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Why Sex is Not Always About the Sex

posted by Linda Mintle

If you watch most television shows, you would think that the most important part of any relationship is sex! But when it comes to what matters most in a relationship, it’s not the sex. And if we focus  only on sex, the […]

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7 Ways Pride Makes Conflict Difficult

posted by Linda Mintle

“Conflict is an inevitable reality. Like a car flying down the interstate, our body shuts the windows and locks the doors to contain all our pain. Conflict moves in a set direction on four wheels – distress, anger, fear and […]

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4 Strategies to Minimize Relationship Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

Five years ago, there was no conflict. Renee and Jerry decided to have children. At the time, both felt it was best for Renee to stay home with the children while Jerry worked outside the home. Recently, Renee was having […]

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Is Someone Too Controlling? 10 Questions to Ask

posted by Linda Mintle

Rachel: “He’s so controlling! I can’t even go out with friends or he gets mad. Should I be concerned about this or does this mean that he really loves me?” Barb: “You should be concerned! Someone who gets upset when […]

5 Things to Say That Will Upset Your Partner

posted by Linda Mintle

If you want to upset your partner, try these tried and true conversation starters or responses. These phrases will get a reaction, mostly, an upsetting one. So think before you speak! 1) We need to talk. Yes, this is the title […]

Should You Keep Secrets From Your Partner?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Secrets are a problem. They don’t usually end well. I am often asked if it is a good idea to […]

Divorce Physically Hurts a Woman’s Heart

posted by Linda Mintle

Their families were surprised. Don and Jackie were getting a divorce after 15 years of marriage.  Don’s sister believes Don will have a difficulty living alone. She fears the stress of the split could cause him serious emotional and health problems. But […]

Is Technology Stressing You Out?

posted by Linda Mintle

Technology is a good thing, but sometimes it can stress you out. For example, your phone is vibrating. Should you look at it, stay in the conversation and ignore it? Do you feel a compulsion to check? Ping! Buzz, Vibrate. I […]

More Than Worry: Understanding OCD

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a term we casually throw around, “I’m so OCD.” But for those who suffer, it’s no causal matter. It was 9:00p.m. Eric was rechecking every door in the house to make sure it was locked. He didn’t do this once, or […]

Falsely Accused: 3 Ways to Respond

posted by Linda Mintle

Have you ever been falsely accused and felt you had no power to deal with the situation because the accusers did not want to hear the truth? How do you respond when this happens? The natural thing is to get angry […]

Crying During Movies: Could Be A Highly Sensitive Person!

posted by Linda Mintle

If you are at the movies and someone is crying behind you, it might be me. When it comes to movies, I am a highly sensitive person. I cried during the capture of the horse in Warhorse, Lone Survivor deeply […]

Does An Affair Mean It Is Over?

posted by Linda Mintle

Tears in her eyes, Rachel admitted to Tom she had an affair. But does this mean the marriage is over? Betrayal cuts deep and undermines the trust in any committed relationship. Affairs are secretive relationships,  emotional connections to someone outside […]

Feeling Anxious? When Anxiety is Helpful

posted by Linda Mintle

Richard was feeling anxious. If you asked him, this feeling wasn’t helpful. He was asked to give a speech in front of his company and present his findings to the entire staff. All he felt was dread at the idea of […]

Are Your Tweets Tied to Heart Disease?

posted by Linda Mintle

#AngryInNYC Another stupid person runs in to me. Sorry doesn’t cut it. Look up from your phone you idiot. This is just one example of Sara’s tweets that regular fill her Twitter account. It doesn’t take much to anger Sara. […]

What To Do When Anger is Triggered

posted by Linda Mintle

Anger is triggered by expectations, perceptions, and things people say and do. These hot buttons are triggers that cause the feeling to rise. Knowing your hot buttons can prepare you for future conflicts. To deal with hot buttons, think about how […]

Why You Shouldn’t Withhold Sex in a Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

Aaron and Jill feels distant in their relationship. Because of the lack of closeness, their sex life has suffered. Aaron came to therapy wondering how to change this dynamic in their relationship. Sex is so important to a man’s emotional […]

I Spend, She Saves: 6 Tips on What To Do About Money

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a common scenario, one person in a couple is a spender, the other wants to save. Fighting over money puts strain on even the best relationship. So how do you work through what seems like a major difference in […]

5 Important Points When Dealing With a High Conflict Person

posted by Linda Mintle

We all have that person in our lives that drives us crazy and personalizes conflict, making it difficult to handle. Here are five points to keep in mind when dealing with a high conflict person. Choose your battles. Since most […]

The Consequences of Holding a Grudge

posted by Linda Mintle

A grudge involves holding resentment because of some real or imagined wrong. A grudge develops when you don’t like the way a conflict ended. Nursing a grudge can lead to revenge. Consider the story of John the Baptist in Mark […]

Angry: 7 Steps to Regain Control

posted by Linda Mintle

Anger is a powerful emotion that needs to be controlled. If you struggle with anger, consider these steps to regain control. Admit that you are out of control. While anger is a normal emotion and not a sin, anger expression […]

Reconciliation: The Willingness to Try Again

posted by Linda Mintle

The pain of a broken relationship is often difficult to heal. Years of hurt and resentment can feel too big to tackle. And the idea of embracing emotional pain without being able to control the other person means an uncertain […]

8 Prescriptions to Resist Taking Revenge

posted by Linda Mintle

Revenge is an angry response to being treated in wrong ways, but it is not a godly response. Scripture tells us that revenge is the Lord’s and we need to leave it to him. Revenge doesn’t solve anything anyway. It […]

10 Tips to Calm Anger in a Heated Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

One of the keys to resolving conflict is to keep anger in control, to stay calm and not allow anger to overtake you. Here are 10 tips to help that process: Use humor to break the tension. Nothing lightens the […]

7 Ways to Keep Fear From Taking Control

posted by Linda Mintle

Fear is a warning system built into our bodies as a natural reaction to danger. It is healthy to feel fear in the face of danger. It acts like an alarm and prompts us to action. But when fear takes […]

The Mismatch of Conflict Styles: How to Handle It

posted by Linda Mintle

                If you’ve taken the FREE quiz on my website, drlindahelps.com, you know your conflict style–avoider, reactor or negotiator. Now the issue is, does your style match with those with whom you are […]

