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Should You Keep Secrets From Your Partner?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Secrets are a problem. They don’t usually end well. I am often asked if it is a good idea to […]

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Is Technology Stressing You Out?

posted by Linda Mintle

Technology is a good thing, but sometimes it can stress you out. For example, your phone is vibrating. Should you look at it, stay in the conversation and ignore it? Do you feel a compulsion to check? Ping! Buzz, Vibrate. I […]

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More Than Worry: Understanding OCD

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a term we casually throw around, “I’m so OCD.” But for those who suffer, it’s no causal matter. It was 9:00p.m. Eric was rechecking every door in the house to make sure it was locked. He didn’t do this once, or […]

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Falsely Accused: 3 Ways to Respond

posted by Linda Mintle

Have you ever been falsely accused and felt you had no power to deal with the situation because the accusers did not want to hear the truth? How do you respond when this happens? The natural thing is to get angry […]

Crying During Movies: Could Be A Highly Sensitive Person!

posted by Linda Mintle

If you are at the movies and someone is crying behind you, it might be me. When it comes to movies, I am a highly sensitive person. I cried during the capture of the horse in Warhorse, Lone Survivor deeply […]

Feeling Anxious? When Anxiety is Helpful

posted by Linda Mintle

Richard was feeling anxious. If you asked him, this feeling wasn’t helpful. He was asked to give a speech in front of his company and present his findings to the entire staff. All he felt was dread at the idea of […]

Are Your Tweets Tied to Heart Disease?

posted by Linda Mintle

#AngryInNYC Another stupid person runs in to me. Sorry doesn’t cut it. Look up from your phone you idiot. This is just one example of Sara’s tweets that regular fill her Twitter account. It doesn’t take much to anger Sara. […]

What To Do When Anger is Triggered

posted by Linda Mintle

Anger is triggered by expectations, perceptions, and things people say and do. These hot buttons are triggers that cause the feeling to rise. Knowing your hot buttons can prepare you for future conflicts. To deal with hot buttons, think about how […]

5 Important Points When Dealing With a High Conflict Person

posted by Linda Mintle

We all have that person in our lives that drives us crazy and personalizes conflict, making it difficult to handle. Here are five points to keep in mind when dealing with a high conflict person. Choose your battles. Since most […]

The Consequences of Holding a Grudge

posted by Linda Mintle

A grudge involves holding resentment because of some real or imagined wrong. A grudge develops when you don’t like the way a conflict ended. Nursing a grudge can lead to revenge. Consider the story of John the Baptist in Mark […]

Angry: 7 Steps to Regain Control

posted by Linda Mintle

Anger is a powerful emotion that needs to be controlled. If you struggle with anger, consider these steps to regain control. Admit that you are out of control. While anger is a normal emotion and not a sin, anger expression […]

Reconciliation: The Willingness to Try Again

posted by Linda Mintle

The pain of a broken relationship is often difficult to heal. Years of hurt and resentment can feel too big to tackle. And the idea of embracing emotional pain without being able to control the other person means an uncertain […]

8 Prescriptions to Resist Taking Revenge

posted by Linda Mintle

Revenge is an angry response to being treated in wrong ways, but it is not a godly response. Scripture tells us that revenge is the Lord’s and we need to leave it to him. Revenge doesn’t solve anything anyway. It […]

10 Tips to Calm Anger in a Heated Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

One of the keys to resolving conflict is to keep anger in control, to stay calm and not allow anger to overtake you. Here are 10 tips to help that process: Use humor to break the tension. Nothing lightens the […]

7 Ways to Keep Fear From Taking Control

posted by Linda Mintle

Fear is a warning system built into our bodies as a natural reaction to danger. It is healthy to feel fear in the face of danger. It acts like an alarm and prompts us to action. But when fear takes […]

The Mismatch of Conflict Styles: How to Handle It

posted by Linda Mintle

                If you’ve taken the FREE quiz on my website, drlindahelps.com, you know your conflict style–avoider, reactor or negotiator. Now the issue is, does your style match with those with whom you are […]

8 Questions: Are You A Hard Worker or Workalholic?

posted by Linda Mintle

In the same way a drug addict uses cocaine or an alcoholic downs booze, work can have an anesthetizing effect on negative emotions. People use work to escape and avoid unpleasant emotional states. But because hard work is so sanctioned […]

Hurt By a Conflict? How Do You ReBuild Trust?

posted by Linda Mintle

You’ve heard the saying, trust is easy to break, hard to repair. How do you go about building trust with someone you’ve hurt! The key is to know the other person’s world and reliably respond to it. Do what you […]

Should You Keep Secrets From Your Partner?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store yesterday, and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Even though we tend to expect this sort of thing from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem. They don’t […]

