All you have to do is listen to people comment as they walk around the mall. So many have a negative view of self. Everything from, “I feel fat today” to “I hate the way I look” can be heard.
Have you embraced a distorted view of yourself? Have you used the cultural standards of beauty and success to judge your worth?
1. Have a proper understanding of what self-image is. A self-image is based on your own ideas of acceptance and accomplishment. A God-image is built on the inherent dignity and worth you have as His child. Nothing you do or accomplish impacts your worth.
2. God esteems you when people do not. God cares about your heart and looks at things that have eternal significance. Scripture reminds us that we are accepted, secure and significant because we are His.
3. At the root of a negative self-image is a lack of true identity. If identity is based on anything other than who we are in Christ, it can be shattered. Identity in Christ is necessary to develop God-esteem. No matter what your past, salvation changes you to a new creation and immediately connects you to the person of God.
4. Daily renew your mind with the Word of God. Value what God values. Change begins in your thought-life. As you think on things that are good, pure, noble, lovely and of good report, review the promises of God. Identify the lies of the enemy and ask God to reveal His truth about who you are.
5. Change your behavior. Stop striving for self-actualization and ways to be loved. Receive His unconditional love for you. Rest in Him and allow His love to transform you.
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Today’s blog is the link to my radio show, The Dr. Linda Mintle Show, that airs weekly on Victory FM. The show is on Letting Go of Worry. Most of us need help in this area so here is the link. Listen and enjoy. There is practical help in this 30 minute show as to how to let go of worry and not become anxious or filled with worry and fear. Living a life of peace not only helps our physical lives, but is what God intended.
Click here to listen: This program and more is also available on my E-newsletter than comes out two times a month. You can subscribe for FREE on www.drlindahelps.com. Other shows on Anger, Teens and Media and Should husbands and Wives Give Advice to each other are archived on the MEDIA, radio tab as well. Enjoy! And hey, let’s do life together.
This month is anti-bully month and according to a new study, all this awareness of bullying may actually be making things worse! That’s right, schools with no programs have less bullying than those with the programs. Put up a poster to prevent bullying and you just may increase the behavior!
According to a study conducted at the University of Texas at Arlington and published in the Journal of Criminology (September, 2013), students at anti-bullying initiative schools are MORE likely to be bullied. The reason according to bullying expert Start Twemlow, whenever you target a group of specific people, things get worse. These programs may actually be giving bullies ideas on how to bully better. Not exactly the intended impact when it comes to prevention!
Zero tolerance policies are not working either. In fact, the NEA gives these policies a big F for effectiveness as well.
And all the awareness leads to better reporting, which may look like the problem is on the rise.
Twemlow, a bullying expert, says our current efforts should consider a name change from anti-bullying to pro-kindness, not exactly a sizzling campaign you could excite people to support, but more indicative of the type of change really needed.
Bullying, he contends, is more about the adults, the resources that schools can’t afford, and over hauling the school’s climate and leadership. In other words, the school’s norms, values, and expectations would change in a positive way to support prosocial behavior. Kindness would be promoted. Now there is a novel thought!
So back to the drawing board for educators. Semantics aside, the real problem is a change of heart. Kindness is a fruit of the spirit. Maybe someone should suggest that taking God out of the schools may also have had an effect no one saw coming!
A number of years ago I had back surgery. Before the surgery, I prayed and believed God could heal me. The night before the surgery, I had no pain and was convinced God had done a miracle. I was rejoicing, but woke up the next morning in excruciating pain and needed the surgery. It was a success and I had my healing. Looking back at the night free of pain, I believe God gave me the rest I needed to go through that procedure. My healing was no less a miracle than if God had touched my back immediately and healed it without surgery. In this case, he used the skillful hand of the surgeon to accomplish the healing, even though I had faith that God could do it without the surgeon’s help. God is all powerful. Healing, I have learned comes in many ways.
So why is it that when we talk about mental disorders like Bipolar Disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorders, Schizophrenia, etc. that we believe prayer alone heals people? These type of disorders have a clear biological root. We can now see the differences on brain scans. We know that God remains all powerful, yet sometimes His healing comes through the use of skilled doctors and mental health professionals. Personally I don’t see a difference. I do pray for healing over my clients. I believe God could heal their brain chemistry the same way He can heal a tumor. For years, I have prayed that prayer. What I see most often, is God healing through using His servants and what He has equipped us to do.
This tension we feel in the church about mental illness and healing need not be. We continue to lay hands on people and believe for healing. Then we allow God to do what He can only do. That may involve the help of medicines, doctors and mental health professionals. God gave us the knowledge to see into the brain, to develop the medicines, to learn the pathways to help people. God equips us to do His work.
Yet according to a Lifeway Research survey, a third of Americans – and nearly half of evangelical, fundamentalist, or born-again Christians – believe prayer and Bible study alone can overcome serious mental illness. I think we need to be careful in limiting God to heal the way we think he should. Sometimes He uses doctors and medicines. Sometimes, a progressive healing gives people the chance to work on various areas of their lives that they wouldn’t do under different circumstances.
God sees the whole picture. He knows what is best for us. Sometimes, the outcome of someone struggling with a mental illness is a closer walk for family members, even a conversion can happen as people depend on God. We don’t know how God uses the brokenness of our lives. So can you prayer away mental illness? Yes and sometimes No. Sometimes God’s healing comes through doctors and medicine, the same way the neurosurgeon was used to heal my back.