8 Questions: Are You A Hard Worker or Workalholic?

posted by Linda Mintle

In the same way a drug addict uses cocaine or an alcoholic downs booze, work can have an anesthetizing effect on negative emotions. People use work to escape and avoid unpleasant emotional states. But because hard work is so sanctioned […]

Hurt By a Conflict? How Do You ReBuild Trust?

posted by Linda Mintle

You’ve heard the saying, trust is easy to break, hard to repair. How do you go about building trust with someone you’ve hurt! The key is to know the other person’s world and reliably respond to it. Do what you […]

Should You Keep Secrets From Your Partner?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store yesterday, and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Even though we tend to expect this sort of thing from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem. They don’t […]

What’s Your Attachment Style in Conflict?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all develop an insecure or secure bond with our original families. That bond is referred to as an attachment style. The more secure the bond, the better you will deal with conflict. Two bonding styles make conflict difficult–anxious and […]

How Do You Deal With Conflict: Take the Quiz?

posted by Linda Mintle

WE NEED TO TALK! When you hear that phrase, what goes through your mind? Take the short quiz here and see how you deal with conflict. Now that you know your primary style, let me ask you a few more […]

We Need to Talk: How to Successfully Navigating Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

Jim and Rachel are at it again. They can’t seem to agree on so many issues and all the fighting is taking a toll. Like so many of us, this couple needs help navigating conflict in a way that grows, […]

10 Ways to Resist Sex Outside of Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

Sean Lowe, made famous by the reality television shows The Bachelorette and The Bachelor, was known as the Virgin Bachelor. But Lowe makes no apologies for his desire to wait until marriage to have sex with the woman he wanted to marry. Recently, he […]

One Way to Facilitate the Feeling of Love

posted by Linda Mintle

Rosie is a little anxious about her first date with Sean. We all know how important first impressions are when it comes to finding love. After a few outings at a local coffee shop, her feelings of attraction were obvious. The setting was […]

What Is Really Drawing Women to Fifty Shades of Grey?

posted by Linda Mintle

Yesterday, I heard a CNN reporter talking about the movie 50 Shades of Grey like she was promoting a Disney Movie. I was stunned by what she was saying. She was giddy with approval (not sure how that was journalism) and telling me […]

Boring Love: 10 Ideas to Rev it Up This Valentine’s Day

posted by Linda Mintle

Coming this weekend is Valentine’s Day. Raise your hand if you are doing the standard dinner out, flowers and candy. While this is nice, some of you may need to infuse a little more excitement into your boring relationship; The key: […]

5 Factors That Put You At Risk for An Affair

posted by Linda Mintle

Justin Lehmiller at Purdue University is the author of The Psychology of Human Sexuality and studies sex and relationships. He has found that about 1 in 4  or 1 in 5 married people admit to sexual infidelity. So what puts a person […]

Grieving During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

I was driving down the road the other day when a song played on my phone. It touched me and it will touch you. I encourage anyone who will be missing a special someone this holiday season to click on […]

10 Ideas to Avoid Depression During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the most wonderful time of the year….well, not for everyone. Holidays can be difficult if you struggle with your mood and family issues. However, there are proactive ways to keep your spirit bright. 1) Don’t overspend. Avoid being caught […]

Do Right or Be Right? The Challenge of Betrayal

posted by Linda Mintle

We’ve all experienced it at one time or another–a friend breaks trust, a husband cheats, a boss promotes someone else, etc. The challenge is to respond to betrayal in a way that honors God. What better example to learn from […]

10 Reasons Why You Are Not Having Sex in Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

You are busy. I get that. Welcome to life! When we are busy, sex can take a back seat and get lost in our everyday TO DO list. Of course busyness isn’t the only reason why sex wanes in a […]

10 Ways to Encourage Your Partner to Go to Couple Therapy

posted by Linda Mintle

“Our marriage needs help but my husband won’t go to therapy.” I’ve heard this statement often and it is usually filled with frustration, sadness and sometimes anger. A relationship is in trouble but one spouse refuses to get help. If a marriage […]

Success at Work? Maybe It’s Your Spouse’s Personality!

posted by Linda Mintle

Dave is getting a promotion. His boss is impressed with his hard work. But could Dave’s work success be related to his wife’s conscientious personality? Possibly! Your spouse might influence your career. Conscientious, hard-working, agreeable….are these traits you list on your […]

What Type of Decision Maker are You?

posted by Linda Mintle

Last week, I was going out of town for the weekend. I spent hours going over my wardrobe choices. What if it rains, gets cold, I want something more formal, etc.? My husband opened his suitcase, threw in a few […]

Why Our Wants May Not Turn Out to Be Our Likes

posted by Linda Mintle

When our first dog died, we thought we wanted another. We did, but when we got the dog and our schedules all demanded more time, the dog became more of an imposition. Don’t get me wrong, we love her to […]

Does Happiness Affect Your Success?

posted by Linda Mintle

Happiness is a good thing, right? Yes and no. There is actually a down side to too much happiness. 1)   Happy people tend to be less persuasive. When happy, you can overlook details. Unhappy people can focus more on the […]

Are Couples Who Play Together More Satisfied?

posted by Linda Mintle

When I was dating my husband, I realized he was a huge soccer fan. Me, not so much! I grew up in the north where hockey ruled game day. But because I was falling for him, I decided I better […]

Emma Watson on Gender Equality: Is “Feminism” a Dirty Word?

posted by Linda Mintle

If you missed it, actress Emma Watson, gave a moving speech to the UN last month.  Her topic was on gender equality and her #heforshe campaign–a movement trying to raise the issues involved with gender equality. If you are not one […]

Fatal Attraction: What You Found Attractive May Now Bother You

posted by Linda Mintle

When John dated Katie, he was attracted to how book smart she was and how much she loved to learn new things. He is the first to tell you, he’s not cut out for academics and loves to play instead […]

Does Porn Affect Your Relationship?

posted by Linda Mintle

During an evening talk show  there were plenty of jokes about pornography. And as the host and celebrity guest settled down, it was evident, porn, in their opinions, is no big deal.  If fact, many of the tabloids and even a few […]

5 Ways to Live in Financial Harmony

posted by Linda Mintle

Money can’t buy you love but it sure can make love difficult. Especially if you are in a relationship and not managing your money well. When it comes to money, here are 5 tips to live in relationship harmony: 1) Decide […]