What’s Your Attachment Style in Conflict?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all develop an insecure or secure bond with our original families. That bond is referred to as an attachment style. The more secure the bond, the better you will deal with conflict. Two bonding styles make conflict difficult–anxious and […]

10 Tips to Help Your Child Make A Best Friend

posted by Linda Mintle

Families are busy and when there is a little down time, kids usually grab their screens and engage in solo play. If they are on social media, they may have a number of “friends” but these are not deep friendships […]

How Do You Deal With Conflict: Take the Quiz?

posted by Linda Mintle

WE NEED TO TALK! When you hear that phrase, what goes through your mind? Take the short quiz here and see how you deal with conflict. Now that you know your primary style, let me ask you a few more […]

Mean Girls or Is It Mean Boys?

posted by Linda Mintle

Perhaps you’ve seen the movie Mean Girls. If so, you remember the popular clique of girls who ruled the social scene by backstabbing and being verbally mean to anyone they didn’t like. The movie reminds most of us of those one or […]

Grieving During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

I was driving down the road the other day when a song played on my phone. It touched me and it will touch you. I encourage anyone who will be missing a special someone this holiday season to click on […]

10 Ideas to Avoid Depression During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the most wonderful time of the year….well, not for everyone. Holidays can be difficult if you struggle with your mood and family issues. However, there are proactive ways to keep your spirit bright. 1) Don’t overspend. Avoid being caught […]

Do Right or Be Right? The Challenge of Betrayal

posted by Linda Mintle

We’ve all experienced it at one time or another–a friend breaks trust, a husband cheats, a boss promotes someone else, etc. The challenge is to respond to betrayal in a way that honors God. What better example to learn from […]

10 Ways to Recover and Respond to Angry Email

posted by Linda Mintle

It happens to all of us. Someone sends an email that upsets us and we react by firing off an angry response. This impulse to react usually leads to regret and ends up damaging our relationships. So how do we respond to hurt, […]

Why Our Wants May Not Turn Out to Be Our Likes

posted by Linda Mintle

When our first dog died, we thought we wanted another. We did, but when we got the dog and our schedules all demanded more time, the dog became more of an imposition. Don’t get me wrong, we love her to […]

Does Happiness Affect Your Success?

posted by Linda Mintle

Happiness is a good thing, right? Yes and no. There is actually a down side to too much happiness. 1)   Happy people tend to be less persuasive. When happy, you can overlook details. Unhappy people can focus more on the […]

Emma Watson on Gender Equality: Is “Feminism” a Dirty Word?

posted by Linda Mintle

If you missed it, actress Emma Watson, gave a moving speech to the UN last month.  Her topic was on gender equality and her #heforshe campaign–a movement trying to raise the issues involved with gender equality. If you are not one […]

Would You Rather Be Shocked Than Bored?

posted by Linda Mintle

I can remember so many times when my kids would say to me, “I’m bored!” And they didn’t like my response, “That’s a good thing. Maybe you can listen to your thoughts or think creatively.” Truth is, most of us […]

10 Ways to Respond to Someone Who Is Depressed

posted by Linda Mintle

One good thing that came out of Robin William’s death is that we are once again talking about depression. Depression can be a silent killer and still has a stigma despite the numbers of people who struggle with it in […]

Withholding Friendship as a Weapon

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ll never forget the day my five-year-old came home and said, “No one will play with ‘Sandy’ because she doesn’t do what they say!” I was upset and thankfully, my daughter thought it was mean. But the other girls excluded little […]

An Easy Way to Build Trust, Love and Acceptance

posted by Linda Mintle

Turn off your TV and stop watching all the shows about betrayal, revenge and hurting people. And stop listening to all the cultural voices telling you that you aren’t good enough and need to improve. I’ve got a simple way you […]

Smoking Anything Isn’t Good For You

posted by Linda Mintle

With the rise of hookah bars, teens tend to think that this trend is a safer alternative to smoking cigarettes. This simply isn’t true. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention is warning us that smoking anything increases our risk […]

Are You Entering the Nap Zone?

posted by Linda Mintle

It is afternoon. You have a talk to give. When you enter the room and begin to set up, you notice people looking rather sleepy. In fact, as you scan the audience, some people are already nodding off. You think, “This […]

10 Signs That Someone Might Be Lying to You

posted by Linda Mintle

You are reading an email from a man you are dating. Your gut tells you, “I’m not sure this is the truth.” How do you know if he is lying to you? It’s tough. With social media you don’t have the […]

Shamed by a Secret? Let it Go!

