Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

PARENT QUESTION: What to do if my toddler stutters?

posted by Linda Mintle

My daughter is two and half and is beginning to stutter. Up until now, she has been a good talker. But when she gets excited, we’ve noticed she stutters, like her brain can’t catch up to her mouth. We are not sure how to handle this and wonder if we should seek help.

It is common for kids to stutter between the ages of two and three. The key is to determine whether your daughter has what is called, “transient dysfluency of childhood” which typically goes away, or to determine if she is a true stutterer. The majority of kids who begin to stutter will stop because they are not true stutterers. When they get excited, they can be tired, angry, or upset and can’t quite get the words out right away. They do more fumbling over words rather than having an actual problem getting the words out. This is due to the rapid development a child experiences in her verbal abilities at this age. And as you put it, her brain doesn’t keep up with the pace of her talking.

Stuttering tends to run in families and affects more boys than girls. Current thinking is that it is a speech disorder that has genetic susceptibility and environmental triggers. It is not a physical or psychological disorder, but considered a developmental disorder. However, if your child is a stutterer, the earlier you treat, the better. So talk to your pediatrician and engage a speech therapist. A speech therapist can be very helpful in term of treating your child and helping you respond in a relaxed and supportive way.

Pay attention to whether or not the stuttering bothers or upsets your daughter. Also notice if the stuttering occurs in situations other than when she is excited or anxious. Does her pitch change and is she struggling to get words out? Are her repetitions long and frequent? Does she block words and sounds? Does she avoid saying difficult words? These are just a few observations to make. The Stuttering Foundation of America has materials that can help you determine if you need help or you can consult a speech-language pathologist for an evaluation. To find a speech-language pathologist, call your school and ask for help. Public schools provide free speech therapy to children as young as three years of age.

 

Resource:

Stuttering Foundation of America

P.O. Box 11749
Memphis, TN 38111-0749

800.992.9392

 

Who Dunnit? Why Do it? Te’o’s Bizarre Hoax

posted by Linda Mintle

The story of Notre Dame’s football player, Manti Te’o, is just bizarre. It’s like trying to figure out who dunnit in CLUE.

If you haven’t heard, the short story is that Manti Te’o’s girlfriend  was in a car accident and then died of leukemia within24 hours of his grandmother’s death last September. This girlfriend relationship was publicized all fall and gained sympathy from fans of Te’o. The storyline was classic–personal loss inspires triumph on the playing field.

But now we learn that there was never an accident, a death (the grandmother did die) or even a real girlfriend. In Te’o’s recent press conference, he claimed to have been the victim of an elaborate hoax. He says he had an on-line relationship with a woman for three years and was not aware that this person didn’t really exist.

It’s all still a mystery.

Who would go to such lengths to create this crazy story and why?

Who gets their kicks out of making up tragedy and using the Internet as an enabler?

A hoax can spread quickly now that we are all connected. People who create hoaxes get traffic and attention. They want to see how far they can go to fool people. Fooling people makes a hoaxster feel successful. It’s social power. Deception. Lies.

A hoax can be an act of revenge, a misguided attempt at information, a branding strategy, a prank, a dare or even a sick way of creating drama.

But in the long run, hoaxes are damaging. No ones like to be deceived. Hoaxes create a sense of distrust and diminish real life tragedy. They make us cynical and wondering who can we trust. And with all the recent admissions of lies, do we really need to perpetuate more untruth?

So whoever did this hoax and  perpetuated it needs real life mental health help.

There is enough tragedy and disappointment in our world without people making up more.

 

 

 

 

 

A Beauty Queen Can’t be Called Pretty? Love Your Opinion

posted by Linda Mintle

Sportscaster, Brean Musburger, apologized for his comments about a football player’s girlfriend. During the Alabama/Notre Dame BCS National Championship Game, the camera found Miss Alabama, Katherine Webb, the girlfriend of the Alabama quarterback.