Should You Try Again After an Affair?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all know how devastating an affair can be to a marriage. The question often asked is, “Should I try to work through the betrayal and give the person another chance?” It’s a question most of us hope we never have […]

5 Safeguards to Prevent Cheating On-line

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s easy to do. You are bored, mad at your partner and notice a Facebook Message from an old flame. Your curiosity is peaked. What harm could it do to answer and catch up? Next thing you know, you are […]

Brangelina Married, But Why?

posted by Linda Mintle

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie finally tied the knot. After nine years and six children, something prompted them to become a legitimately married couple. Only they know the real reason they waited so long. Perezhilton.com reported the marriage was to honor a […]

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon Split: Telling All May Have Been Too Much

posted by Linda Mintle

The gossip train is all a buzz with what looks like a split between pop diva, Mariah Carey and her husband, America’s Got Talent host, Nick Cannon. The usual suspects, TMZ, People, Hollywood Life and others are reporting the spilt, […]

An Easy Way to Build Trust, Love and Acceptance

posted by Linda Mintle

Turn off your TV and stop watching all the shows about betrayal, revenge and hurting people. And stop listening to all the cultural voices telling you that you aren’t good enough and need to improve. I’ve got a simple way you […]

10 Reasons Couples Therapy Needs a Spiritual Base

posted by Linda Mintle

Let’s say your marriage is hurting and you know you need help. If you are a Christian couple, does it matter who you see and what approach the person uses to help you? Absolutely. So much of couples therapy is […]

Smoking Anything Isn’t Good For You

posted by Linda Mintle

With the rise of hookah bars, teens tend to think that this trend is a safer alternative to smoking cigarettes. This simply isn’t true. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention is warning us that smoking anything increases our risk […]

Are You Entering the Nap Zone?

posted by Linda Mintle

It is afternoon. You have a talk to give. When you enter the room and begin to set up, you notice people looking rather sleepy. In fact, as you scan the audience, some people are already nodding off. You think, “This […]

10 Signs That Someone Might Be Lying to You

posted by Linda Mintle

You are reading an email from a man you are dating. Your gut tells you, “I’m not sure this is the truth.” How do you know if he is lying to you? It’s tough. With social media you don’t have the […]

Is Texting Helping or Hurting Your Relationship?

posted by Linda Mintle

Many of us remember the woman who fell in the fountain at the mall because she was so distracted texting. And we know texting and driving is extremely dangerous, but what about the dangers or help of texting on our […]

Are You Addicted to Love?

posted by Linda Mintle

Some of you remember singer Robert Palmer’s well-known music video, Addicted to Love. The chorus repeats the line, “Might as well face it, you’re addicted to love.” What if Palmer was on to something here? Can people be addicted to […]

Hope for That Difficult Person in Your Life

posted by Linda Mintle

We all have that one or two people in our lives that are hard to live with or obnoxious to be around. You know, the person who growls when any little thing goes wrong, or maintains a frown when people […]

Mad at Your Spouse? Go Eat!

posted by Linda Mintle

The last thing you will hear from me, an eating disorders specialist, is to grab some food when you are angry. This is exactly what I help people NOT do –eat when they are emotional. So many of us channel […]

Too Much Information (TMI) Tori Spelling!

posted by Linda Mintle

Tori Spelling, former Beverly Hills 90210 TV actress and daughter of well known television and film producer, Aaron Spelling, takes her broken heart to reality TV.  After seven years of marriage and four children, Tori is telling all in her […]

Have You Found Your Soul Mate?

posted by Linda Mintle

People tell me in therapy that they have or want to find their soulmate.  I’m really not sure what that means. Murray’s new book, The Curmudgeon’s Guide to Getting Ahead defines  soulmate as your closest friend to whom you are sexually […]

Should You Marry Young?

posted by Linda Mintle

Friends of ours married off their son when he just turned 21. Another is getting married at 20 and hey, I was married at 19! Yes, I know, that is really young. But is marrying young a good idea? Well, […]

It’s Tax Day But How Is Your Emotional Bank Account Doing?

posted by Linda Mintle

Yes, today is tax day and many of you will make that last minute run for the post office before midnight! Why? Because you don’t want to be penalized by the federal government. But what about your emotional bank account? […]

#NOT TALKING TO YOU #FIGHTINGAGAIN: Tweeting Our Way to Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

TWEET: You didn’t follow through on your promise today#madatyouagain TWEET: How about the way you responded #outofcontrol TWEET: No way. Call me @JohnSmith. I’m over Tim! TWEET: #overreacting. #outofcontrol and trying to blame me. I guess I eat out tonight! […]

Is Monogamy Only for Women?

posted by Linda Mintle

I generally like the work of biological anthropologist, Helen Fisher. She wrote a book called, The Anatomy of Love, and concludes that women are more wired for monogamy than men. She claims that men are wired to want sex with many partners […]

Relationship Dissatisfaction? Could be a Power Imbalance?

posted by Linda Mintle

When  Donna and Jim were asked if they want an equal relationship, they answered, “Yes.” What they mean by that answer is where communication breaks down. People have widely different ideas about what equal means in a relationship. Power usually […]

Sexless Marriage Can Get the Sparks Flying Again

posted by Linda Mintle

Sex therapist will tell you that lack of sex in a marriage could be a sign of marital crisis. While that may be true, it is normal for a couple’s sex life to slow down over time and even stop. […]

How to Keep Passion Alive

posted by Linda Mintle

Rick and Susan were once passionate lovers. Now, they wonder what happened. Can they keep passion alive in their relationship? For years, researchers believed that romantic love wore off after about 18-36 months, explaining why romantic love burns hot in the […]

Singles and Relationships: Oh How We’ve Changed

posted by Linda Mintle

A survey of more than 5000 singles for Match.com reveals real change in the attitudes of singles when it comes to marriage and relationships. When asked about sex dating and what is OK in relationships, here is what the survey […]

Shamed by a Secret? Let it Go!