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you have a secret? If so, you join more than 95% of people who do. Most of us keep one fact or piece of information about ourselves from others. One reason for this is that secrets often involve shame. […]

How to Break Out of Feeling Lonely

posted by Linda Mintle

What happens if you tell yourself that nobody like me…When you have that negative thought that somehow you don’t matter? Nothing good! You experience loneliness, not to be confused with depression or aloneness. Being alone is not a bad thing. But […]

Simple Ways to Improve Your Relationships

posted by Linda Mintle

We know that when we feel negative towards someone, the relationship suffers and is difficult to turn around. So try these few ideas to think more positively. Some one I know does loving kindness meditations. She thinks about the good […]

Can Social Network Emotions Be Contagious?

posted by Linda Mintle

You log on to Facebook, check the status of your  500 plus “friends” and post a few comments. You notice that several of your friends are feeling down this post holiday season and are talking about feeling lonely and depressed. […]

The Best of the Dr. Linda Mintle Show

posted by Linda Mintle

Happy New Year! Today’s blog is The Best of the Dr. Linda Mintle show. Body Image, Forgiveness, depression and more…CLick on the picture to listen!

The Chicago Bears Prompted 5 Tips to Lose Gracefully

posted by Linda Mintle

I don’t like to lose, but when you are a Chicago Bears fan like I am, losing is a regular thing. Oh, and let’s not forget the Cubs too! Everyone likes to win. But last night, during the football playoffs, […]

10 Ways to Combat Holiday Loneliness

posted by Linda Mintle

Millions of people feel depressed when they hear the words to that popular Christmas song: “It’s the most wonderful time of the year”.  For many, the holidays are times of loss and loneliness. If you are lonely, it’s important to […]

10 Ways to Worsen Relationship Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

 Jackie and Mike felt like they were constantly battling over small things. Like them, most of us need a little help when it comes to dealing with conflict in our relationships. Here are 10 things NOT to do. They only […]

Embarrassed? Do You Do This?

posted by Linda Mintle

You walk in to a room full of co-workers and trip. Everyone stops what they are doing and stares at you for what seems like hours. You are embarrassed. Really, you just tripped through the door in front of your […]

Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Take the quiz!

posted by Linda Mintle

Relationships are such an important part of our lives. How do you measure up in your partner relationship? Check your emotional intelligence here: Answer YES OR NO to each question. 1) When your partner does something that bothers you, do […]

The Jazz Attack: A Glimpse of Heaven

posted by Linda Mintle

This morning, I am on my way to the beautiful Mackinac Island to speak at a women’s conference all week. The air is brisk with smells of Fall. The leaves are turning stunning colors and the heat of summer seems […]

Anti-Bully Programs Get an F in Schools

posted by Linda Mintle

This month is anti-bully month and according to a new study, all this awareness of bullying may actually be making things worse! That’s right, schools with no programs have less bullying than those with the programs. Put up a poster […]

Does Profanity in Media Reflect Real Life?

posted by Linda Mintle

After clicking through a number of cable channels, I was stunned by the amount of profanity I heard during the family hours. We have this ongoing debate in our household. Do people really use the amount of profanity we hear […]

Is It True That Blondes Really Do Have More Fun?

posted by Linda Mintle

When Kim Kardashian decided to dye her hair blonde after the birth of her first child, my eye caught a survey about the differences between blondes and brunettes. All blonde jokes aside, Rose-Marie Jarvis of Goody hair conducted a survey […]

Learning to Let Go of Offense

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you ever have one of those days when you are mad at the way people behave? Something really unfair happens and you try very hard not to be offended?  Not that I am not perfect, but when I see […]

If You Could See In Someone’s Heart–4 Minutes To Think of Others

posted by Linda Mintle

With all the bad news about hate speech, hurting people, murder and mayhem, use this 4 minutes to stop, reflect and care about those you encounter every day. Instead of selfishness, hate, anger and uncaring, let’s build love, support and […]

Your Mental Health Could Be Contagious

posted by Linda Mintle

You are sick with the flu so you stay home so as not to infect anyone. But did you ever think your mental health could be contagious? Researchers at Nortre Dame discovered that thinking styles can be contagious. Your negative […]

10 Ways to Remember on Memorial Day

posted by Linda Mintle

Memorial Day usually means a day off, time to relax, barbecue, the beach and time with friends. But I hope on this Memorial Day you also take time to remember the significance of the day –honoring the people who have […]

Who is Really Feeling Stressed?

posted by Linda Mintle

The good news is that stress levels are down for most Americans. We must be doing something right when it comes to handling the opportunities to let stress get the best of us. But one group is not doing so […]

What Women Have More of Than Men

posted by Linda Mintle

So you are at that dinner party and you feel like you are carrying the conversation. As a woman, it’s the most natural thing to be entertaining others through verbal sparring and lively conversation. Your husband comments on how much […]

