Doing Life Together

When we think of February, we usually think of Valentine’s Day and love. But some would disagree. Divorce attorneys report that January and February (just before Valentine’s Day) are the busiest time of year for divorce. Think about it. Couples try to make it work over the holidays and hope that all the hoopla and…

Here comes the love feast holiday again!  I can hear the sighs from some of you. As a single person, it’s not your favorite holiday. Who wants to be reminded of what is not happening when it comes to love. Well, you may need a reframe for the day while you remain hopeful to meet…

It’s that time of year when we focus on love. Yes, Valentine’s Day! I heard a husband grouse about the day and say, “I don’t like being pressured to express my love. And I really don’t like being forced to do it one day a year.” Sadly, he’s not understanding the spirit of the holiday.…

  Disappointment happens all the time. People let us down and it hurts. But we never get used to being disappointed. For example, your father promised to take you to the Cubs game. He didn’t. Your wife said she would make time for physical intimacy. She didn’t. Friends promised to call you on the weekend.…

Although people joke about being obsessive or compulsive, having Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is no laughing matter. The bondage you feel to the obsessive thoughts and rituals is distressing. OCD can disrupt relationships. Even the smallest tasks become difficult to perform. For example, Libby can’t balance her checkbook because every entry must be perfectly written, or…

Wendy struggled to get out of bed. She felt sad, was losing interest in her usual activities, could not concentrate, had no appetite and was feeling worthless. She knew she was in trouble. Yet, when I suggested she see someone to help her through this difficult time, she refused. At first, she was hesitant to…

One of the most overlooked but most common reason for overeating is stress and emotional difficulties. Kids, like adults, can medicate life stress and difficulties with food. Food serves to temporarily numb out problems or bad feelings and provides immediate gratification. Food is a friend who never leaves and offers satisfaction. As food is used…

Words do hurt. Many of us have to de-program ourselves from negative messages that may or may not have been intended to hurt us or make us self-conscious but did. Hurtful words can impact our feelings of worth. You begin to doubt yourself and wonder if what is said is true about you. The good…

Jerry is 40-years-old and has a history of changing jobs. He is easily bored and distracted. Jerry’s wife is frustrated with all the home projects he starts and never finishes. A trip to the doctor landed Jerry a referral to a psychologist for an ADHD evaluation. When Jerry received the diagnosis, it all made sense.…

When we marry, we hope it is for a lifetime. It is important to choose the right person to go the distance. What if you could predict which newlywed couples will remain married and which ones will divorce four to six years later? And what if you were right 90% of the time. Well…this is…

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