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A Non Medication Strategy for ADHD Preschoolers

posted by Linda Mintle

children sleepingADHD is a legitimate diagnosis based on underlying neurological conditions. It is a brain-based biological disorder that can be detected by brain scans and imaging. Chemical differences are found in the ADHD brain when compared to non ADHD children. Furthermore, current evidence suggest that ADHD is genetic.

In terms of the rising numbers of ADHD children, positives explanations include better awareness of the condition and better access to care. Decades ago, we did not do a good job of identifying children with this disorder. Now, more children are benefiting from early detection and treatment.


With the growing concern about overmedicating children on the minds of so many, preschoolers, who are correctly diagnosed do need intervention.

So what is being done to provide medication alternatives?

Perhaps a promising area to explore is solar intensity as it relates to ADHD. Sleep specialists tell us that children with ADHD often have sleep-onset insomnia and a delayed circadian phase. So a group of researchers looked at the relationship between environmental light exposure and ADHD prevalence. What they found was that higher solar intensity was correlated with lower ADHD prevalence. Exposing children to intense sunlight during the day and reduced light exposure at night may reduce some ADHD symptoms and act as a protective factor.[1]


Based on this, it may be possible that a certain subgroup of children with ADHD would benefit from being exposed to natural light during the day, especially in states with low solar intensity. Maybe the addition of a sky light in the classroom, or more time outside could also help. The thinking here is that strong sunlight during the day may help reset the biological clock involved in sleep, since shorter sleep is associate with attention problems.

For a subgroup of children, more sunlight might help. Since there is nothing invasive about exposing kids to more light, seems like something to try.


[1] Arns M, van der Heijden KB, Arnold LE, Kenemans JL. Geographic variation in the prevalence of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: the sunny perspective. Biol Psychiatry. 2013 Mar 20; [Epub ahead of print].


Miley Cyrus Doing What Hollywood Taught Her

posted by Linda Mintle

Social media outlets have been ablaze with buzz about the gross and shocking “performance” of Miley Cyrus on MTV’s Video Music Awards. I watched and was deeply saddened. While Miley bopped around the stage like a porn star, others were also pushing the envelope of decency.

You know I love Lady Gaga’s talent, but her clam shell thong focused attention more on her naked bottom. And she sat in that costume for the whole show. Awkward. The male presenters did not comment on her talent, but on her naked derriere, not her creativity or her amazing vocal chops.

Darling Selena Gomez wore a dress with one side of her top practically see-through. She looked beautiful without nearly revealing a breast! Again pushing the envelope to say, “Hey, I am all grown up!”


Cyrus got the memo–In order to be taken seriously as an adult star, you have to shed the clothes, create the lust factor and feature your body, not your talent. Cyrus just went over the top and blurred her lines of “decency.”  While she is getting all the negativity, one must ask, where did she learn to do this?

From her predecessors and peers who push their fame by selling sex, despite their talent. Beyonce doesn’t have to gyrate like a sex object on stage to showcase her talent. But she does.

Jennifer Lopez felt compelled to sex it up on her performance on American Idol, a moment when parents were covering the eyes of young faces.

What about Vanessa Hudgen’s new movie in which she pole dances–another rite of passage to more serious roles?


Queen bee Madonna, and so many more….it’s a pattern that Miley had to notice.

I know stars want to grow out of their teen idol status, but do they have to do so by taking off their clothes or acting lewd? It seems to be the Hollywood way. To be serious, to be adult, to be mature, become a sex object!

So that is the conversation to have with yourself, your daughters, your grandkids. The rite of passage into adulthood is not turning yourself into a sex object, unless of course, you are the porn industry or media producers who want to capitalize on sexuality to sell your music, movie or product. And yes, this impacts our teens who feel they have to become girls gone wild to enter adulthood.

Women are being sold a lie–This is not the way to showcase talent or transition to adulthood.  It undermines your real talent and that was the tragedy of VMAs. There was lots of true talent lost in the indecency.


Pray for Miley Cyrus. She’s lost, trying to find her way in a business that pushes this type of envelope. Hopefully, she will make better choices in the future and have someone to advise her who looks truly cares about her, not the almighty dollar.

The root here is major insecurity and lack of a true identity. The corrective factor? A relationship with Christ. He has the best for His kids and they have to prove nothing. Just accept the love and grace.


Anxious? Don’t Avoid the Fear.

posted by Linda Mintle

Letting Go of Worry -- WebWhen Julie was a child, she was bitten by a dog and developed a terrible fear of dogs. She desperately wants to overcome that fear. Today, she agreed to visit a good friend who has a small submissive dog. When she rang the doorbell, she heard the dog bark and fear gripped her.

What should Julie do with her fear that the dog will bite her?

Should she avoid the dog and return to her car?

Should she resist the fearful thought?


Should she distract herself from thinking about the dog?

Actually Julie should do none of the above.

The best thing Julie could do is face the fear and the anxious feelings. The more she tries to avoid or resist, the stronger the fear grows.

Instead, she should tell herself, “I feel really anxious but I can do this. I am sweating but I won’t die from this.”

Julie should stay in the doorway as long as she can. The key here is for Julie to tolerate that anxious feeling as long as possible. The more she can do this, the more she will tackle the fear.

When anxious thoughts come into your mind, identify them, and tolerate the momentary feeling. Then correct the thought with something more reasonable like, “Yes I am afraid but God is with me and will get me through this. I can take it.” As you correct the thought to something more reasonable and tolerate the feeling, the anxiety will most likely decrease.




Is Your Child/Teen Becoming Screen Sighted?

posted by Linda Mintle

child phoneI was riding on the airport tram the other day, when I noticed a mom with a two and four-year old. Both had smart phones in their hands and were completely unaware of what was going on around them. They were engrossed in their phones and had them practically in their faces.

The mom was just staring into space. She probably wasn’t thinking about  how those screens were affecting her children’s eyesight.

Recently, a study by British researchers found that children and young adults are becoming “screen sighted,” or what we call nearsighted.


Since smart phones were launched in 1997, there has been a 35% increase in nearsightedness, thought to be related to the small screens and eye strain of viewing over time.  Apparently, holding a cell phone 8 inches from your eyes versus the 16 inches used to view magazines and newspapers is creating vision problems.  Over time, smart phone use can also create headaches and eye strain, so limited time on these devices is needed by all.

The biggest concern of course is that constant use of a smart phone takes away from the child’s face-to-face interactions needed for emotional development. Excessive screen time is the problem. The biblical advice of moderation in all things applies to technology use.

In this case, the mom could have engaged both kids in the fun of riding the tram, pointing out all the cool things you can see and feel as the train sped down the track.

The best advice is not to hand a cell phone to a toddler in order to occupy his or her time. Instead, interact with the child, tell imaginative stories, act out a story, engage in creative play, or provide a toy that can be manipulated with interaction—all better ways to stimulate healthy development.


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