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you have a secret? If so, you join more than 95% of people who do. Most of us keep one fact or piece of information about ourselves from others. One reason for this is that secrets often involve shame. […]

Simple Ways to Improve Your Relationships

posted by Linda Mintle

We know that when we feel negative towards someone, the relationship suffers and is difficult to turn around. So try these few ideas to think more positively. Some one I know does loving kindness meditations. She thinks about the good […]

Do Men and Women Speak the Same Language?

posted by Linda Mintle

Jack and Kirsten are out to dinner. Kirsten begins the conversation. “How was your day?” “Fine.” That was it. Jack stopped talking. Kirsten was frustrated. Kirsten is thinking that a little more detail would be nice. Let’s say Kirsten began […]

Are the Rules of Dating Confusing You?

posted by Linda Mintle

“Going to O’Reilly’s. Join me at 7″ When Sarah received this message, she wasn’t sure if Jason was asking her on a date or just wanted her to hang out with friends. The message came by text. She was hoping […]

Stay or Go? How Spouses Can Move Past Adultery

posted by Linda Mintle

    This interview with CBN News was based on the news story about Governor Sanford’s infidelity a few years ago, but has some terrific points in terms of how to think about picking up the pieces after an affair. […]

Does a Little Porn Help a Relationship?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was reading a new book on relationships by one of the leading people in the field and was stunned. In the book, he suggested that “a little” pornography could help a marriage. Here is why he is wrong. After […]

The Best of the Dr. Linda Mintle Show

posted by Linda Mintle

Happy New Year! Today’s blog is The Best of the Dr. Linda Mintle show. Body Image, Forgiveness, depression and more…CLick on the picture to listen!

5 Tips to Change a Marriage From Fizzle to Sizzle

posted by Linda Mintle

According to marriage researcher, Paul Amato, 60% of divorces in the U.S. are from low conflict couples. This means these divorces were not characterized by abuse, addiction, repeated infidelity, or even high conflict. The marriages just fizzled. Couples stopped paying […]

10 Ways to Worsen Relationship Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

 Jackie and Mike felt like they were constantly battling over small things. Like them, most of us need a little help when it comes to dealing with conflict in our relationships. Here are 10 things NOT to do. They only […]

Will You Rate Your Marriage and See Where You Stand?

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s not uncommon for couples to come to therapy and a therapist to ask, “On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate your marriage?” Even couples who don’t come to therapy will occasionally think about this. What […]

All the Single Ladies: 5 Wrong Moves on a Date

posted by Linda Mintle

Rachel is like so many of her friends, single but wants to be married. She is tired of being set up and being disappointed when it comes to finding the right guy. But is her complaint all about the men […]

The Dangers of a Sexless Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

Aaron and Holly were like many couples in the early years of having children. What was once a hot romance between the two of them seemed to fizzle to barely an ember. When they came to see me, they reported not […]

6 Ways to Calm Down During an Argument

posted by Linda Mintle

Jack and Rachel do not agree on household chores.  Both work outside the home and are tired when they come home. The last thing either wants to do is tackle dishes, clean, water plants, etc. The conflict has come to […]

Should You Keep Secrets from Your Partner?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store yesterday. The tabloids at the check out were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. While we tend to expect this from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem. They don’t usually […]

7 Things to Say If You Want to Upset Your Partner

posted by Linda Mintle

Getting along in a relationship takes work. Some of the things we say, make things worse. Here are a few phrases that will probably bring more tension.  I was inspired by Gina Barreca’s recent blog to put a relationship twist […]

Could WHY You Have Sex Affect Your Marriage?

posted by Linda Mintle

Grace was really tired and knew her husband would approach her in bed. She just wasn’t in the mood, but thought she should probably have sex and get it over with–not the best motivation to be intimate. At least, she […]

Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Take the quiz!

posted by Linda Mintle

Relationships are such an important part of our lives. How do you measure up in your partner relationship? Check your emotional intelligence here: Answer YES OR NO to each question. 1) When your partner does something that bothers you, do […]

Rejected in Love, Accepted by Food

posted by Linda Mintle

Ann was on an eating binge. Oh it wasn’t because she was a compulsive eater or had an eating disorder. It was because her boyfriend, Rob, decided to break it off. Ann was in the midst of grieving, but was […]

10 Things Happy Couples Do

posted by Linda Mintle

I couldn’t get in to blog today until now so this is brief but good. A number of years ago, I found this on a website, Thirdage.com.  It’s simple but true. This is what happy couples do… Go to bed […]

Is The Other Woman/Man More Attractive? Surprise!

posted by Linda Mintle

When John left his wife for another woman, his wife was shocked. She saw  pictures of his lover  on her on Facebook and could not believe it. She was not attractive. What was going on that he would leave her […]

Her Cheating Heart At the Office: 10 Ways to Put on the Brakes

posted by Linda Mintle

Sara was going through a rough patch in her marriage. She and Jeff were struggling to spend time together and found themselves growing apart. They stopped attending church, rarely went out or did anything together. Both were in intense careers […]

What Men Want That Women Don’t Understand

posted by Linda Mintle

“I’m in the middle of an emotional crisis here and you want sex?  Really?” Yes really. The woman who uttered this during a therapy session did not understand her husband’s bid for emotional closeness. In the middle of emotional crises, […]

5 Ways to Handle Embarrassment By Your Partner

posted by Linda Mintle

You are at a party, turn around and your spouse has a lamp shade on his head and is doing an impression. Or maybe, you are visiting friends and he tells an off color joke. How about the time she […]

Is Your Teen Involved in An Abusive Dating Relationship? Know the Signs!

posted by Linda Mintle

Would you be surprised to learn that more than a third of teens say they have been physically, emotionally or sexually abused while dating?  This was the finding of a new survey presented this past July at a meeting of […]

Dr. Linda, I Was Nice, But It Didn’t Seem to Matter

posted by Linda Mintle

Couples come in to therapy with this complaint. “I did nice things for my spouse, but it doesn’t seem to matter. She doesn’t even notice. I don’t get it.” Honestly, they usually don’t get it. They fail to see that […]

A Quick Anger Guide for Relationships

posted by Linda Mintle

John and Mary are at it again. Arguing escalates to anger and John has a hard time calming down. As they sit in my therapy office, they ask what needs to happen. Basically, here is a summary: 1) John needs […]

Should You Reveal Your Secrets to Your Spouse?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store yesterday and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. While we tend to expect this from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem for any couple. The question asked […]

The Secret Relationship Killer

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s toxic. It can be sexual, but doesn’t have to be. It can be present and you may  not be aware of it. It’s at the heart of failing relationships. The secret relationship killer is betrayal. And betrayal isn’t always […]

