. More of the apple flavor came through so I can do it like this. Yeah!  A victory. I still had to eat it with a spoon but at least the association with colonoscopy left me!

Snack: For me, there is no question which shake to drink. The breakfast shake has it hands down. Today, I was hungry so the snack came at the right time.

Dinner: Ingredients: ½ cup mango, 1 cup blueberries, 1 ½ cup coconut water, 1 cup kale, 1 tbsp. lemon, ¼ avocado, ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper, 1 Tbsp Flax Seeds

I like this shake without the cayenne pepper. It has a creamy taste because of the avocado. My husband added a little hot sauce to give it even more spice and didn’t like the addition. The blueberries make this taste good. We did notice that because we didn’t prepare dinner, we had more time to sit and talk in the family room. We read the paper and magazines and caught up with our day. The evening was longer and because we weren’t fighting hunger, that was nice. But my husband really wanted to eat peanuts while we were watching TV and I coaxed him out of it because we only have one more day.

Evening Bath: Neither of us wanted another bath but we did it, and it does relax you for bedtime. Day 2 completed. He is ready for solid food and we began to discuss how to re-engage our diet. I will probably drink another shake for breakfast the fourth day, and then go for a salad–eat it, instead of drink it. Then homemade chicken soup for dinner after the cleanse. Seems like we should ease back in to chewing and eating foods again.

 

Tips:

Cut the lunch ingredients into very small pieces and blend for more than you normally would.  If you can’t take all that celery, cut it back like I did and throw in the 1/2 lime instead of squeezing it. Or buy a smaller cucumber.

Chop things up ahead of time and place them in the refrigerator ready to go. Saves a ton of time.

I had to restock the food because I underestimated for two people. And it is quite expensive so I bought my berries, bananas and pineapples at Cosco/Sam’s. The rest of it, I got at Trader’s Joe–saved a lot that way.

I bought as much as I could organic, but decided not to worry about the Costco items.

 

 

Day 1: Dr. Linda on The Dr. Oz 3 Day Cleanse

posted by Linda Mintle

With all the travel and eating out, I just felt like I wanted  a DO OVER with eating. So I decided to do the Dr. Oz 3 day cleanse just to see if I would feel better and reset my body as promised. Normally, I am leery of any type of cleanse. But I watched Dr. Oz explain it and felt comfortable trying his plan. Take a look at it as he recommends Omega 3, Probiotic and Multivitamin with this cleanse.

Hey, it’s only 3 days of my life, right?

Here are my thoughts after Day 1. My husband decided to join me which made it easier. My kids are back at college and I don’t have to cook. The two of us can cheer each other up. And we did. We called each other when we had to drink the lunch shake and tried to figure out how to make that experience better!

Day 1: Begins with the green tea, stevia and lemon slice. 

When I went to the kitchen to turn on my coffee pot, I just stared at my Coconut Creme coffee longingly. Actually the green tea was a nice alternative and gave me that warm, wake up feeling. I did have a bit of a headache for the next few hours, thinking it must be related to my lack of caffeine.

Breakfast: Ingredients: 1 cup water, 1 Tbsp flax seed, 1 cup raspberries, 1 banana, 1/4 cup spinach, 1 Tbsp almond butter, 2 tsp lemon.

I had to grind my flaxseed before I put it in the shake. It smelled awful and I was worried. But it was great in the shake. I love bananas and raspberries so this really worked for me.

Lunch: Ingredients: 4 celery stalks, 1 whole cucumber, 1 cup of kale, ½ green apple, ½ lime, coconut oil, almond milk, 1 cup pineapple

I took one sip and had flashbacks of drinking the horrible solution before my colonoscopy! I was overwhelmed by the celery taste and wondered if I could cut the amount back. It was a lot of bulk to drink and had a thick, chunky consistency even though I continued to blend it endlessly. I threw it back in the blender several times, grabbed a spoon and started eating it. It was too thick to drink–sort of like a wet salad. I didn’t like it at all, but forced myself to get through half of it and then ate the other half later in the day. I didn’t like it any better later, but thought colonoscopy and downed it. Honestly, I am not looking forward to drinking this for 2 more days! This may be a deal breaker!

Snack: I opted for the breakfast shake because the the thought of the lunch shake one more time, nauseated me.  I might try freezing the raspberries to make it colder, but it still tasted good and really filled me up.

