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Stop Complaining and Get Out of That Spiritual Desert!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ever feel like giving up?

Discouragement comes easy sometimes. Our natural tendency is to feel defeated  when things are tough. But Philippians 2:13-14 tells us that God works in us for His good pleasure, and that we are to do all things without complaining and disputing. He wants us to have His best for our lives.

It doesn’t matter how dysfunctional your childhood was or how awful your current situation. If you trust God to complete what He started in you, He will. Years of criticism and negative judgement can be overcome by the cross. Invite God into whatever feels defeating right now.

And most of all, stop complaining!

Think about the biblical children of Israel. God miraculously intervened in their lives, freed them from slavery, parted the Red Sea and provided daily manna when they had no food. You know the story. Yet their response to the first sign of difficulty was to grumble and complain.

Are we any different?

When something goes wrong, we are quick to doubt God and let go of His Word. We tell ourselves we are unable to cope and begin to complain. Complaints lead to negative thinking and we feel defeated.

The lesson from the Israelites is that their grumbling and complaining led them to wander in the wilderness for 40 more years and prevented them from entering the Promised Land. So, if you feel you are wandering in a spiritual and emotional desert, stop complaining about your life. It’s time to change that circular thinking and focus on hope. Take these three steps:

1) Walk by faith, not sight. Don’t get caught up in the circumstances. Keep your eyes on God and what He says in His Word.

2) Begin to praise God for who He is–healer, provider, strong tower, father to the fatherless, etc.

3) Stand on His promises and thank Him for what He has done in the past and will do in the future! This is how you activate your faith. Stand. Believe!

 

 

Excerpt from Breaking Free from Negative Self-Image (Siloam Press, 2002) by Dr. Linda Mintle

Newborns: How Much Testing Should Parents Do?

posted by Linda Mintle

Today’s new parents have a lot of decisions to make. One of those decisions is how much testing to do on their newborn baby.

Technology has opened a potential Pandora’s box when it comes to testing newborns for conditions and disorders. Just a few drops of blood from a baby’s heel can lead to the discovery of over two dozen different conditions and disorders. And many of those conditions do not yet have treatments.

So the question  is, do parents want to know all the potential problems their child can have even if there is no intervention to pursue?

In the past, the reason for testing was to identify disorders like PKU that could be treated and prevented. Today the screening possibilities are much broader. Conditions and disorders can be discovered that have no treatments.

On the pro side of the screening controversy, the argument is: 1) Early intervention could improve the child’s life if a disorder was discovered 2) When symptoms later appear, parents would know what these are related to and would not waste time trying to find someone who could diagnosis the condition.

One the con side: 1) Early screening may lead to more unnecessary testing and treatment for babies who may not get sick 2) Broad screening adds to health care costs. 3) Blood samples can be stored and used by researchers, possibly violating privacy rights.

From a bio ethical perspective, trying to decide who will benefit from additional screenings and who will not is tricky business.

Right now, different states require different screenings. An advisory board to the Secretary of Health and Human Services has been established to make recommendations regarding which screenings should be done but states are trying to figure it all out.

In the meantime, parents have to decide how much screening should be done and what they want to know when their child is born.

 

What do you think? Love to see your comments.

 

Can That Fast Food Burger Make You Depressed?

posted by Linda Mintle

A recent study in Spain (published in Public Health Nutrition)  found that people who eat fast food are 51% more likely to be depressed than those who don’t consume fast food. The participants of the study had no depression diagnoses when the study began and were assessed for approximately six months. By the end of the study, after being fed a diet of fast food, over half of the people became depressed. And the more fast food consumed, the more likely the person was to become depressed.

Now, before you put down that burger and fries and cry over that chocolate milkshake, take a moment. It’s more complicated.

Those who consume a high amount of fast food increase the chance of depression because this type of eating causes poor health. But people who are depressed also reach for comfort junk food to feel better. So even though those in the study had no history of depression, there is still a relationship between people who feel depressed and their eating habits.

Other factors must also be considered when we are talking about the link between depression and fast food intake. For example, we know that people who are poor tend to eat more fast food, so poverty plays a role. And the subjects in the Spain study were less active, worked more than 40 hours a week and were more likely to be smokers–additional factors that can lead to problems. In other words, it takes more than a few fries and soda to put someone in a depressed state.

So while I advocate better eating for all, that juicy burger isn’t a depression risk if it is not part of your regular consumption. That said, you will improve your health by making healthier food choices, exercising, and putting an end to smoking!

The Difference Between Worry and Concern

posted by Linda Mintle

Be anxious about nothing. Is that really possible. It is if you know the difference between worry and concern.

Concern is normal. Worry is not! Watch this short video to find out the difference:

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