10 Emotional Repairs for Relationship Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

You are in the middle of a fight. Temperatures are rising and you know this isn’t going well. How can you bring down the tension and allow reason to prevail? You make what we call in therapy, an emotional repair. […]

Can You Stay NICE During a Conflict?

posted by Linda Mintle

“Please, when you come home, would you help me with the kids? I am trying to get dinner going and need you to take them for awhile. Is that asking too much? “ “It seems like the minute I walk […]

How Do You Know You Are Having a Nonsexual Affair?

posted by Linda Mintle

Kim and Jack have worked together now for the past five years. Sometimes, in a joke, Jack refers to her as his “work wife.” They spend most of their day together, work on projects and go to lunch everyday. They […]

The Kids Are Gone! Are You More At Risk for Divorce?

posted by Linda Mintle

The last child has now left the nest. The house is quiet. You look at that person you’ve been married to for so many years and yet, he/she feels like a stranger. There isn’t much to talk about except to […]

Talk on How to Handle Disagreements and Arguments. Listen In!

posted by Linda Mintle

Faith Radio and I talked this week about disagreements and arguments. What are the secrets to keeping things calm and actually coming up with solutions. Listen to the 20 minute interview. Click here.                 […]

A Possible Divorce Prevention?

posted by Linda Mintle

When you think of preventing divorce, you usually think about improving communication, strengthening the marital friendship and dealing with conflict. What you probably do not think about is how many children were in your family growing up. Yet, one new […]

MTV, Virgins, and Reality TV: Why I am Skeptical!

posted by Linda Mintle

What do MTV and a biblical worldview have in common? Virtually nothing! So when I read that MTV was planning to do  a reality TV show about a group of 18-25 year old virgins, I about flipped. Totally unexpected. According […]

How to Calm Down An Argument

posted by Linda Mintle

Russ and Rachel were at it again. Russ is driving like a maniac through busy traffic. “Hey, slow down. You are driving way too fast!” “I know how to drive and don’t need to be told what to do. When […]

If Anthony Weiner Was a Patient Who Walked in to My Office…

posted by Linda Mintle

Forget for the moment that Anthony Weiner is running for Mayor of New York City. Set aside your politics and think about Anthony Weiner’s behavior. Let’s pretend Weiner comes to see me because he has been ordered by someone to […]

Does Your Partner Want Your Advice?

posted by Linda Mintle

You see her trying to balance the checkbook. You have some advice that you are ready to give. After all, you are just trying to be helpful, but it turns out that your partner may not appreciate that type of […]

Learning to Let Go of Offense

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you ever have one of those days when you are mad at the way people behave? Something really unfair happens and you try very hard not to be offended?  Not that I am not perfect, but when I see […]

Couples: How Far is Too Far?

posted by Linda Mintle

 “I did not have sex with that woman.” These words from President Clinton concerning his relationship with  White House intern. Monica Lewinsky. raised questions about what does and does not constitute marital infidelity. How does one define infidelity? Is it […]

Kardashian Goes Directional With Baby Name

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m feeling blog lite today. So let me focus on a rather unimportant issue, well at least unimportant to most of us, but not to one little girl. One little girl will grow up with an unusually name that could […]

One Secret to Keeping Love Alive

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you like to roller skating? How about hiking? Maybe consider taking cooking classes or release that inner artist by painting. You could be on to something and discovering one of the secrets to keeping love alive. When couples try […]

15 Minutes to Build Trust

posted by Linda Mintle

Trust is foundational to any relationship. Today’s Blog is an audio blog. 15 minutes of Liberty Radio Journal. MMark Edwards and I sat down and talked about how to build trust in your intimate relationships. It’s worth your time! Click […]

7 Myths About Infidelity

posted by Linda Mintle

Myth #1- Everybody is doing it. Marital fidelity is still the norm even though Hollywood depicts it as a dying possibility. Survey data suggests that 15% of women and 25% of men confess to straying. While these numbers are still […]

10 Ways to Remember on Memorial Day

posted by Linda Mintle

Memorial Day usually means a day off, time to relax, barbecue, the beach and time with friends. But I hope on this Memorial Day you also take time to remember the significance of the day –honoring the people who have […]

10 Ways to Rebuild Relationship Trust

posted by Linda Mintle

IRS scandals, reports of infidelity, misuse of funds, friendship betrayals….they all involve a loss of trust. Trust is foundational to any relationship. It is about having confidence in someone or something, relying on someone and believing what he or she […]

Is Your Marriage More Than a Contract?

posted by Linda Mintle

The way you think about marriage matters. When marriage is reduced to a set up conditions, you do this, I’ll do that… and as long as we are happy, we stay together, you’ve missed God’s design for marriage. Do you […]

6 Signs of a Failing Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

Kim and Mark were hopeless romantics when they fell in love. But lately, the marriage was faltering and both were considering divorce. When they came to see me, I saw six signs of distress that told me things were not […]

Could Your Kiss Be Toxic?

posted by Linda Mintle

You look at him across a crowded room, your eyes meet. You move towards him, and embrace. He’s the love of your life and reaches down to kiss you. WAIT….Stop the script. Could that kiss be toxic? Yes, according to […]

Three Ways to Stop a Marriage from Divorce

posted by Linda Mintle

Ed and Jane were having marital problems.  Jane was at the point of walking out. Ed rarely spoke to her. This once loving couple was now thinking divorce. So what happened? Like too many couples, Ed and Jane waited too […]

Tackling Marriage Myths and Making Marriage Work (Video Blog)

posted by Linda Mintle

Dr. Linda tackles the marriage myths: .  I am a victim of my past I can’t change. Infidelity means automatic divorce. We are just two different people. We’ve grown apart.