Who Dunnit? Why Do it? Te’o’s Bizarre Hoax

posted by Linda Mintle

The story of Notre Dame’s football player, Manti Te’o, is just bizarre. It’s like trying to figure out who dunnit in CLUE. If you haven’t heard, the short story is that Manti Te’o’s girlfriend  was in a car accident and […]

A Beauty Queen Can’t be Called Pretty? Love Your Opinion

posted by Linda Mintle

Sportscaster, Brean Musburger, apologized for his comments about a football player’s girlfriend. During the Alabama/Notre Dame BCS National Championship Game, the camera found Miss Alabama, Katherine Webb, the girlfriend of the Alabama quarterback. Upon seeing her on camera, Musburger commented,  ” […]

Stressed? One Way You Can Stop It

posted by Linda Mintle

“Sure I’ll cook for the spaghetti dinner.” “Yes I can baby-sit your children for the day.” “Yes, I can chair another committee.” “Since no one else will volunteer, I guess I’ll do it.”   Do you ever find yourself saying […]

High School Reunion: Ten Reasons You Should Go

posted by Linda Mintle

Tonight is my high school reunion! I’m not going, but I wish I could. I live in another state that is not within driving distance. I just visited my family on Father’s Day and can’t afford the time to go […]

Gospel Singer Yolanda Adams Challenges BET Entertainers

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m giving it up to gospel singer, Yolanda Adams on the BET awards this past week. After being assaulted by foul mouthed talk and rap, Adams gracefully accepts her award and says, “We need all of y’all. I’m saying the […]

Don’t Put On Your High Heels Baby!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ahhh,,, beautiful Carmel-by-the-Sea in California. Home of the well know Pebbles Beach Golf Club. City that boasts Clint Eastwood as its former mayor. Vistas that take your breath away and something else…. “Put on your high heels baby, cause we […]

Cruise-Holmes Split: Did Religion Play a Part?

posted by Linda Mintle

Big news last week in Hollywood. Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes split after 5 years of marriage. Was I surprised? No, but it is still sad when a family breaks up and a child is caught in the middle. For […]

After Sandusky: What Survivors Face

posted by Linda Mintle

Jerry Sandusky was convicted of multiple counts of child abuse. But what about the victims who had to be so brave as to tell the story of their humiliation and victimization? Each one had to revisit the memory which could […]

John Edwards and Reille Hunter Split Up: Why You Don’t Want to Read The Book

posted by Linda Mintle

John Edward’s girlfriend announced today on an interview with ABC’s George Stephanopoulis (Good Morning America) that she and Edwards split, they are no longer a couple. Interestingly, this announcement comes on the heels of her new book release. When George […]

Why I Want to Be George Clooney’s Dog

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the end of June and I am already tired of political ads (Can we really endure five more months of these?). We need a distraction. Hollywood never lets me down when it comes to something meaningless to read. So […]

Every Boy is Some Mother’s Son

posted by Linda Mintle

I love this story. I read it in the Wall Street Journal a few years ago. A reporter recalled a story that touched my heart. It went something like this. A mom was waiting for her daughter to return from […]

Jerry Sandusky: Should His Wife Be Clueless?

posted by Linda Mintle

With the Jerry Sandusky case in the news, I heard a well-known radio commentator ask, “If these accusations are true, how could his wife not know what he was doing?” It’ a good question that people may wonder. If someone […]

College is Coming: 8 Summer Talks to Have With Your Teen

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the beginning of summer, the last one until that teen heads for college in the fall. How can you use this time to prepare your son or daughter for what is coming? Begin now to talk about anticipated changes. […]

5 Quick Ways to Improve Your Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m often asked to give a few tips on how to make your relationship better. Here are five quick tips: 1) Turn off media and engage with your partner. Looking at the person instead of a screen sends a message–you […]

Caring For The Whole Person Adds to Quality of Life

posted by Linda Mintle

What if you went to your doctor’s appointment for your regular diabetes check up and did more than have your labs taken? Instead… A counselor talked to you about your support system at home and asked about other aspects of […]

A Breath of Fresh Air

posted by Linda Mintle

I recently spent six days along the coast of San Diego, California hiking state parks, dining at cafes and shopping at boutiques and malls. What I noticed was that I didn’t have to move through a haze of cigarette smoke […]

Is Profanity on TV Harmless?

posted by Linda Mintle

Steven Tyler gets bleeped repeatedly on American Idol. Howard Stern, known for his use of profanity, is a judge on America’s Got Talent. I could make lists of people who are constantly bleeped on television due to their language. I […]

Try A Technology Cleanse

posted by Linda Mintle

You are at dinner in a nice restaurant with your wife and you find yourself checking your email before the salad arrives. Or your family sits down to eat and people are looking at screens rather than each other.Or maybe […]

Are You Too Happy?

