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ID-100112057I generally like the work of biological anthropologist, Helen Fisher. She wrote a book called, The Anatomy of Love, and concludes that women are more wired for monogamy than men.

She claims that men are wired to want sex with many partners and women with just one partner. She believes the difference has to do with women’s need for security and constant love. In other words, monogamy is for women only!

Marital researcher, John Gottman, argues the point. Gottman tells us that historically monogamy was designed by men for the purpose of ascertaining paternity to enable inheritance property. He goes on to say that social changes have questioned this monogamy need for women. With more access to men in the workplace, more economic power, affair rates for men and women are more equal. In other words, with women in the workforce and having more economic power, they don’t act differently than men when it comes to straying from their one partner.

I say, monogamy is for men and women based on our free will to decide what to do with our passions and lusts no matter the source–biological wiring or access to more partners!

ID-10056374What if eating strawberries, cucumbers and other produce could prevent an Alzheimer’s patient from memory loss?

There may be new evidence for this based on mice studies. These findings have not been replicated on Alzheimer patients yet, but the mice may tell us something that will direct our research.

Here is what researchers at the Salk Institute for Biological Studies in La Jolla, California found. A plant-based compound called flavonoids contains something called fisetin.

Fisetin may reduce memory-related brain inflammation in Alzheimer’s disease. At least, that’s what the festin fed mice told us in a study. The mice, that were bred with Alzheimer like symptoms were daily fed fisetin, the equivalent of about 37 strawberries. The fisetin reduced levels of a molecule (p25) associated with nerve damage and brain inflammation. It had no effect on brain plague. But it did improve memory.

Now, if you are thinking of running to your local nutrition store to find fisetin, you won’t find a commercial version of the supplement with pure fisetin in it. For now, load up on the strawberries and other produce. It can’t hurt and it might even help.

ID-10077874Mike is a 20-year-old college student who needs to score well on his next big test. If he doesn’t get a high grade, it could jeopardize his grade point average and chances of getting into medical school.

Mike knows that one of his roommates takes Adderall, a stimulant medication for ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder). He has heard that taking the drug would help him focus better when studying. Several of the guys in the dorm “share” their roommate’s medication around exam and tests times.

ADHD is a legitimate psychiatric diagnosis based in neurobiology. When a diagnosed person takes an ADHD medication, it helps him or her focus and be less impulsive. For people with ADHD, the medication can make all the difference in their ability to succeed in a day.

However, we now see a portion of people taking these drugs who do not have a physiological need or a diagnosis. They are taking the drug without a prescription in order to lose weight or improve their focus  And those who crush the drug and then inject or snort it, can experience a euphoric high, feel a false sense of self-confidence, and develop a dependency.

Furthermore, taking a drug like Adderall (“Addy”) with no monitoring or diagnosis can produce side effects like dangerously high BP, irregular heartbeat, difficulty breathing, seizures and tremors, and mood disorders. With repeated and high use, there is also a danger of  stroke and cognition changes such as confusion, hallucinations, delusions, and paranoia.

The message to Mike and his buddies who are not diagnosed with ADHD and looking for a little help to do better on exams is to find a better way. Using your roommate’s ADHD medication is not only illegal, but potentially dangerous to your health and well-being.

basketballMarch Madness, as most of you know, is a term referring to college basketball play offs that are scheduled in March. We are now in the thick of those playoffs. What you might have noticed is  aggressive and violent acts among coaches, players and fans throughout the year. Here are a few examples of what we are seeing.

Fans who taunt and are aggressive:

After a technical foul was called on Hawaii in a game against UC Santa Barbara, a fan ran onto the court to confront Hawaii head coach Gib Arnold. The fan  jumped in the coaches face, was verbally aggressive before being pushed by a few Hawaii players on his way back to his seat.

In February, Marcus Smart (Oklahoma State) was suspended for three games for shoving a fan in the closing seconds of OSU’s  loss at Texas Tech. Smart fell out of bounds when trying to block a shot, was helped to his feet, and then shoved a fan who said something to him. Neither Marcus or the fan responded well.

Coaches who lose it:

Who could forget the brief tirade of Syracuse coach Jim Boeheim against Duke as he screamed obscenities at an official while running on to the court, peeling off his jacket.

Kentucky coach John Calipari did what more and more coaches are seen doing–leaving  the coaching box while yelling at an official.

Players who become overly aggressive: 

During the Iowa –Michigan State game, Zach McCabe and Travis Trice (State) battled for position. Then, when the play was dead,  McCabe decided to yank Trice’s arm. McCabe was given a technical foul and Russell Byrd (Michigan State) launched himself from the bench to engage in a mini scuffle on the court. He was ejected from the game.

Why do tempers flare? Well, it is competition, but the line between appropriate aggression and lack of self-control seems blurred at times.

One thought is that sports mirror what is happening in our larger society–more violence, a sense of entitlement, a erosion of civility and fair play, and a growing narcissism as acceptable behavior.

So what can you do to counter this trend? Here are 8 tips to manage anger in sports:

1) Less blame, more responsibility. Rather than blaming a ref, ranting on the side line, take responsibility and work on skills. If more parents would model less talk about unfair officials and take the time to help their kids accept responsibility and work on their skills, we would all do better.

2) Understand the difference between anger and over aggression. Anger is not wrong, but aggression that is over the top  to others is a problem.

3) Parents, coaches and league officials follow the guidelines of your sport. There should be consequences for violence, rule violations  and overly aggressive behaviors.

4) Model good sportsmanship. Whether you are a coach, player or official, you can model good sportsmanship. The other team has been working hard to be their best. If they beat you, work harder for the next game.

5) Keep your perspective. Remember this is a game, not a fight for life or death!

6) Lose well. If you lose, show some character and lose well. Respect the skills and great play of the other team.

7) Learn self-control at an early age. Everyone gets upset during a competitive game, but we can’t always act on our impulses and expect the outcome to be positive. Exercise self-restraint.

8)  Show your skills, not your temper. The best way to get even is to win with a great performance, not by your mouth, bravado and fists!