Divorce Proof Your Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

Jack Hayford, gifted pastor, teacher and speaker, posed the question: “Do marriage vows matter?” It’s an important question that deserves more discussion. Hayford states that confronting the problem of divorce among Christians is not “a showdown between those who have […]

After the Admission of an Affair

posted by Linda Mintle

Susan was devastated. Her husband Dan was supposed to be in Cleveland on business. Instead he was seen vacationing in the Virgin Islands with a female co-worker. The betrayal took her by surprise. She couldn’t believe Dan would risk the […]

4 Reasons Not To Avoid Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m guessing that, “In this world, you will have trouble…” is not your favorite BIble verse to quote! But it is true, with trouble comes conflict.  Conflict is always present in our relationships and many of us don’t like to […]

Who is Really Feeling Stressed?

posted by Linda Mintle

The good news is that stress levels are down for most Americans. We must be doing something right when it comes to handling the opportunities to let stress get the best of us. But one group is not doing so […]

What Women Have More of Than Men

posted by Linda Mintle

So you are at that dinner party and you feel like you are carrying the conversation. As a woman, it’s the most natural thing to be entertaining others through verbal sparring and lively conversation. Your husband comments on how much […]

Complaints About Your Spouse? Tend Your Own Garden!

posted by Linda Mintle

 “I can’t live with this man. He makes me crazy. I constantly have to remind him of even the simplest things. He’s like having another child.” “She would make anyone insane. She always tells me what to do. All she […]

Feel Alone in Marriage?

posted by Linda Mintle

Feeling alone in your marriage? Well you are not alone–at least when it comes to that feeling. According to a comprehensive study of marriage by Penn State researcher Paul Amato and others, couples are spending less time together than ever. […]

The Benefit of Romance

posted by Linda Mintle

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! And HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my 92 year old father! Love is definitely the topic of today. Love has many benefits, especially when we are talking about romantic love. Did you know that having a romantic relationship makes […]

Singles and Sex: The Survey Says…

posted by Linda Mintle

According to an online survey of 5,481 singles, ages 21 and older, who are not in a relationship, conducted by Market Tools Inc. for Match.com (Margin of error plus/minus 1.32 percentage points), this is what singles are saying about their sexual […]

Single Women Share What They Want From Single Men

posted by Linda Mintle

Ladies, it is your turn. A singles survey of almost 5500 unattached adults conducted by MarketTools.com for Match.com sheds light on what singles look for in potential relationships. And yes, physical attraction still makes the list. I already blogged on […]

Single Men Share What They Want From Single Women

posted by Linda Mintle

You’ve heard the saying, “Put your money where your mouth is?” Well if you are single, this idea may have some merit. A singles survey of almost 5500 unattached adults conducted by MarketTools.com for Match.com sheds light on what singles […]

Prime Time TV: The Gospel Hour(s) for Sexuality

posted by Linda Mintle

I was reviewing a large study on the sexual attitudes of singles and I was surprised by how much shift has occurred regarding sexuality. And then I wasn’t surprised when I began to think about how media preach their nightly […]

Three Divorce Predictors

posted by Linda Mintle

It may surprise you what researchers Alan Booth,  Paul Amato and colleagues at Penn State found to be important predictors of divorce when they studied long term marriage and divorce. 1) Couples who do NOT own a house. House owners are […]

Could The Way You Start a Fight Predict Divorce?

posted by Linda Mintle

Jenna was really mad at her husband. He promised to come home at a reasonable hour. She cooked a fabulous meal, got the kids to bed but sat waiting in the silence. Two hours after his scheduled arrival, husband Tom […]

Social Media May Be Evidence Against You in Divorce

posted by Linda Mintle

Up against a tough situation with your divorce or child custody case? Family law attorney, Christian Badali, a partner at Weber Gallagher says, shut down your social media. It can be used against you. The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers […]

Healthy Strategies to Handle Marital Differences

posted by Linda Mintle

Joe and Rachel were fighting over a common parenting issue. Of course, both were convinced they were right because of the way they were raised. Differences noted, but they had to come to some agreement as to how to actually […]

Negotiating Holidays With Divorced Parents

posted by Linda Mintle

Jennifer wonders if it possible to satisfy everyone’s expectations for the holidays? She and her husband Sam both have divorced parents. This means four sets of parents want to see their grandkids for Christmas. And to complicate things, they all […]

Guest Blogger Wendy Griffith Asks, Are You Worth the Price of Dinner?

posted by Linda Mintle

Anchor woman,Wendy Griffith’ feels strongly about men and dinner dates. Read her guest blog and let us know. Do you agree?  In today’s world, it can sometimes be confusing about who pays on a date.  Stop right there!  Ladies, there […]

Are You a Walk Away Wife?

posted by Linda Mintle

Is your wife nagging you? Take this as a good sign. It might mean she is still invested in the marriage and not ready to walk away. Maybe you’ve heard about the Walk-away Wife Syndrome. It’s a phrase that has […]

3 Needed Tips for Dealing With Family Stress

posted by Linda Mintle

Reader Question:  When mom and dad are so stressed from kids and work, what kind of strain does that put on marriages? And what about temptation? Stress either pushes you closer together as a couple or moves you father apart. […]

Does Your Relationship Pass an Easy Test?

posted by Linda Mintle

Years ago, martial researcher, John Gottman, discovered an easy marker for healthy relationships. It can provide you a quick assessment on how well you are doing with your partner. The “test” is called the five-to-one rule. If it is operating […]

5 Tips When Seeking Relationship Help

posted by Linda Mintle

Steve and Jan are growing apart. Their lack of connection is impacting their children and they need help. They have talked about going to see a couple therapist, but are reluctant. Yet, research shows that couple therapy works. Here are […]

A Marital Lesson from Hosea

posted by Linda Mintle

As a marital therapist for the past 30 years, I have seen too many couples divorce over fixable problems. When I talk about fixable problems I am referring to couples who stop liking each other, grow apart and refuse to […]

10 Tips to Stay Married For A Life Time

posted by Linda Mintle

I recently received a tweet from the Huffington Post about the myth of marriage for a lifetime. Honestly, I didn’t even open the link because I am so tired of hearing how impossible it is to stay married to someone. […]

4 Tips on Marriage From Divorced Couples

posted by Linda Mintle

When researcher Terri Orbuch at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research interviewed couples who divorced, she learned what couples would have changed in their failed relationships. Here are 4 tips from those couples.      

Martial Problems? Try a Spiritual Solution

posted by Linda Mintle

Janet was about to divorce her husband but decided to meet with her pastor first. The counsel he gave her provided a new perspective on her relationship. The pastor pointed Janet to a passage of scripture, Matthew 17:14-21 . The […]

What We Learn When Celebrity Couples Divorce

posted by Linda Mintle

Today is a video blog. Russell Brand and Katie Perry are officially no longer a couple. What can we learn when celebrity couples break up? 3 quick tips to remember in order to keep your marriage intact.  