posted by Linda Mintle

Happiness is a good thing, right? Sometimes, not so much! A Yale researcher compares too much happiness to too much food. When you overdo it, problems erupt! Too much happiness makes you a high risk taker. And with high risk […]

Depression Is Not Just in Your Head!

posted by Linda Mintle

Could it be that depression is an obvious symptom of deeper problems within the physical body? Researchers are asking this question as they look at stress and depression in new ways. Long-term depression, it appears, changes chromosomes the same way […]

Is It Normal for Children to Lie?

posted by Linda Mintle

I write for a parenting magazine and this is a question I frequently get asked, “Is it normal for children to lie?” While the answer is YES, that doesn’t mean it’s OK to lie. It is not, and parents have […]

Are Bullies and Victims the Same?

posted by Linda Mintle

Alex’s mom is tired of Alex being bullied on the playground. One way to help Alex is to understand the profiles associated with bullies and victims. In 2010, the *APA published a study where researchers reviewed 153 studies on bullying […]

What’s Missing From Lady Gaga’s Born This Way?

posted by Linda Mintle

Since I finally had a chance to watch the panel meeting with Lady Gaga at Harvard University where she launched her foundation, Born This Way. Lady Gaga was very engaging, passionate about helping create better communities that embrace kindness, love […]

The Truth About Autism and Vaccines

posted by Linda Mintle

Mary’s son is autistic. She desperately wants to believe that the vaccinations her child received as a toddler triggered the disorder. Toddlers receive the MMR  vaccine around the same time as autistic symptoms begin to be noticed by parents. Because of […]

Is Facebook Promoting Porn? 8 Guidelines for Parents

posted by Linda Mintle

Facebook has massive appeal. It allows us to stay in touch with friends, re-connect with people with whom we’ve lost contact, communicate with relatives, be aware of the needs of others and so much more that is good and healthy. […]

An Unusual Wish for a Child With Brain Cancer: How You Can Help

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s hard to imagine what the family of nine-year-old Ryan Kennedy is going through these days. Ryan has a rare form of brain cancer that has required multiple surgeries, rounds of chemotherapy and radiation. Despite all the medical efforts,  the […]

Dr. Linda Mintle And Joyce Meyer Discuss Body Image

posted by Linda Mintle

Awhile back, I sat down with Joyce Meyer on her TV show, Enjoying Everyday Life, to talk about how to embrace your body and make peace with it. Here is the You Tube interview, “You Are Beautiful Inside & Out, […]

5 Spiritual Helps to Overcome Temptation

posted by Linda Mintle

In the past few weeks, I’ve been commenting on the way television shows handle temptation. Typically, what we see is the power of the temptation and no power to resist. So, from a Christian perspective, what works to overcome temptation? […]

Grey’s Anatomy: The Reality of Temptation

posted by Linda Mintle

My last blog on Grey’s Anatomy ended with the hope that the writer’s would work us through April’s sexual encounter with Jackson. I was particularly hopeful that she would move from feeling as if Jesus hated her for giving in […]

Does Watching TV Depress You?

posted by Linda Mintle

Last night, I was channel surfing on the television. I landed on a show that chronicled the last 24 hours of a death row inmate about to be executed. I couldn’t watch it to the end. The last hour was […]

Exciting New Research on Autism

posted by Linda Mintle

Autism is a developmental brain disorder that cannot be medically diagnosed and treatment can be difficult. According to a 2008 CDC study, autism affects 1 in 88 children, a number that is up 78% since 2002. One of the many […]

Feeling Flirty? Not So Much If You Are a Dad

posted by Linda Mintle

In our sexually hyped culture, how does a man stay true to his family? The answers involves a little help from his biology! Testosterone is a major sex hormone and is responsible for sex drive and reproductive growth. It is […]

5 Reasons People Don’t Go to Church (Part 2)

posted by Linda Mintle

Yesterday I posted a blog about the growing trend of not going to church. Here are a few of the reasons I think people stay home: 1) Church people require us to practice what we believe. It is easier to […]

Do You Value Church?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was surprised to learn that just 21% of people who call themselves Christians are committed to a community of faith (Faith by George Barna). Even though the Apostles’ Creed affirms that we believe in the communion of saints, many […]

Why We Often Struggle in Our Christian Walk

posted by Linda Mintle

Spend a day watching TV, going to a movie, perusing the news and talking to your co-workers. How often does your faith become a part of the experience? If you are like me, not often. TV shows rarely, if ever, […]

Main Reason Teens Abstain from Sex

posted by Linda Mintle

Mandy is a typical teen, but has decided abstinence is the way to go. Why? Because she believes that having sex before marriage is morally wrong. She learned that in her youth group at church. Religion made a difference in […]

Could a Blood Test Tell You if Your Teen is Depressed?

posted by Linda Mintle

It isn’t always easy to figure out whether a teen is simply in the throws of adolescent moodiness or is depressed. We have to rely on observing changes in behavior and looking for symptoms that fit depression. Picking up on […]

The Choking Game: Every Parent Should Read This!

