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Doing Life Together

Is It Wrong to Take Anti-Anxiety Medications?

posted by Linda Mintle

I just received another email from someone who is a Christian and struggling with anxiety. The panic has become so severe that the person isn’t functioning well. The question he asked was, “Is it wrong, a lack of faith, to take medication to help this condition?”

My answer, an emphatic NO–it is not wrong to use medication to help free you from something that is impairing your life.

Some people are prone to anxiety because of their genetics and must work on their coping skills in general. In others, anxiety can be triggered by loss, trauma and other life experiences that create a feeling of loss of control. Even if anxiety is not predisposed genetically, life experiences can create this reaction and people must learn how to release it and let it go. Part of that treatment sometimes includes medications to help calm the person enough to begin working on his/her thoughts and physical relaxation. Medications can be used as part of a treatment strategy for those needing more than therapy. Medications are not typically used long term unless you are dealing with a biological-based anxiety like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

Medicine can be a path of healing. God is not limited to healing people one way. Spiritually, one of the issues in letting go of anxiety is to fully trust God in terms of His promises and character. That is part of the spiritual work that can begin once a person is calm enough to work on that part of doubt. Other areas relate to anxious thoughts, knowing how to calm the body and more. Anxiety is very treatable and usually employs a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Approach.

Taming Your Temper In Any Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

Temper outbursts don’t help relationships. Staying cool and calm and thinking before you speak is the desired behavior. Well, researchers at the University of Michigan and Ohio State may have come up with a way to help tame your temper.

Here’s how it works: Your partner does something to irritate you and you are about to lose control. Instead of ruminating on what the person did (thinking about it over and over -this makes it more likely you will lose your temper), you try another approach. You step back from the situation and view it from a distance. Believe it or not, this small shift, called self-distancing, brings down the anger and irritability.

So next time you find yourself about to blow up at your partner, become a fly on the wall. Step back and take a little distance. This keeps aggressive thoughts and angry feelings at bay and makes you less likely to lose your temper.

If You Have Friggatriskaidekaphobia, Today Could Be Tough!

posted by Linda Mintle

If you have Friggatriskaidekaphobia, you and 17 to 21 million other people may have an anxious day today.

Today is Friday the 13th. Friggatriskaidekaphobia is the fear of Friday the 13th!

And while there is no causal evidence that links Friday the 13th to any bad event or luck, this day can actually paralyze people with fear. We joke about the day, but it is no joke to those filled with anxiety. Some refuse to fly, get out of bed, do business and feel paralyzed on this dreaded day.

Why the fear?

According to the Department of Psychology Chair at Cornell University, people tend to link unpleasant things or events in their lives to this perceived unlucky day. Because of the superstition associated with the day, if anything bad or negative happened to you, you could link the negative events to the date. Basically, the fear develops by association and believing superstition.

Interestingly, some people link religious events to Friday the 13th–the 13th guest at the Last Supper betrayed Jesus! But don’t go there because Christianity is not about luck or superstition.

The fear or anxiety produced is clearly an issue of the mind that has been reinforced in the culture.

Think–no 13th floors in buildings, Alfred Hitchcock was born on Friday the 13th,  airports often omit gate 13, jokes about Friday the 13th, etc. And apparently this day can be a down day in the economy because people are more hesitant to do business.

So, if you know someone who truly suffers from this fear, don’t make fun of the person. Let him or her know there is help. The Stress Management Center and Phobia Institute in Asheville, N.C.,  offers therapy to help people overcome their fear of Friday the 13th. And because the day continues to make the calendar, it would be worth getting over the fear.

 

For more help with worry and anxiety, click on my book cover, Letting Go of Worry.

Mom Pressuring Daughter to Have Breast Implants

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s girls gone wild with mum leading the way! (Dad left 12 years ago!)

14- year-old Britney Marshall  lives in England with her family. She looks like a normal young teen, except the family photo could easily be mistaken for The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.

Britney is the youngest of five daughters–all blonde and all endowed to the ridiculous! Well, not naturally endowed. Her 53-year-old mother is wondering what she did wrong in raising Britney.

Are you ready for why? Brace yourself, I’m guessing this is not something any of my readers struggle with in terms of their daughters!

It is because Britney may refuse breast implants– a rite of passage among mum and the four sisters. Britney’s mum is worried because young Brit doesn’t want size 32 GG breasts like she has ( I didn’t even know there was such a size! And one daughter is a 34 HH–this must be even bigger). She wants young Brit to follow in her and her sisters’ footsteps, or should we say bra size! Mum loves the look of fake breasts and really hopes her daughter comes around. All her sisters have had breast implants.

The women in Britney’s family boast 13 operations and six pints of silicon. The price tag for all the plastic surgery could put Americans back to work!

The crazy part here is that the kid is the sensible one, saying she wants to focus on school and her future, not her body.

And it gets better, mum also has four boys who are siding with Brit!

So Britney, I’m with your brothers—be different, be yourself!

And mum, take some of the money you have for more surgery and use it to find a good mental health therapist and get a copy of my book, Making Peace With Your Thighs (and other body parts). Read the chapter on Breasts for a little sanity in your thinking.

 

 

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