Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

Self-Esteem On-Line: A Dangerous Trend

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a dangerous trend. Young girls post videos of themselves on You Tube or other social media and then ask people to rate them on this question– Am I pretty or not?

I went to one You Tube and almost 5,000,000 people viewed the video. The responses range from nice and nasty.

Parents, be concerned.The impact of negative responses on-line can damage a girl’s self-esteem. The focus on outward beauty is already out of control in our culture. These videos and social media sites take the pressure to measure up to some ideal of beauty to a new level. Asking other people to determine your beauty is asking for trouble. As an eating disorders therapist, I only see this as one more way to crush self-esteem.

Girls at this age are still developing a sense of self. When identity is based on anything other than who we are in Christ, it can be shattered. Self-image is based on your own ideas of acceptance and accomplishment. Giving strangers the power to speak into that acceptance is dangerous. A God image is built on the inherent dignity and worth you have because you are God’s child. You reflect His image which makes you beautiful. People look at the outward appearance and judge us by our looks. Scripture reminds us that this is not God’s way.

So why would anyone give the power to others to determine her worth? To all these young girls looking for acceptance from others, you are already worth so much, beautiful to God and valued. Don’t give others the power to define you.

 

For more help, Breaking Free from Negative Self-Image.

 

 

Teens and Stress: Don’t Eat it Away

posted by Linda Mintle

A group of high school teens sat down with me and discussed stress and our tendency to eat when we feel it.

Watch the video to see what stresses them and how they can cope in healthy ways.

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Huge Benefits to Having Family Meals

posted by Linda Mintle

This week I did an interview for Telemundo Miami on the importance of family meals. The benefits from sitting down to meals as a family are so compelling that I hope  you think about making this a reality. Family meals have become a lost tradition in our culture. It is too easy to allow busy schedules to dictate our day, but making time for meals is definitely worth the effort. And even if you are a working mom, you can make this happen with my tips.

Family meals….

—Decrease teen risk of psychosocial problems– drug use, alcohol use, risky sexual behavior, suicidal intention and early sexual behavior.

—Allow kids to eat healthier and have better nutrition.

—Bring a sense of emotional connection among family members.

—That are no stress zones create a relaxed atmosphere for great conversation and catch up on daily activities.

—Provide a routine that help kids thrive.

—Increase the chance of kids getting their fruits and vegetable servings needed for healthy development.

—Are the single strongest predictor of better academic achievement (University of Michigan study).

So with all these incredible benefits, how can you make this happen?

1.Pre-plan for meals. This is the key. On the weekend, make up a menu and buy needed ingredients. Plan your daily meals.

2. Pull out that Crock-Pot that is located somewhere in a cupboard. The night before or early a.m., fill it with tasty ingredients, plug it in and simmer all day and come home to a home cooked meal.

3. Get on the net and find a number of 30 minute meal preparations. Rachel Ray and others have on-line recipes that are easy to make.

4. Cook meals on weekends and freeze them. Then you simply thaw the day you need the meal.

5. Accommodate schedules. When my kids were in ballet, soccer and other activities, I adjusted mealtime each night to fit the schedule. It can be done!

This one change in your family life can make a huge difference!

 

For more tips on how to raise healthy weight kids, click on the link to my book,  Raising Healthy Kids, winner of the Mom’s Choice Awards.

Job Hunting? Focus on These Three Questions

posted by Linda Mintle

Robert lost his job last month and is anxious about interviewing for a new one. His company downsized and he was one of the casualties of that decision. The problem is that Robert hasn’t interviewed for a job in over seven years. He is asking how to prepare for his upcoming interview.

I recently saw an article in Forbes that talked about what recruiters look for when hiring for a new position. Since so many people are job hunting these days, I found this article very helpful. Here is a very brief summary. The link provides the full article. If you are looking for a job or want to change jobs, you will want to be prepared to answer these three questions:

1. Can you do the job? This question is intended to get at your strengths. While technical skills are needed for a position, you also want to be good with interpersonal relationships and have leadership skills. Recruiters look for people high in Emotional Intelligence (EQ). EQ is all about your ability to monitor your feelings and the feelings of other people and use the information to guide your decisions and actions.

2. Is there a fit between you and the company hiring you? People leave and get fired from organizations when the fit is not happening. In a job interview, not only are they assessing you, but you will need to assess them. This question about fit gets at who you are in relation to the organization interested in hiring you. Will the two of you work well together?

3. Do you have passion for the position? People who hire are looking for those who are highly motivated because they have passion for a position. This question assesses your motivation. Are you interested in the job simply because you need a job and can do the work, or do you have a passion for the work?

As you prepare to interview, be prepared by thinking through your answers to these three questions. If you can answer, YES, to all three questions, you may have a better chance of finding a job you like and can stay at for awhile.

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