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s all over YouTube and it is scary. Kids playing a dangerous and sometimes deadly game called The Choking Game. Kids know the game by other names–the Scarf Game, Cloud Nine, Purple Dragon, Space Monkey, Fainting Game and more. If […]

Get Off the Scales and On With Your Life!

posted by Linda Mintle

Why is it that so many people are obsessed with weight and looking perfect? One reason has to do with the distraction beauty and weight loss serve in our lives. For example, it’s easier to obsess over an outfit than […]

Pornography Involves Somebody’s Daughter

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ve treated a number of people caught up in pornography addiction. So when my friend and founder of the ministry, Music for the Soul, Steve Siler did a CD and DVD on this topic, I had to pass it on. […]

How to Handle Rejection

posted by Linda Mintle

When a gunman opened fire and killed seven people and wounded three at a Christian college a week ago, the question was, “Why?” Why would anyone walk into a classroom and shoot people at point blank range? While we may […]

Video Encouragement to Overcome Eating Disorders

posted by Linda Mintle

My friend, Steve Siler, founder of Music for the Soul, uses music and video to encourage, heal, and move people towards recovery and hope. Recently, a song from his CD Tell Me What You See was made into a DVD […]

The Apostle’s Creed: What It Means to Be Christian

posted by Linda Mintle

As we approach this Easter season, Christians celebrate the events referenced in the Apostles Creed. This Good Friday, Jesus, the One conceived by the Holy Spirit, was crucified, but arose from the dead on that glorious Easter morning. This weekend […]

Stop Complaining and Get Out of That Spiritual Desert!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ever feel like giving up? Discouragement comes easy sometimes. Our natural tendency is to feel defeated  when things are tough. But Philippians 2:13-14 tells us that God works in us for His good pleasure, and that we are to do […]

The Difference Between Worry and Concern

posted by Linda Mintle

Be anxious about nothing. Is that really possible. It is if you know the difference between worry and concern. Concern is normal. Worry is not! Watch this short video to find out the difference:

7 Spiritual Steps to Overcome Mild Depression

posted by Linda Mintle

Have you struggled with feeling down for a few years, maybe even since childhood? Something just isn’t quite right. You feel irritable, hopeless, lethargic and low in self-esteem. This was true of Robin. He didn’t realize he was depressed and […]

You Can’t Change Him, But You Can Change You!

posted by Linda Mintle

  One of the biggest problems in our relationships is that so many of us believe we can change another person. Truth is, we can’t. But we can change our reaction to that person and then the relationship changes.This lie, […]

The Secret to Being Content

posted by Linda Mintle

Self-sufficiency was considered a virtue in Greek culture. The Greek word for content, autarkes, means to be self-sufficient or independent. However, the Bible offers a different view of this concept than the Stoic philosophers of biblical days. The Stoics believed […]

Dance Moms: Over the Top Relationship Dysfunction

posted by Linda Mintle

The title of the TV show, Dance Moms, intrigued me because I am a dance mom. So I decided to watch a few episodes back to back the other night. I couldn’t believe what I saw. It was like watching […]

Dr. Linda Speaks to Teen Videos “Am I pretty?”

posted by Linda Mintle

I sat down with CBN news to discuss this latest trend –young girls looking on-line for self-esteem. In this 4 minute interview, I give tips on how parents can help given the damage this type of social media exposure can […]

How To Respond to Unfair Accusations

posted by Linda Mintle

My devotional reading this morning was quite challenging. It talked about responding to someone who accuses you. When a false accusation comes your way, the natural response is to lash out, come back with a real zinger, and put that […]

My Co-Worker is Making Me Fat!

posted by Linda Mintle

No one but you puts food in your mouth, so the idea that someone else can make you fat is a bit far fetched. But  co-workers can tempt you and influence your eating. When treats abound at the workplace and […]

Self-Esteem On-Line: A Dangerous Trend

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a dangerous trend. Young girls post videos of themselves on You Tube or other social media and then ask people to rate them on this question– Am I pretty or not? I went to one You Tube and almost […]

The Positive Side to Gaming

posted by Linda Mintle

Most of you know I am not a fan of children, teens and young adults spending long hours a day playing video games –especially the violent and sexually exploitative ones. We know from studies that playing violent video games changes […]

A Tall Order: Bless Those Who Curse You

posted by Linda Mintle

This week I have had the opportunity to practice what I consider one of the most difficult passages in the Bible. It is found in Matthew 5: 43-48 (NIV). Jesus tells us how to treat those who curse us –something […]