Upon seeing her on camera, Musburger commented,  ” Wow, you quarterbacks get all the good looking women, what a beautiful woman, whoa! If you’re a youngster in Alabama, start getting the football out and throw it around the backyard with pops.”

So my question to you is this: Is this inappropriate to comment on the beauty of a woman? 

Could we do a little survey here? YES or NO and give me a brief reason why you think this was OK or out of line. 

I find this so weird as football promotes barely clad women to “cheer” for their teams and then makes a big deal about Musburger’s comment. Seems a little hypocritical to me. Maybe we should have the Dallas Cowboy organization apologize for objectifying their cheerleaders and putting them on calendars.

Personally, I find this to be the height of political correctness. The woman won a beauty contest! Yes, she is beautiful and that doesn’t mean pointing it out makes you someone who objectifies women.

I had more of an issue with his comment about young boys throwing footballs to get girls. That seems a bit shallow.

Just my opinions, love to hear yours.

 

8 Reasons Why We Need to Forgive Lance Armstrong

posted by Linda Mintle

When Lance Armstrong appears on Oprah this week, word is that he admits to doping during his cycling career. What makes his admission so grievous is that he repeatedly denied allegations of doping levied against him for years and went after those who tried to bring out the truth. But my concern is not about what Armstrong will or will not admit to in the church of Oprah. My concern is how we, as Christians, respond to any request for forgiveness. Let’s look at the arguments.

1) Lance has betrayed many people. He doesn’t deserve forgiveness after the way he treated people. True, but biblical forgiveness is not about what a person deserves. Did Javert in Victor Hugo’s Les Miserable deserve the forgiveness of Jean Valjean? No, Javert continued to hunt down Valjean with no resolve to forgive. He was all about the law and making Valjean pay. But Valjean’s forgiveness freed Valjean to be a better person and love. Javert ended up committing suicide.

2) Forgiving Armstrong means condoning or minimizing what he did. False. Forgiveness never does either. It actually recognizes the severity of the breach of trust or betrayal, which is why is it so powerful for the one giving it.

3) Forgiving Armstrong means we let him off the hook. False. He has already lost much. There are natural and spiritual consequences for betrayal. His financial empire is collapsing. His reputation is tarnished and his trophies gone.

4) Once a person asks for forgiveness, reconciliation follows. False. Forgiveness is an act you individually do and reconciliation requires two people. So you can forgive but not reconcile.

5) Once  you forgive, things should go back to normal. False. If there is a breach of trust, the person still has to show he or she is repentant. Repentance requires a turning away from the wrong behavior and making a change. For someone to trust again takes time. The person has to repeatedly show he or she was sorry by not returning to that behavior.

6) If a person gets caught and that is what prompts an apology, it is meaningless. False. Your place is not to judge the sincerity of the apology. You are to forgive. Time will show whether the person meant it. God judges the heart. Only he knows if a person really repents. Our job is to accept the apology and still be wise about re-engaging that person given the type of offense.

7) Physically it doesn’t matter if I forgive or not. False. Forgiveness frees you. It has positive benefits to your health. It lowers heart rate and blood pressure and relieves stress.It reduces physical symptoms and helps you sleep, it restores positive feelings not only to the offender but to others, leading a person to more altruistic behavior and charitable work. It lessens depression and lowers your risk of substance abuse.

8) Forgiveness is spiritually commanded, not an option for the believer. True. God forgives us when we don’t deserve it and he expects us to do the same to others. Did people deserve Jesus’ forgiveness on the cross? Yet He gave it. And God tells us that if we don’t forgive, He won’t either. This doesn’t mean that your feelings will be in line with the choice to forgive. Feelings take longer to work through and trust is an issue impacted by lying or breach of trust.

 

 

I also spoke to CBN News about this topic. Here is the link to that interview. There is a set up piece about Amrstrong and then the live interview”

 

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