Honestly, it was hard to watch John Orozco’s face Wednesday night for the second time in his Olympic trials. He looked like he was almost having panic attacks. I thought he might vomit after he fell apart on the Pommel Horse again. My heart ached for the guy. I wanted to grab him and say, “Hey, get a grip on who you are–you are a champion, a fighter, a hard worker who has sacrificed much. You are still amazing.” I ached for his mom and dad who sacrificed much and had to watch his defeat and the devastation on his sweet face.
And even though Orozco couldn’t pull it together for the all arounds, his story is one of overcoming. A product of the Bronx, teased for his shyness and choosing gymnastics, John was bullied. But he found his place in the gym, an unlikely sport for someone from his neighborhood. And his countenance is one of humility and kindness, not anger and embitterment.
There is much to love about this remarkable young man. He beat the odds to even get to the Olympics. He followed his passion and didn’t conform even when he was mercilessly teased. He didn’t give us a bunch of bravado about how great he is. Instead, he talked about wanting to help his family and give back-a refreshing change from the usual egotistical athlete who trash talks his opponents and constantly reminds us of how special he is.
Maybe the lesson here is more about the journey to the top rather than being the winner. Maybe young kids could see a role model whose goal was to lift his family out of poverty instead of becoming famous, garnering bling and driving a big car for the ladies. Maybe it is more about following your dreams and passion regardless of the naysayers.
Dust off your feet John Orozco, chalk it up to a bad few days and move forward. Hold your head high and be proud of what you have accomplished through the years.
At 19, your future is bright.
Think of all the times you find yourself distracted at work–you worry over a deadline, are upset with a co-worker, wonder what you will make for dinner, etc. Worry is distracting. This mental habit can take your focus off the task at hand and create such distraction that you find yourself not engaging in the here and now. And when you are not here and now focused, you risk your happiness.
Harvard researchers discovered that if your mind wanders during work, this could be the source of on-the-job unhappiness. And according to the researchers, our minds wander about 47% of the time anyway.
In the Harvard study that utilized an IPHONE app and received feedback from more than 15,000 people from countries all over the world, mind wandering occurred on the job about 50% of the time.
What the researchers concluded was that we humans spend a lot of time thinking about things that are not happening in the moment. And apparently, a wandering mind is an unhappy mind–something religious groups have thought to be true for years.
So if you want to get happy on the job, stay in the moment and let go of worry. Worry is future focused and steals our joy and contributes to job unhappiness.
God wants you to live your work and home life in peace and contentment. A mind stayed on Him keeps us in perfect peace.
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I watched the women’s gymnastics last night and saw the incredible smiles on the faces of those five girls who had a spectacular night. But just a few nights prior, I saw the agony of defeat on the face of one of the competitors, Jordyn. The camera zoomed in as she faced huge disappointment and the death of the dream to compete for overall gold. It was heart wrenching to watch. All her work dashed by a few problematic routines.
Her response, “I was pretty disappointed, but I had to put it together mentally, especially for this team. A team gold medal was also officially a goal of mine, and I had to pull myself together and move on and be stronger mentally for the team.”
And she did.
The lesson–one moment your hopes are dashed, your dreams elusive and the next, gold! It was all about her attitude. Would she allow disappointment to get the best of her or pull herself together for the team?
So many times in life we face this same challenge. We can allow disappointment to drag us down and even paralyze us. We often fail to realize we are in a spiritual fight, one that depends on how we respond to the disappointment. Grieving a loss is normal, but we have to be careful not to get stuck in that grief and allow it to overtake us. When we trust God in the difficulty, victory is often around the corner.
So when you feel defeated, cry out to God. He fights for you and is strong when you feel weak. He defeated darkness on the cross.
Like an Olympian champion, God places you on that platform and declares you gold! Hie strength is perfect when ours is weak. Praise Him for His strength and being on His team. Put your confidence in Him when disappointment hits because you are always a part of the winning team!
When researcher Terri Orbuch at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research interviewed couples who divorced, she learned what couples would have changed in their failed relationships. Here are 4 tips from those couples.