Problems? Take the God Challenge

posted by Linda Mintle

I was very challenged today by my devotional reading in Jesus Calling. The entry focused on how we approach problems when they arise. Our human tendency is to get upset. panic or worry, and become distrusting of God. We question […]

How To Handle a Bully

posted by Linda Mintle

Now that we are well into the school year, kids everywhere are faced with the challenge of how to deal with bullies. Here’s a typical encounter: Your 5th grade son is playing soccer on the playground at recess. A 6th […]

Anger Expression: Helpful or Hurtful in Relationships?

posted by Linda Mintle

Back in the 80s, marital therapists used to give angry couples nerf-like bats and tell them to go at each other. We also used to advise angry teens to hit their pillows or even purchase a punching bag and wail […]

Encountering Life Storms: Lessons from Pilots

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you going through a difficult time, what we might call a storm in your life? It could be a health diagnosis, a failing relationship, difficulty at work, parenting problems, etc. We all have problems and issues that pop up […]

The Positive Side of Social Media and Teens

posted by Linda Mintle

Parenting concerns about the role of social media in the lives of teens are real. We are all too familiar with the dark side of 0n-line problems –cyberbullying, stalking, invasion of privacy, child predators, etc. But are there any positive […]

Do Opposites Really Attract?

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you emotionally expressive but attracted to someone who seems to be very reluctant to share his emotional feelings? It may be the intrigue that has captured your attention. Or perhaps it is the challenge of opening up someone who […]

Should You Date a Co-Worker? 10 Reasons to Be Cautious

posted by Linda Mintle

One of the things we know about attraction is that proximity can bring it on. So working day in and day out with a person often leads to feelings of attraction. You talk regularly, share problems, laugh and spend hours […]

Does the Church Enable?

posted by Linda Mintle

  This past week we lost an immense talent in the music business. Our prayers are with Whitney Houston’s family during this difficult time.   Her death has caused me to think about the larger role the church plays in […]

Addicted to Social Media?

posted by Linda Mintle

You are worried. Is this addiction going to come between the two of you? Should you be looking for an accountability group? Why can’t she stop doing this? Please put down that IPAD and look at me! Sounds like someone […]

Letting Go of Worry: Watch the Interview

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you have relationship, health, job or money worries? The women on Full Circle TV invited me to share thoughts from my book Letting Go of Worry. Watch the interview. It’s a bit longer than usual–about 14 minutes. Enjoy!

Stick to Those New Year’s Resolutions

posted by Linda Mintle

I finally made it back to the gym a few week’s ago and noticed how crowded it was getting to my machines. I also know that by February, most of those eager faces will never brighten the YMCA again. Yes, […]

5 Tips to Deal With Loneliness

posted by Linda Mintle

Today’s blog is a video blog. I’m providing 5 tips to help prevent loneliness this holiday season.

Five Ways to De-Stress This Holiday Season

posted by Linda Mintle

As I hear  people talk about how stressed they feel, I am concerned that we don’t over do it and collapse into a state of mess after all the celebration is over. Our reasons for stress are legitimate. There are […]

Why We Love Tim Tebow

posted by Linda Mintle

Yesterday I was asked to do a TV interview on Tim Tebow. This time the focus was positive. Tebow is very polarizing. People either love or hate him (see my blog on 10 reasons for Tim Tebow Hate). One of […]

Alec Baldwin: Hello to More Celebrity Entitlement

posted by Linda Mintle

Alec Baldwin embodies the entitlement mentality we see so prominently displayed among celebrities and others these days. His latest incident of being escorted off an American Airline flight for refusing to turn off his cell phone when asked, is another […]

Can You Pass the Anger Quiz?

posted by Linda Mintle

Anger is a misunderstood emotion. Take the 10 question anger quiz to see how well you understand anger: T     F    1.  As long as I don’t look or sound angry, I am not angry. T     F     2. If I ignore […]

5 Reasons We Hang on to Worry

posted by Linda Mintle

Last night I caught myself beginning to worry about something in the near future. I had to stop and do what I know to do. Worry is a mental habit that needs to broken. My new book, Letting Go of […]

Guess Who is Saying No to College Sex

posted by Linda Mintle

Frat parties, binge drinking, one-night hook ups and lots of next day regret? Not for some young women. They’ve taken a stand against the party hardy norm and do not want to be the next hook up on their college […]

Responding to Unfair Treatment

posted by Linda Mintle

Personally, I have had to deal with a situation where someone was treated unfairly. There was no apology and no indication that the offense would ever be acknowledged. And confronting the offense was not a safe thing to do. So […]

3 Quick and Easy Stress Reducers

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you feeling stressed? Signs include craving food, irritability and even a racing heart. But reducing stress is easier than you think once you are intentional. Try these three easy tips: 1) Phone a friend. It not only works on […]

