Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

7 Spiritual Keys to Losing Weight for Life

posted by Linda Mintle

weightMy book, Lose It For Life, is a total solution to losing weight and keeping it off. Not only do we have to attend to what we eat, become more active, deal with our emotions and thoughts and behave differently, but we must grow spiritually in the process. Here are seven spiritual keys that will help you be successful:

  1. Surrender. So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in his good time he will honor you” (1 Peter 5:6 nlt). We must be willing to discover what is driving the hunger and want healing more than we want food. We are unable to accomplish our goals without relinquishing control and surrendering to His way of doing things.
  2. Acceptance.“O LORD, you have examined my heart and know everything about me” (Psalm 139:1 nlt).You must determine to face and own the emotional issues, pain, and loss that you uncover behind the hunger. Accept the reality of your weight and the need for help. Be a realist, accepting your need for help. God sees your heart. He knows your need and will provide the help you require.
  3. Confession.Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed” James 5:16 nlt)Come out of hiding. Open up to God and others about the reality of your struggles. While it is often difficult to admit our shortcomings and areas of weakness, it is what keeps us honest and real with each other. Confession truly is good for the soul. You must find people you can trust who can handle your secrets and help you heal.
  4. Responsibility.“For we are each responsible for our own conduct” (Galatians 6:5 nlt). Taking responsibility for change, moving out of the victim position, and owning up to our mistakes is necessary to lose it for life. When we are hurt or experience loss, it’s easy to blame others or feel like a victim. However, we must believe that God will bring purpose and meaning out of pain and move on.
  5. Forgiveness. “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you” (Matthew 6:14 nlt). Forgive your own failures and the failures of those who have hurt you. Forgiveness is not optional in the Christian life and yet many of us hold on to bitterness and wonder why we don’t experience joy and other benefits of the Christian life. When we give up grudges and make restitution for past wrongs we experience spiritual blessings.
  6. Transformation.“All praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the source of every mercy and the God who comforts us. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4 nlt).Transform your struggle, pain, and loss into a purposeful mission. God’s way is to take those things we have suffered and use them for His glory. Out of pain and difficulty come compassion for others and a willingness to reach out because of the grace and mercy shown to us.
  7. Preservation.“So make every effort to apply the benefits of these promises to your life. Then your faith will produce a life of moral excellence. A life of moral excellence leads to knowing God better” (2 Peter 1:5 nlt). Perseverance is required to make it through life’s inevitable struggles and keep the spiritual gains made. When you discover the signs and phases of relapse, you will learn to maintain your weight loss for life.


15 Questions to See if You Have Food Issues

posted by Linda Mintle

eating spagettiDuring coffee one morning, Rita said, “I wonder if I have a food problem.” She isn’t alone. You may be thinking the same. Here are 15 questions to ask yourself when it comes to food or eating problems:

1. Do I constantly think about food, my body or my weight?

2. Does the thought of eating make me feel anxious?

3. Am I afraid I’ll get fat?

4. Do I keep eating when I’m not physically hungry?

5. Am I having trouble knowing if I am physically hungry?


6. Do I eat until I feel sick?

7. Do I weigh myself several times a day or week?

8. Am I upset if I miss exercising?

9. Do I think that controlling the food portions I eat makes me a better person?

10. Do I make myself throw up after I’ve eaten?

11. Have I taken laxatives to lose weight?

12. Do I use weight loss products?

13. Do I feel like food has taken control of me?

14. Do I eat when I feel unpleasant emotions?

15. Do I hate my body?

If you answered YES to a number of these questions, you may have an eating disorder or show early signs of developing one. The sooner you do something about your attitudes and feelings toward food, the more you can avoid falling prey to unhealthy patterns. Call a mental health professional and get an evaluation today!


What It Takes to Make Lasting Change

posted by Linda Mintle

Teen girlThrough years of failed change attempts, the road of self-effort and control has not taken most of us where we wanted to go. Proverbs 14:12 tells us, “Before every man there lies a wide and pleasant road that seems right but ends in death” (TLB). To stay on this road is to choose further heartache and destruction. Consequently, we must be willing to admit that our lives have spun out of control. Self-control and our forms of self-treatment have failed us and must be abandoned.


Although we are limited by our weaknesses, God is not. By acknowledging that He alone has the power to change the course of our lives, we surrender to Him our powerlessness and begin the process of spiritual renewal. Only when we relinquish our control to God does He release His supernatural power in our lives, and it is only through His power that we can be “transformed by the renewing of our minds” (Romans 12:2).

Every limitation we have can be seen as an invitation from God to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. When we surrender, we don’t just give up or play dead or wait for God to fix us. Instead, we become active participants with God in making a new path of hope toward healing. We drop our guard and give up our solitary and isolated efforts to heal. We sincerely and humbly reach out to others who can help us restore our lives to spiritual vitality.


Surrender is not passivity, nor is it resignation. Its motion requires an active and conscious turning towards God though others, reflecting our willingness to submit to His power and share our truth with others.

Surrender means:

  • humbling ourselves before the God of the universe
  • admitting that God is all powerful and releasing our struggles to Him
  • refusing to escape into the old patterns, habits, and attitudes that continue to distract us and add to the destruction of our lives
  • no longer saying, “I can handle this myself.”
  • submitting to God’s way of doing things even when we don’t understand
  • getting past our pain and fear and clinging to our hope in God and His love for us
  • setting aside our human understanding and becoming childlike, and acknowledging we have no answers that work

Surrender allows you to grow as you submit to God’s authority. In order to submit, you must trust that God has good things for you and that His plans and purposes far outweigh what you bring to the table.


Thus, a necessary step to make real change is to acknowledge your incredible need for God to take the reigns. If you don’t do this, you are doomed to continue to try every new scheme that offers you false hope and false security. But if you can grasp this surrender concept and implement it, you can be free from your addictions/obsessions and find a new life you never dreamed could be so great. But understand, before you can have that life, you must surrender the one you have.


Happy New Year!

posted by Linda Mintle

happy-new-year-1158488-638x465Thanks for following my blog all year. Here is to 2016.

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