Taming Your Temper In Any Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

Temper outbursts don’t help relationships. Staying cool and calm and thinking before you speak is the desired behavior. Well, researchers at the University of Michigan and Ohio State may have come up with a way to help tame your temper. […]

Gospel Singer Yolanda Adams Challenges BET Entertainers

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m giving it up to gospel singer, Yolanda Adams on the BET awards this past week. After being assaulted by foul mouthed talk and rap, Adams gracefully accepts her award and says, “We need all of y’all. I’m saying the […]

Cruise-Holmes Split: Did Religion Play a Part?

posted by Linda Mintle

Big news last week in Hollywood. Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes split after 5 years of marriage. Was I surprised? No, but it is still sad when a family breaks up and a child is caught in the middle. For […]

John Edwards and Reille Hunter Split Up: Why You Don’t Want to Read The Book

posted by Linda Mintle

John Edward’s girlfriend announced today on an interview with ABC’s George Stephanopoulis (Good Morning America) that she and Edwards split, they are no longer a couple. Interestingly, this announcement comes on the heels of her new book release. When George […]

5 Quick Ways to Improve Your Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

I’m often asked to give a few tips on how to make your relationship better. Here are five quick tips: 1) Turn off media and engage with your partner. Looking at the person instead of a screen sends a message–you […]

Four Minutes, Four Times a Day to Improve Your Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ve been through years of relationship training. During those years, some ideas seem like good ones, others not so much. At a recent seminar I attended, I liked this idea and thought I would pass it on. The leader of […]

Married? Are You in the Majority?

posted by Linda Mintle

With a growing desire to say, Yes to the dress, Karla often dreams of her wedding day. In her head, it is all planned out–her colors, the music, location, the rings, the cake and how the ceremony will be conducted. […]

Father’s Day: How Dad is a Reflection of You

posted by Linda Mintle

I recently attended an all day seminar on couples counseling. We began the seminar filling out a form about our parents. There were two sections–positive and negative traits of  your mother and father (or major caretaker growing up). Then we […]

Caring For The Whole Person Adds to Quality of Life

posted by Linda Mintle

What if you went to your doctor’s appointment for your regular diabetes check up and did more than have your labs taken? Instead… A counselor talked to you about your support system at home and asked about other aspects of […]

A Breath of Fresh Air

posted by Linda Mintle

I recently spent six days along the coast of San Diego, California hiking state parks, dining at cafes and shopping at boutiques and malls. What I noticed was that I didn’t have to move through a haze of cigarette smoke […]

Are You Normal When It Comes to Married Couples and Sex?

posted by Linda Mintle

Jennifer came to therapy because she was not having sex with her husband. She wondered if this was normal. It isn’t. Then she asked a question so many people ask, “What is normal when it comes to sex in marriage?” […]

Is Profanity on TV Harmless?

posted by Linda Mintle

Steven Tyler gets bleeped repeatedly on American Idol. Howard Stern, known for his use of profanity, is a judge on America’s Got Talent. I could make lists of people who are constantly bleeped on television due to their language. I […]

Try A Technology Cleanse

posted by Linda Mintle

You are at dinner in a nice restaurant with your wife and you find yourself checking your email before the salad arrives. Or your family sits down to eat and people are looking at screens rather than each other.Or maybe […]

10 Signs of Relationship Trouble

posted by Linda Mintle

Robert and Sarah had been together for five years. They had their share of fights, but one night, Sarah looked at Robert and said, “I’m done here. It is over!” Shocked, Robert knew things were a little rocky in the […]

Are You Too Happy?

posted by Linda Mintle

Happiness is a good thing, right? Sometimes, not so much! A Yale researcher compares too much happiness to too much food. When you overdo it, problems erupt! Too much happiness makes you a high risk taker. And with high risk […]

Does Your Personality Make You Ripe for an Affair?

posted by Linda Mintle

Ricky knew his behavior would probably ruin his marriage, but he continued in an on-line relationship with a woman he met in a chat room several months ago. Although Ricky represents a growing number of people who have affairs on-line, […]

Depression Is Not Just in Your Head!

posted by Linda Mintle

Could it be that depression is an obvious symptom of deeper problems within the physical body? Researchers are asking this question as they look at stress and depression in new ways. Long-term depression, it appears, changes chromosomes the same way […]

Fatal Attraction: Death by Adultery!

posted by Linda Mintle

Jared secretly meets his girlfriend at a local hotel room over his lunch break. Jared’s wife has no idea that this torrid affair has been going on now for a few months. The girlfriend is quite a few years younger […]

What’s Missing From Lady Gaga’s Born This Way?

posted by Linda Mintle

Since I finally had a chance to watch the panel meeting with Lady Gaga at Harvard University where she launched her foundation, Born This Way. Lady Gaga was very engaging, passionate about helping create better communities that embrace kindness, love […]

Dr. Linda Mintle And Joyce Meyer Discuss Body Image

posted by Linda Mintle

Awhile back, I sat down with Joyce Meyer on her TV show, Enjoying Everyday Life, to talk about how to embrace your body and make peace with it. Here is the You Tube interview, “You Are Beautiful Inside & Out, […]

5 Spiritual Helps to Overcome Temptation

posted by Linda Mintle

In the past few weeks, I’ve been commenting on the way television shows handle temptation. Typically, what we see is the power of the temptation and no power to resist. So, from a Christian perspective, what works to overcome temptation? […]

Grey’s Anatomy: The Reality of Temptation

posted by Linda Mintle

My last blog on Grey’s Anatomy ended with the hope that the writer’s would work us through April’s sexual encounter with Jackson. I was particularly hopeful that she would move from feeling as if Jesus hated her for giving in […]

Feeling Flirty? Not So Much If You Are a Dad

posted by Linda Mintle

In our sexually hyped culture, how does a man stay true to his family? The answers involves a little help from his biology! Testosterone is a major sex hormone and is responsible for sex drive and reproductive growth. It is […]

5 Reasons People Don’t Go to Church (Part 2)

posted by Linda Mintle

Yesterday I posted a blog about the growing trend of not going to church. Here are a few of the reasons I think people stay home: 1) Church people require us to practice what we believe. It is easier to […]

