Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

Don’t Panic! God Is With You

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s been a stressful week. A friend of mine had his house struck by lighting while he was out of town and it burned to the ground. All their memories were gone in  moments. Another friend is going through a divorce, another is waiting on a papers to join her husband over seas. The list could go on…

During times of stress, it is important to remember, God is present. He indwells us and hasn’t gone anywhere.

My tendency is to panic first and then remember God is there–trying to reverse that habit!  I calm myself and remind myself that nothing that is happening is a surprise to God. He is still with me and guiding the process. And if His promises are true, He can use even the difficult stuff to bring about His purposes in our lives.

When trouble comes, it is important to maintain a grateful attitude and praise God in the midst of the trial. What helps is to read scripture that reminds us of God’s continual presence, His care for us and His promise to work all things for our good. If he orders our steps, then He is working in the situation. The trying of faith does bring patience!

So if you are going through a difficult time right now, don’t panic. Ask God for His peace in the middle of the storm. Remember, He is the same God who calmed the wind and rain and declared, Peace, be still!

Is Obesity Contagious?

posted by Linda Mintle

The flu is contagious, yawning is contagious, but what about obesity? Can you catch it from your family or your friends?

Actually YES !

Researchers at Harvard Medical School studied 12,000 people over a 32 year period and found that social connections impact your chance of gaining weight.

If your spouse becomes obese, you have a 37% chance of also becoming obese. If your brother becomes obese, you have a 40% increased risk.

Friendships are even more influential. The risk of friends becoming obese together is anywhere from 57- 71 % depending on if the friendship is mutual. This was even true when friends lived far apart.

The idea here is that once someone becomes obese, there is a social acceptability for people who know that person to also gain weight. Attitudes towards obesity change to one of more acceptance of a larger size.

On the positive side, if someone you know loses weight, it will influence you to get thinner as well. So perhaps our social networks could be used to influence us to lose weight if we need to drop a few extra pounds.

Mothers and Daughters: Adjusting Expectations for a Good Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

When I was writing the book, I Love my Mother But…, women would ask me what I was writing about. When I told them it was a book about mothers and daughters, immediately they said, “Oh, you should interview me.  Let me  tell you about my mother!”

Obviously mothers make a lasting impression on us and it seems we all have a few complaints no matter how good our relationship is. This is because of the great expectations we have for mothers.

Most of us know that our mom’s aren’t perfect, yet that doesn’t stop us from wishing they were. So we make our moms responsible for everything from our self-esteem to our choice of mates. And we expect moms to be superwomen. Then, when they don’t measure up to our unrealistic expectations, we feel disappointed, or cheated. In fact, we often accuse our moms of ruining our lives and blame them for all sorts of things.

We forget that we  are responsible for our own choices and don’t realize that mom can’t give us what she doesn’t have. She can’t be all-knowing, all nurturing, all powerful and all giving. She is human and an imperfect woman –just like we are.

So lose those unrealistic expectations and look to another source to fulfill all your needs. The only perfect one is God. He’ll never disappoint or let you down because He is love. He chose you, accepts you unconditionally and highly esteems you. We do best when we work on completing ourselves through surrender to Him, releasing our past hurts to Him, grieving our losses and looking only to Him to complete us.

I Am My Mother-Not!

posted by Linda Mintle

Years ago I had a favorite coffee mug. It looked like this: A shrieking woman was pulling out her hair, looking totally stressed, and screaming, “EEEEEEK I am my mother.” I laughed when I first saw it. Then I thought about it. The sentiment was funny, scary and true, all at the same time.

Even though we adult daughters like to pretend that we are nothing like our mothers– parts of her are in us. And that doesn’t have to be a frightening thought, even in the most negative cases. Because  you can make changes. You aren’t a victim of your parenting and doomed to repeat every pattern ever past down the generational line. But the first step to making changes is always to ADMIT to the problem. So admit it. You are a unique woman and you are also like your mother. Those two realities can co-exist.

Next, do a quick inventory. List positive and negative ways that you and your mom are alike. For example, we both cry easily and get our feelings hurt, or we have that same tendency to be controlling, to yell at our kids, to complain when difficulty comes? Try to be very honest.

Then take the list, and focus on the negative items one at a time and begin to work on changing that behavior. With practice and ongoing awareness, you can make changes. And remember, every mother gives something good to her daughter.

In the same way I remind parents to catch their children being good and praise them, adult daughters need to periodically  “catch their mothers being good” as well.

The next time someone says, you are so much like your mother, smile and accept the compliment or work on making changes.

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