Dinner: Ingredients: ½ cup mango, 1 cup blueberries, 1 ½ cup coconut water, 1 cup kale, 1 tbsp. lemon, ¼ avocado, ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper, 1 Tbsp Flax Seeds

I’m afraid of the cayenne pepper so forgive me Dr. Oz, but I am going to leave it out. There are some things I cannot do like Cayenne Pepper. This is why I will never be a Survivor contestant. I’ll taste my husband’s first. He loves Cayenne Pepper and puts it on everything. If it is awful, I will completely leave it out. OK he tasted it and said it had a little fire. He liked it so I won’t. I made mine sans le Cayenne and it was much better.

Night time: Took the recommended bath in Epsom Salt and Lavender oil. Smelled like a spa in the bathroom. It was soothing and relaxing. Nice way to end the day.

For Day 2:

I froze all the fruits to make the shakes colder.

I am going to cut back on the huge cucumber and celery amounts and cut everything into tiny pieces to make the lunch shake drinkable.

Even though one day feels like enough, I am going to keep going. I’ll keep you posted.

 

What Women Have More of Than Men

posted by Linda Mintle

So you are at that dinner party and you feel like you are carrying the conversation. As a woman, it’s the most natural thing to be entertaining others through verbal sparring and lively conversation. Your husband comments on how much at ease you were talking to his boss. Honestly, you didn’t think about it as it seemed like the most natural thing to do during the evening. The reason has to do with women having something more than men.

It’s true. The brains of men and women are wired differently. And no where is that more evident than when we talk about talking!

Most women love to talk. Most men think talk is overrated.

From an early age, we know that baby girls make more sounds and gestures than baby boys.

And as they age, girls tend to have bigger vocabularies than boys.

Truth is, women speak an average of 20,000 words a day–Men, 7000. That is a big difference. Researchers at the University of Maryland will tell you why.

They studied children and rats. Interestingly, male rats are more vocal than females. So what accounts for these differences in both humans and rats?

In female humans and male rats, the brain has higher levels of a protein called FOXP2. This protein is linked to verbal communication. The more we have, the more we talk!

So more FOXP2 accounts for our higher number of words. I’m not saying more is better, just that more means more….words that is. You decide about the better and give us women a break! Chatty Cathy is chatty for a reason!

 

2 Physical Reasons Not to Avoid Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

A typical question I get asked is, “Why can’t I just avoid conflict? It makes me uncomfortable. If, for example, my mother is driving me crazy, can’t I just ignore her? Or, if I get too upset talking to my ex over visitation, can’t I just ignore him?” Questions like these can be answered by looking at the consequences of avoidance. Your physical health may be affected.

Obviously, you can choose to ignore conflict and make it through life. People do it all the time. For example, your mother-daughter relationship won’t fall apart if you ignore conflict with her once in a while. But a pattern of ignoring conflict can hurt relationships. Avoiding is not the best choice or a way to grow your relationships.  The “I don’t want to rock the boat” attitude may work in the short–term, but not in the long-term.

A number of studies point to physical problems when people choose to avoid conflict. One study noted that while people feel better avoiding at the time of the conflict, they don’t feel better the next day. In the study, physical symptoms and negative well-being were higher the day after the conflict in conflict avoiders than in people who confronted problems. In other words, the impact showed up after the fact.

In another study, researchers at the University of Michigan looked at conflict as it relates to longevity of life. They concluded that people who deal with conflict live longer. Specifically, they observed that when both partners in a couple relationship felt unfairly attacked and suppressed their anger at the other, they died earlier than couples who communicated their anger. In fact, having a good fight with your partner may keep your marriage alive. Keep in mind that out of control fighting is not recommended! That type of fighting ruins a relationship.

There is an exception, a time when avoiding conflict might be best. This involves confronting someone who can physically hurt you. When someone is so angry and cannot calm down, and you are at risk for a physical altercation or explosion, a time-out or break is recommended. You can’t deal with conflict, nor should you, when someone is physically threatening or unable to get control of his or her emotions. At those times, the parties involved need to wait until they are able to calm down and  until it is safe to confront.


 

 


Sources:

Birditt, K.S. (Oct 2010). Marital conflict behaviors and implications for divorce over 16 years. Journal of Marriage and Family. 72 (5), pp. 1188-1204

Marital Pair Anger Coping Types May Act as an Entity to Affect Mortality: Preliminary Findings from a Prospective Study (Tecumseh, Michigan, 1971-88). Ernest Harburg, Niko Kaciroti, Lillian Gleiberman, M. Anthony Schork and Mara Julius. Journal of Family Communication. Volume 8 (2008). doi: 10.1080 / 15267430701392172.

 

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