Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

Encountering Life Storms: Lessons from Pilots

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you going through a difficult time, what we might call a storm in your life? It could be a health diagnosis, a failing relationship, difficulty at work, parenting problems, etc. We all have problems and issues that pop up in life. This is unavoidable. But what isn’t unavoidable is handling the storms with confidence and calm.

Storms are inevitable when you fly as a pilot of an aircraft. My neighbor is a pilot for a major airline. He has been trained specifically on what to do when he encounters storms. Pilots learn the 5 Cs of how to deal with storms. The application to our lives is so helpful that I wanted to share this. A visiting pastor in our church shared this powerful metaphor.

When you encounter a life storm:

1) Calm down–don’t panic or allow fear to drive your decisions or reactions. Staying calm is key to thinking and reacting properly.

2) Check your instruments--you can’t go by feelings. Pilots deal with a condition in which their feeling of up and down isn’t always correct. Thus, they have to rely on their instruments to give them correct information. The same is true for us. Our feelings aren’t the best indicator of how to proceed when storms come. We must check our instruments–prayer and the Word of God.

3) Communicate with the tower--when storms hit, it is imperative to communicate with the tower. The tower can see you on radar and has a better picture of your circumstance than you do. In our case, the tower is God. Stay connected, don’t pull away.

4) Comply with what you are told- Because the tower has a better view of the weather and your aircraft, do what they tell you to do. Don’t go rogue. Listen to instructions and comply. The same is true for the Christian. Instead of listening to all the voices around us, comply with the Word and what God tells you to do.

5) Climb higher–When a storm is really difficult to fly through, the best thing is to climb higher and get above the storm. Worship is our way to go higher. The more we immerse ourselves in the presence of God, the more we can get above the storm and be in a place of peace.

The Positive Side of Social Media and Teens

posted by Linda Mintle

Parenting concerns about the role of social media in the lives of teens are real. We are all too familiar with the dark side of 0n-line problems –cyberbullying, stalking, invasion of privacy, child predators, etc.

But are there any positive sides to teens and social media use? World Vision is one organization that will tell you YES!

Harris Interactive conducted an on-line survey for World Vision, the International Christian Relief organization. A total of 535 young people between the ages of 13 and 17 participated.  The results of that survey found that 55% of those teens felt social media sites like Facebook and Twitter brought more awareness to the needs of others. Another finding was that teens felt that local volunteering was important (91%).

So if you want to encourage your teen to use social media in a positive way, you might want to point him or her to this Facebook Page.

One of the ways World Vision involves teens via social media is its 30 Hour Famine Event held February 24-25. If you missed it this time around, you can also participate on April 27-28.  On those dates, teens agree to go without food for 30 hours, drinking only water and juice, and engage in community service projects in their local communities. The idea is to give the teens a small taste of what it feels like to go without food, to experience what children all over the world experience who go hungry. Prior to the beginning of the 30 hour fast, teens raise money for World Vision by talking about the impact a dollar a day can do to feed the hungry. Last year’s event raised 9.5 million. This year’s goal is ten million.

What a great use of the technology–creating more compassionate teens who care about others and will do something to meet their needs.

 

 

Do Opposites Really Attract?

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you emotionally expressive but attracted to someone who seems to be very reluctant to share his emotional feelings?

It may be the intrigue that has captured your attention. Or perhaps it is the challenge of opening up someone who seems emotional closed. This opposite style of dealing with feelings may seem interesting at first, but over time, can create problems in a relationship.

So why do we seem initially attracted to someone who might be opposite to us? What drives an extrovert to be attracted to the quiet reserved introvert? The answer has to do with finding someone who complements you and helps you grow. But the truth is, when you get into that opposite attraction relationship, problems arise. We really want people who are similar to us in many ways.

Attraction literature tells us that we are attracted to people who are similar on physical attraction, earning potential, desire for children, religion, class and education. And when we talk about values, similarities win big.

If you spend enough time around someone, you can begin to feel attraction. Proximity is a strong attraction feature. But the more you spend time with that person, the more you get to know him or her, the less likely it is that opposition will lead to a lasting relationship. Bottom line, similarities attract, not opposites. But you still need some differences to make the relationship interesting!

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Ash Wednesday: A Day to Let Go of Relationship Hurt

posted by Linda Mintle

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future—Paul Boese

Today is Ash Wednesday.  It is the beginning of the 40 days of preparation (Lent) that leads to the celebration of Chris’s death (Good Friday) , burial and resurrection (Easter). On this day, we focus on our sins, repentance and God’s forgiveness and grace. It is a reminder of the price our Lord paid to free us from the grip of sin.

So today, as we think about the seriousness of the cross and what it means, examine your heart in the area of relationships. Take a few moments to engage in quiet contemplation.

Is there anger or unforgiveness that you are holding in your heart? Has someone hurt you and you haven’t been able to let go of that hurt?

Today would be a great day to let go, give it to God and begin to pray for that person who hurt you.

1. Choose to forgive: You won’t always feel like forgiving someone but making that choice allows God to heal those hurts and wounds.

2. View forgiveness as an act of obedience to God. Romans 12:19-21 reminds us that God is  the One who will deal with people who have hurt us.

3. Remove the offense through prayer and release.

4. Meditate on Scripture.

5. Leave your hurt and wound at the foot of the cross. Nail the sin of unforgiveness at that place. Christ died for it.

6. Pray for the offender. This is probably the most difficult. In Matthew 5, Jesus tells us to pray for those who persecute us. Release all judgment and allow God to complete His healing in you.

 

 

For more help: Breaking Free from Anger and Unforgivness by Dr. Linda Mintle

 

 

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