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HAPPY 4th of JULY

posted by Linda Mintle

Taking a break and simply wishing all of you a wonderful holiday.

Be safe, honor those who serve and secure our freedom, enjoy your family, barbecues and other forms of celebration!

Don’t Put On Your High Heels Baby!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ahhh,,, beautiful Carmel-by-the-Sea in California. Home of the well know Pebbles Beach Golf Club. City that boasts Clint Eastwood as its former mayor. Vistas that take your breath away and something else….

“Put on your high heels baby, cause we are going out tonight” is not a song that applies to those living and visiting in Carmel! Carmel has an historic law that has never been banned that makes it illegal to wear high heels!

Who knew? Thankfully, I wore flip flops last time I was in Carmel. Imagine me telling my teens that mom was arrested for wearing high heels. They would say, “That sounds a little sketch!”

The good news for all you law breaking tourists and citizens of Carmel–apparently the law isn’t enforced. In fact, you can purchase a commemorative permit that allows you to wear the shoes.

Now that I know this, I just want to go so I can purchase the permit and strut my stilettos.

Forget the speeding tickets to raise revenue! Legislators, make a law regarding wardrobe malfunction. It’s much more fun!

Cruise-Holmes Split: Did Religion Play a Part?

posted by Linda Mintle

Big news last week in Hollywood. Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes split after 5 years of marriage. Was I surprised?

No, but it is still sad when a family breaks up and a child is caught in the middle.

For years, I have wondered about the strange religious union of this couple. Holmes grew up Catholic and her parents are reported to be devout Catholics. Cruise is big in the Scientology church. At the beginning of the relationship, there were reports that Holmes parents objected to the marriage, but eventually came around so as not to alienate from their daughter. And interestingly, Cruise’s second wife, Nicole Kidman was raised Catholic, but never converted to his religion.

Catholicism  and Scientology and not two religions that are compatible with each other. From a Catholic perspective, scientology is not even considered a legitimate religion (www.catholic.org).

Religion does play a role in couples staying together. A study by researchers at Auburn University Montgomery found divorce rates to be inversely related to religious homogeneity. This means that when a couple has the same religion and is involved in that religion, the divorce rate is lower. Certainly other variables are at work in divorce, and people are able to overcome religious differences when there is agreement on norms and beliefs in general, but religions that are very different can certainly be a factor in marital breakup.

Religion can be a stabilizing force in a marriage. It can also be a source of great disparity and concern.

Now that the Cruise child, Suri, age 6, is starting school, you’ve got to wonder how much the Catholic roots played into Holmes decision to leave.

According to reports, Holmes converted to Scientology before the couple wed. And Cruise already had a history of his religion impacted his first marriage to actress Mimi Rogers.

So while Hollywood typically has little to say about the impact of religion on its couples, I wouldn’t rule out that religion played a role this time around.

 

 

 

Christianity: More Than a List of Dos and Don’ts

posted by Linda Mintle

My teens regularly ask me why we have rules about all kinds of things. When I answer, I try to speak to the heart of the matter. Rules are like protective boundaries but obedience comes out of a heart of love and gratefulness.

Reading the Old Testament, it is easy to see why Christianity is often viewed as a list of dos and don’ts. The Torah alone  (the first five books of the Old Testament) lists 613 “mitzvot” (commandments).  When you add to that total, centuries of rabbinical traditions that created another set of rules about how to keep the first rules…and then the traditions and customs well… you get my drift.

Actually, God had a plan for these rules all along.

He purposefully created a set of rules that He knew we humans could not keep. An annual sacrifice of a pure and unmarked lamb to absolve the lot of our collective inabilities to keep His laws was the only solution to our failed obedience.

Then, in one amazing fell swoop, God sent a perfect replica of Himself. We Christians call Him Jesus, the God-man – to fill in for the annual lamb.  For 33 years, Jesus lived a 100% pure and perfect (read: sinless) life. He de-emphasized rules and got to the heart of matters. When he was murdered, he became the human version of the sacrificial lamb.  But this time, God was satisfied for all time.  And we, out of love, desire to keep God’s commandments and receive His blessings.

So now, we’re free from the list of dos and don’ts that handcuffed us all those years ago.  Now, loves compels us to follow God’s rules as a matter of choice.  Our choice.

Because Jesus’ choice was to buy our freedom, we am no longer slaves to the law.

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