Do You Value Church?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was surprised to learn that just 21% of people who call themselves Christians are committed to a community of faith (Faith by George Barna). Even though the Apostles’ Creed affirms that we believe in the communion of saints, many […]

Grey’s Anatomy Gets Christianity Wrong Again

posted by Linda Mintle

Last night I watched an episode of Grey’s Anatomy, hoping that they would actually write the Christian character right. As in the past, I was sorely disappointed. Here is what happened. The only virgin of the fifth year residents was […]

Why We Often Struggle in Our Christian Walk

posted by Linda Mintle

Spend a day watching TV, going to a movie, perusing the news and talking to your co-workers. How often does your faith become a part of the experience? If you are like me, not often. TV shows rarely, if ever, […]

And Why Am I Supposed to Cheer Brad and Angelina’s Engagement?

posted by Linda Mintle

Big entertainment news last week on the cover of People–after living together for seven year and having  six children, Brad and Angie are engaged. We supposed to be getting excited over this news. Hollywood is dishing it out: Could Brad […]

Tim Tebow Booed and Antonio Cromartie Pursued? What is Wrong With This Picture?

posted by Linda Mintle

So this past Sunday night, Tim Tebow put on a NY Yankees cap and attended a game in Yankee Stadium. When the giant screen showed him sitting in the stands, the crowd booed. One of the reporters at ESPN commented […]

Will This Couple Divorce?

posted by Linda Mintle

John and Ann are asked about the history of their relationship. They have nothing positive to say. In fact, all they can remember are the problems. For years, they have been unable to deal with conflict in a way that […]

Pornography Involves Somebody’s Daughter

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ve treated a number of people caught up in pornography addiction. So when my friend and founder of the ministry, Music for the Soul, Steve Siler did a CD and DVD on this topic, I had to pass it on. […]

When Your Think Your Marriage is Over, Think Again!

posted by Linda Mintle

Sarah and John were at a family dinner. During a trip to the restroom, John pulled Sarah aside and said, “I’m done. No more of this. I want out of this marriage. ” Sarah, stunned and speechless, wondered what prompted […]

How to Handle Rejection

posted by Linda Mintle

When a gunman opened fire and killed seven people and wounded three at a Christian college a week ago, the question was, “Why?” Why would anyone walk into a classroom and shoot people at point blank range? While we may […]

Video Encouragement to Overcome Eating Disorders

posted by Linda Mintle

My friend, Steve Siler, founder of Music for the Soul, uses music and video to encourage, heal, and move people towards recovery and hope. Recently, a song from his CD Tell Me What You See was made into a DVD […]

Stop Complaining and Get Out of That Spiritual Desert!

posted by Linda Mintle

Ever feel like giving up? Discouragement comes easy sometimes. Our natural tendency is to feel defeated  when things are tough. But Philippians 2:13-14 tells us that God works in us for His good pleasure, and that we are to do […]

The Difference Between Worry and Concern

posted by Linda Mintle

Be anxious about nothing. Is that really possible. It is if you know the difference between worry and concern. Concern is normal. Worry is not! Watch this short video to find out the difference:

7 Spiritual Steps to Overcome Mild Depression

posted by Linda Mintle

Have you struggled with feeling down for a few years, maybe even since childhood? Something just isn’t quite right. You feel irritable, hopeless, lethargic and low in self-esteem. This was true of Robin. He didn’t realize he was depressed and […]

You Can’t Change Him, But You Can Change You!

posted by Linda Mintle

  One of the biggest problems in our relationships is that so many of us believe we can change another person. Truth is, we can’t. But we can change our reaction to that person and then the relationship changes.This lie, […]

Do I Need a Christian Therapist?

posted by Linda Mintle

Question: I’ve got marital problems. I feel down all the time. Nothing seems to be working in my life. Maybe I need to get some professional help. But how do I pick a therapist? Do I need to see a […]

The Secret to Being Content

posted by Linda Mintle

Self-sufficiency was considered a virtue in Greek culture. The Greek word for content, autarkes, means to be self-sufficient or independent. However, the Bible offers a different view of this concept than the Stoic philosophers of biblical days. The Stoics believed […]

How To Respond to Unfair Accusations

posted by Linda Mintle

My devotional reading this morning was quite challenging. It talked about responding to someone who accuses you. When a false accusation comes your way, the natural response is to lash out, come back with a real zinger, and put that […]

Couple Therapy For One Please

posted by Linda Mintle

Susan’s marital distress reached a tipping point, leading her to see a marital therapist. Her chief complaint was that her husband refuses to change, blames her for all the family problems, doesn’t hold a steady job and rarely takes responsibility […]

Later Life Divorce: Why Boomers Are Calling It Quits

posted by Linda Mintle

A recent article in the Wall Street Journal entitled, The Gray Divorce” brought attention to a growing trend–divorce after 50. The article reported that for people 50 or older, the divorce rate has doubled in he past two decades. At […]

Problems? Take the God Challenge

posted by Linda Mintle

I was very challenged today by my devotional reading in Jesus Calling. The entry focused on how we approach problems when they arise. Our human tendency is to get upset. panic or worry, and become distrusting of God. We question […]

Does It Matter What Your Wife Thinks?

posted by Linda Mintle

Tom’s wife made a spot on comment about his behavior, but Tom isn’t buying it. He looks at her and says, “You are wrong” and then becomes highly defensive. His wife tries again to explain her perception of the problem. […]

Anger Expression: Helpful or Hurtful in Relationships?

posted by Linda Mintle

Back in the 80s, marital therapists used to give angry couples nerf-like bats and tell them to go at each other. We also used to advise angry teens to hit their pillows or even purchase a punching bag and wail […]

Encountering Life Storms: Lessons from Pilots

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you going through a difficult time, what we might call a storm in your life? It could be a health diagnosis, a failing relationship, difficulty at work, parenting problems, etc. We all have problems and issues that pop up […]

Do Opposites Really Attract?

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you emotionally expressive but attracted to someone who seems to be very reluctant to share his emotional feelings? It may be the intrigue that has captured your attention. Or perhaps it is the challenge of opening up someone who […]

The Key To Staying Married

posted by Linda Mintle

“I like you and want to stay married.” Great. But that probably isn’t going to cut it unless the commitment is much deeper. Think about it. Most people stay committed when the relationship goes well, but what about when stress […]

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