The New Normal: Slurring People On-Line

posted by Linda Mintle

According to an August 2011 MTV poll, young people seem to have no problem using racist and sexist language on-line. Name-calling that would make parents cringe seems to be acceptable to teens and twenty-somethings when it takes place while texting […]

Making Relationships Work

posted by Linda Mintle

Today, I am at the E-Women conference in Lynchburg, Virginia. The event is sold out and Sarah Palin is headlining the conference. The women are here, ready to be inspired. As a marriage and family therapist, I love to talk […]

Are Churches Neglecting the Elderly?

posted by Linda Mintle

Before my 84-year-old mom died last year, she received a letter from the church she had been a member of for more than 60 years. The letter informed her that she no longer had voting privileges because of her lack of attendance […]

Serena, Stop the Bullying!

posted by Linda Mintle

Another U.S. Open Grand Slam tennis tournament is over. What stands out in this year’s competition? Unfortunately, it’s not the incredible play of the Americans. It’s our leading lady, Serena Williams. Serena is an amazing athlete,  I love to watch […]

How Well Do You Score on the Forgiveness Quiz?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was deeply moved yesterday listening to the names of the victims from 911. I watched a number of anniversary specials and saw both resilience and heart break in families. My heart went out to those who are still stuck […]

The Jersey Shore—I Honestly Don’t Get It

posted by Linda Mintle

I finally watched an episode of the Jersey Shore. Figured it was time I knew who Snooki and the Situation were since I have seen them all over the television screen handing out awards, dancing with stars and being interviewed. […]

Jake Says, “Embrace Porn”

posted by Linda Mintle

The other day I was sitting in a medical office waiting for my routine mammogram. There was a small table next to me with reading materials on it. The first thing I noticed was that the office placed a Bible […]

Not My View on The View Today

posted by Linda Mintle

During my usual channel surfing while on the elliptical at the Y, I happened across a segment on The View today. Whoopi Goldberg was talking about a passenger who was kicked off a flight for cursing. Apparently a Brooklyn man […]

Getting the “High” Out of Higher Education

posted by Linda Mintle

There is a huge pile of college gear sitting on my living room floor. In two weeks, my daughter begins her freshman year. College is definitely on my mind which is why my eye caught an article in the Wall […]

Bible Stories For Grown Ups

posted by Linda Mintle

Last night I had interesting conversation with friends at dinner.  We were talking about a comment my pastor made on Sunday. He mentioned that Bible stories were not just in the Bible to record nice stories, but they were there […]

The Dryer Repair Man Made My Day

posted by Linda Mintle

Sometimes, people do the right thing for the right reasons. Today was one of those days. My dryer has been acting up again. Because of the multiple repairs, I have an extended warranty. At least I thought I did. For […]

Why at the Y? Embracing Change

posted by Linda Mintle

We all know how important it is to exercise. I get that and have written books (Lose It For Life) on the multiple benefits of exercise. But when the Y (it is no longer called the YMCA) completely revamped its […]

Doing Life Together: Beginning July 1, 2011

posted by Linda Mintle

Grab a cup of coffee. Get comfortable and let’s do life together. We will tackle everyday issues that lead to good mental health. I bring years of clinical training and experience to our virtual table and will serve up tips […]

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Are You Practicing The Best Parenting Style?
Parenting is on John's mind now that his second child has arrived. John was raised by a father who was harsh and demanding. John often felt as if he could not live up to his father's expectations. Now a father himself, John is aware that his ...

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Are You Genetically Predisposed to Worry?
Susan feels she can’t stop worrying no matter how hard she tries. She’s beginning to wonder if she is a born worry. She is asking, "Can worry be genetic?" In 2007, Yale researchers found a gene variation associated with chronic worrying ...

posted 7:00:57am Jun. 26, 2015 | read full post »

Does God Hide in Times of Trouble?
When Christians are being beheaded in the middle east, when a man shoots people praying in a church, when young girls are taken and forced into sex slavery, when you are falsely accused or ridiculed for your beliefs, it often feels like God is ...

posted 7:00:35am Jun. 24, 2015 | read full post »

Should You Keep Secrets From Your Partner?
I was in the grocery store and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Secrets are a problem. They don’t usually end well. I am often asked if it is a good idea to reveal secrets to a partner or a ...

posted 7:00:25am Jun. 22, 2015 | read full post »

The Gift Your Father Gave You
Happy Father's Day! I know not everyone has a great relationship with his or her father. However, this Father’s Day, I encourage to think about your father and find one thing he gave you as a gift. Some of you will think of many things, others ...

posted 7:00:16am Jun. 19, 2015 | read full post »

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