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Gospel Singer Yolanda Adams Challenges BET Entertainers

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m giving it up to gospel singer, Yolanda Adams on the BET awards this past week.

After being assaulted by foul mouthed talk and rap, Adams gracefully accepts her award and says, “We need all of y’all. I’m saying the world needs everyone in this room. Please make sure that you use your gift responsibly, ’cause we’re watching. Our babies are watching, and they want to be like us.”

Yes, our babies are watching and what they see and hear isn’t making them better people.

The amount of work the censors had to do on this show was ridiculous (and I don’t mean that in a good way!).

Kanya West, Big Sean, Pusha T and 2 Chainz were censored so many times there were periods of complete silence. Nicki Minaj joined the multitude of bleeps. It was a silent assault of offensive language and those of you who read me, know how this is one of my soap boxes. What is the point? In fact, this lack of civility does harm. Read this. Is Profanity on TV Harmless? The language of aggression is a precursor to violence according to the results from the Civility Project at Johns Hopkins.

So back to Yolanda Adams remarks. What would happen if these talented performers used their gifts to better the world, to encourage young people in a positive way, and were role models of peace and love instead of inciting people to objectify women, be violent and rude?

How could these rappers influence young people in a good way? Perhaps a little conscious raising and policing of their own lyrics could make a real difference. I can’t imagine Beyonce wanting her little girl exposed to rap that tells her she is a BLEEP and a BLEEP!

Yolanda, you were brave. I doubt the entertainers will heed your advice, but I for one am glad you said it.

HAPPY 4th of JULY

posted by Linda Mintle

Taking a break and simply wishing all of you a wonderful holiday.

Be safe, honor those who serve and secure our freedom, enjoy your family, barbecues and other forms of celebration!

Don’t Put On Your High Heels Baby!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ahhh,,, beautiful Carmel-by-the-Sea in California. Home of the well know Pebbles Beach Golf Club. City that boasts Clint Eastwood as its former mayor. Vistas that take your breath away and something else….

“Put on your high heels baby, cause we are going out tonight” is not a song that applies to those living and visiting in Carmel! Carmel has an historic law that has never been banned that makes it illegal to wear high heels!

Who knew? Thankfully, I wore flip flops last time I was in Carmel. Imagine me telling my teens that mom was arrested for wearing high heels. They would say, “That sounds a little sketch!”

The good news for all you law breaking tourists and citizens of Carmel–apparently the law isn’t enforced. In fact, you can purchase a commemorative permit that allows you to wear the shoes.

Now that I know this, I just want to go so I can purchase the permit and strut my stilettos.

Forget the speeding tickets to raise revenue! Legislators, make a law regarding wardrobe malfunction. It’s much more fun!

Cruise-Holmes Split: Did Religion Play a Part?

posted by Linda Mintle

Big news last week in Hollywood. Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes split after 5 years of marriage. Was I surprised?

No, but it is still sad when a family breaks up and a child is caught in the middle.

For years, I have wondered about the strange religious union of this couple. Holmes grew up Catholic and her parents are reported to be devout Catholics. Cruise is big in the Scientology church. At the beginning of the relationship, there were reports that Holmes parents objected to the marriage, but eventually came around so as not to alienate from their daughter. And interestingly, Cruise’s second wife, Nicole Kidman was raised Catholic, but never converted to his religion.

Catholicism  and Scientology and not two religions that are compatible with each other. From a Catholic perspective, scientology is not even considered a legitimate religion (www.catholic.org).

Religion does play a role in couples staying together. A study by researchers at Auburn University Montgomery found divorce rates to be inversely related to religious homogeneity. This means that when a couple has the same religion and is involved in that religion, the divorce rate is lower. Certainly other variables are at work in divorce, and people are able to overcome religious differences when there is agreement on norms and beliefs in general, but religions that are very different can certainly be a factor in marital breakup.

Religion can be a stabilizing force in a marriage. It can also be a source of great disparity and concern.

Now that the Cruise child, Suri, age 6, is starting school, you’ve got to wonder how much the Catholic roots played into Holmes decision to leave.

According to reports, Holmes converted to Scientology before the couple wed. And Cruise already had a history of his religion impacted his first marriage to actress Mimi Rogers.

So while Hollywood typically has little to say about the impact of religion on its couples, I wouldn’t rule out that religion played a role this time around.

 

 

 

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