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Beyonce’s And Jay Z’s Baby’s Over the Top Birth

posted by Linda Mintle

Beyonce and Jay-Z had a baby girl! Congrats to them. Always glad for a healthy birth!

But apparently not everyone is overjoyed with the circumstances surrounding this birth. According to MailOnline:

  • A rumored 1. 3 million was spent to renovate a New York hospital for their birth experience.
  • A bulletproof door was put on Beyonce’s room
  • The couple hired their own security
  • The windows were darkened with special drapes so no one could see through
  • As the couple moved freely, other new parents had to make adjustments for them. The NICU window’s were darkened with tape and curtains hung so Beyonce and Jay Z could move about with no one seeing them.

Reading about this celebrity birth made me want to begin a charity. It was too much and over the top. Prepare yourself now for the onslaught of pictures once photos are released!

Former Destiny Child songmate, Kelly Rowland, bought the baby  (Blue Ivy–yes that is what they named the child!) a Swarovski crystal bath tub!  The Insider reported that Oprah bought the baby a trunk of children’s book–this was probably the most sensible gift. Dad Jay Z bought a $20,000 Posh Tots Fantasy Crib and  a $15,000 high chair. Other gifts include a handmade golden horse from a Japanese jeweler. The list goes on. Fox news in Chicago estimated that Blue Ivy received  more than 1.5 million in gifts.

She’s a baby people! She doesn’t know the difference between a plastic or crystal tub! How about suggesting people donate money to a great cause in honor of her birth.

Then there were the tweets, also over the top: Blue Ivy spelled backwards is Eulb Yvi, Latin for Lucifer’s daughter. Does that include her last name? Which by the way, what would that be…Blue Ivy Z?

The excess on display is crazy–where are the Occupy Wall Street people when you need them! Oh wait, Jay-Z  launched a line of Occupy Wall Street themed t-shirt. Is anyone else confused?

After seeing all of this, I just had to stop and pray that this child has some kind of normal life. The excess on parade is staggering.

Beyonce and Jay Z can spend their money any way they want.  I just find it fascinating that Occupy Wall Street parks themselves in front of financial institutions whose purpose it to make money, while Jay Z markets a line of t-shirts, Occupy All Streets, that puts profit in his pocket. I wouldn’t care except that I don’t like media lecturing me on the evils of Wall Street while the darlings of Hollywood flaunt their excess with no similar treatment. Aren’t they the very people the occupiers don’t like. Most people can see the disconnect.

But I digress…. back to Beyonce and Jay Z. I wish them and the baby well. They have much to consider raising this child–the excess, entitlement, constant scrutiny and lack of privacy and fame, all will make parenting difficult. Let’s pray they  get a grip on all this excess and be sensible parents.

 

 

5 Habits of a Highly Productive Workers

posted by Linda Mintle

In a difficult job market, it always pays to be highly productive in your work. What are those habits that make for a good worker who gets the job done?

1) Refuse to multi-task. Research confirms that multitasking doesn’t pay off. We lose information when we switch from task to task. Even though women are better at this than men, multi-tasking doesn’t get the job done smarter. You actually drop you IQ an average of 10 points when you multi-task.

2) Check your email occasionally. The temptation is to check every time you hear an update but resist. Check at regular intervals during your day, not continuously. The thinking here is that the constant checking interrupts your flow and creativity.

3) Take a quick break. Your brain functions by using glucose. Glucose is spent after about 60-90 minutes which is why we often need breaks in our day to move around, get a snack and refocus. So get up, walk to the coffee, grab a water, and shake off the concentration.

4) Be a person who talks to people. Email is convenient but talking to a real person goes a long way, especially when the conversation is ongoing.

5) Avoid distractions.  This is one I had to really work on to be more productive. Close your door, put up a no disturb sign, don’t respond to your computer interruptions. Stay quiet and focused.

These may seem like small things when it comes to work productivity, but they can really make a difference.

Why Buffy The Vampire Slayer Hates Her Body

posted by Linda Mintle

Sarah Gellar is the actress who starred in the TV series, Buffy, The Vampire Slayer. She made news recently –not because she is married to Freddie Prinze, Jr. or because she is a vampire on the prowl again, but because she hates her body and suffers from a psychiatric condition, Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD).  She believes she is not alone dealing with this affliction -that many women in America suffer from the same.

With BDD, people imagines they are ugly, flawed or deformed in some way. Typically, they focus on a specific part of their body like their nose, chin, ears, neck, skin, etc.

I have treated this condition for years. It usually begins during early adolescence but can occur in childhood. In order to cope, patients often resort to repetitious behavior like covering their ears, hiding their nose, checking the mirror, excessive grooming, etc. The disorder impairs a person’s functioning. The preoccupation over appearance usually results in withdrawing from social situations and can lead to depression.

Treatment is usually cognitive behavioral therapy that includes such techniques as exposure, response prevention, behavioral experiments and cognitive restructuring.The goal is to change a person’s thinking, engage the person socially and stop the repetitious behavior that goes along with feeling unattractive.

Here are three questions to ask if you or someone you know may have BDD: (For more information, go to this link on World Psychiatry where these questions were copied)

  • Are you very worried about your appearance in any way? (OR: Are you unhappy with how you look?) If yes: what is your concern?
  • Does this concern preoccupy you? That is, do you think about it a lot and wish you could worry about it less? How much time do you spend thinking about (fill in body areas of concern)?
  • What effect has this preoccupation with your appearance had on your life? Has it:
    • Significantly interfered with your social life, school work, job, other activities, or other aspects of your life?
    • Caused you a lot of distress?
    • Affected your family or friends?

 

Perhaps Sarah Gellar’s admission of her struggle will give more young women the courage to treat the disorder.

Will Watching TV Shorten Your Life?

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a know fact that smokers tend to live shorter lives than nonsmokers. In fact, smoking two cigarettes a day can shorten your life by about 22 minutes.

Now what if I told you that watching TV could do the same.

Couch potatoes, listen up!

Researchers at the University of Queensland in Australia found that after the age of 25, watching an hour of TV a day can shorten a life by about 22 minutes–the same as smokers!

Great. Most of us qualify for shortened life!

Don’t panic yet. It wasn’t TV that created the shortened life span.

The real story is that TV viewers are less active for long periods of time. The sedentary lifestyle common to TV viewers raises the risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, overweight and other healthy issues. And of course, these healthy problems lead to earlier mortality.

So don’t donate those flat screens just yet. Get up and move and stay active. Your life may just depend on it.

 

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