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Tebow Continues to Be a Class Act

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you ready for some football?

September 5 is right around the corner and the Tebow naysayers are beginning their attacks.

CBS broadcaster and former NFL quarterback, Boomer Esiason, seems to have it out for Tebow. After telling us last year that Tebow doesn’t know what he is doing on the football field, now he wants the Jets to cut Tebow. Basically, Esiason doesn’t think Tebow is good enough to be a quarterback in the NFL-this from a man who earned his nickname by kicking his mom in the womb!

How did Tebow respond? With his usual humility and grace.

“I’ve heard nothing but great things about Mr. Esiason. I know he was a great player here, and I just wish him nothing but the best in his announcing, and God bless him,” “I just continue to use that (criticism) as motivation.”

Honestly, I don’t even care how Tebow plays this year (I am a Bears fan anyway!). I just love the fact that he refuses to engage in negativity. His responses are refreshing.

I can learn from this guy.

So thanks again Tim Tebow for reminding us that we don’t trade insults for insults. In a culture that reinforces trash talking and putting the other guy down to make you feel better, Tebow reminds us what our faith is supposed to look like–bless those who curse us (Matthew 5:44).

The Skinny on the HCG Diet

posted by Linda Mintle

Today I received an email about a Fox news reporter that claimed to have tried the HCG diet and lost 25 pounds. I am familiar with the diet. Several of my friends have tried the HCG diet and lost weight.  Interestingly, most of them gained it all back within the year. And since I have worked in the area of weight loss for the past 20 years, people ask me about all kinds of fad diets that come and go.

HCG is human chorionic gonadotropin, a hormone produced during pregnancy. It is used to treat fertility problems. The diet involves taking the hormone through liquid drops and eating 500-800 calories a day. Mayo Clinic’s registered dietitian, Jennifer Nelson, reported on the safety of the HCG diet. She notes that this diet has not been proven effective for weight loss and is illegal to sell over the counter. In addition, low calorie diets like this one can cause medical complications–e.,g., gallstone formation, irregular heartbeat, electrolyte imbalance, deterioration of muscle mass, to name a few. The hormone should be avoided by pregnant women because of possible birth defects.

So there are risks involved that you must consider.

Most people who restrict their daily calories to 500-800 calories a day will lose weight. That is a ridiculously low calorie count, very similar to the liquid diet fads of the 1990s. The problem is that even though you lose weight on very low calorie diets, you can’t sustain that type of eating and weight gain usually results.

And what about the science behind this popular fad? Here is a quote from a meta review of  24 studies published in the British Journal of Clinical Pharmacology (1995):

“We conclude that there is no scientific evidence that HCG causes weight loss, a redistribution of fat, staves off hunger or induces a feeling of well being. Therefore, the use of HCG should be regarded as an inappropriate therapy for weight reduction, particularly because HCG is obtained from the urine of pregnant women who donate their urine idealistically in the belief that it will be used to treat an entirely different condition, namely infertility.”

Other double-blind clinically controlled studies (e.g., University of Stellenbosch in South Africa) have shown the diet to be ineffective as well. But there is controversy as to the effectiveness of this approach.

So bottom line, you will drop weight on any diet with very low calories, there are medical risks involved, and most likely, you will gain the weight back because you can’t sustain the low calorie diet. Because of possible side effects, you should always check in with your physician when going on any type of weight loss program.

What Does it Take for Kids To Thrive With Single Parents?

posted by Linda Mintle

Dr. Linda Mintle and Joyce Meyer take two minutes to answer the question, ‘What is the key to children doing well when it comes to single parenting?”

Watch the video to learn how to help your child thrive.

 

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Struggling With Addiction? Get to the Root

posted by Linda Mintle

When a family member has an addiction but refuses to address the underlying problems of that addiction, the addiction does not go away. It may remit temporarily, but the same issues that led the person to escape and avoid through substances eventually return.

Yet, so many people who struggle with addiction do not want to address the underlying issues. Why? Because doing so often creates emotional pain and distress. When those negative feelings are felt, the urge to self-medicate is intense. And unless the person develops new coping methods, embraces distress and learns to tolerate it, he or she will return to the addiction.

Here is an example. And addict grows up in a family that is conflict avoidant. Every time he comes up against a conflict, he has no skills to resolve it, becomes angry and blames others. Since he lacks coping skills (problem-solving, negotiation, emotional regulation, etc.), he retreats to self-medication through the addiction. He wants to avoid the pain felt with the conflict.

Then he feels bad and tries to stop using, but doesn’t address his problems with conflict and anger. So he is clean for a few weeks, but life happens. Another conflict presents. He gets angry and avoids the conflict, blaming others and feeling like a victim. He uses. And the cycle repeats.

Thus, treating the addiction means facing those painful and difficult areas of your life. It is a choice to surrender to God, become an open book and deal with underlying hurt and pain.

With Christ, you have the promise that God is with you through it all. When you lean on Him to face pain and tackle problems head on, you can get to the root issues. God will help you build tolerance for distress and regulate powerful emotions. Most of all, He can heal those parts that you try to medicate. In your weakness, He is strong. His love and power enable you to face difficulty rather than escape and avoid through addiction.

 

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