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Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

Unhappy at Work? Maybe It is All in Your Mind!

posted by Linda Mintle

Think of all the times you find yourself distracted at work–you worry over a deadline, are upset with a co-worker, wonder what you will make for dinner, etc.  Worry is distracting. This mental habit can take your focus off the task at hand and create such distraction that you find yourself not engaging in the here and now. And when you are not here and now focused, you risk your happiness.

Harvard researchers discovered that if your mind wanders during work, this could be the source of on-the-job unhappiness. And according to the researchers, our minds wander about 47% of the time anyway.

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In the Harvard study that utilized an IPHONE app and received feedback from more than 15,000 people from countries all over the world, mind wandering occurred on the job about 50% of the time.

What the researchers concluded was that we humans spend a lot of time thinking about things that are not happening in the moment. And apparently, a wandering mind is an unhappy mind–something religious groups have thought to be true for years.

So if you want to get happy on the job, stay in the moment and let go of worry. Worry is future focused and steals our joy and contributes to job unhappiness.

God wants you to live your work and home life in peace and contentment. A mind stayed on Him keeps us in perfect peace.

 

For more help on Letting Go of Worry click on the link.

 

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Defeat to Victory! A Spiritual Lesson

posted by Linda Mintle

I watched the women’s gymnastics last night and saw the incredible smiles on the faces of those five girls who had a spectacular night. But just a few nights prior, I saw the agony of defeat on the face of one of the competitors, Jordyn. The camera zoomed in as she faced huge disappointment and the death of the dream to compete for overall gold. It was heart wrenching to watch. All her work dashed by a few problematic routines.

Her response, “I was pretty disappointed, but I had to put it together mentally, especially for this team.  A team gold medal was also officially a goal of mine, and I had to pull myself together and move on and be stronger mentally for the team.”

And she did.

The lesson–one moment your hopes are dashed, your dreams elusive and the next, gold! It was all about her attitude. Would she allow disappointment to get the best of her or pull herself together for the team?

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So many times in life we face this same challenge. We can allow disappointment to drag us down and even paralyze us. We often fail to realize we are in a spiritual fight, one that depends on how we respond to the disappointment. Grieving a loss is normal, but we have to be careful not to get stuck in that grief and allow it to overtake us. When we trust God in the difficulty, victory is often around the corner.

So when you feel defeated, cry out to God. He fights for you and is strong when you feel weak. He defeated darkness on the cross.

Like an Olympian champion, God places you on that platform and declares you gold! Hie strength is perfect when ours is weak. Praise Him for His strength and being on His team. Put your confidence in Him when disappointment hits because you are always a part of  the winning team!

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4 Tips on Marriage From Divorced Couples

posted by Linda Mintle

When researcher Terri Orbuch at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research interviewed couples who divorced, she learned what couples would have changed in their failed relationships. Here are 4 tips from those couples.

 

 

 

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Martial Problems? Try a Spiritual Solution

posted by Linda Mintle

Janet was about to divorce her husband but decided to meet with her pastor first. The counsel he gave her provided a new perspective on her relationship.

The pastor pointed Janet to a passage of scripture, Matthew 17:14-21 . The story is about a man who came to Jesus on behalf of his epileptic son who was possessed with a demon. The man had taken his son to the disciples for healing. The disciples were unable to cast the demon out despite their efforts. Frustrated, Jesus says, “Bring him (the boy) to me.” Then he cures the boy. The disciples ask Jesus why they were unsuccessful. Jesus tells them it was because of their unbelief and that THIS KIND does not go out except with fasting and prayer.

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The pastor asked Janet, “Have you been fasting and praying? Do you believe God could heal your marriage?”

Janet was a little taken aback. She was so angry with her husband, she had not prayed or believed reconciliation was possible. She certainly didn’t fast. Yet, the phrase, THIS KIND, was meant for difficult situations like her marriage.  Thus, Janet decided to try a spiritual solution and fast and pray. In a month, she saw a miraculous turn around in her marriage.

Be encouraged by Janet’s situation. If you are in a difficult marriage perhaps prayer and fasting is needed. Maybe THIS KIND of marriage needs earnest spiritual attention.

Try God before you give up! The power of prayer and fasting may surprise you.

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