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10 Tips to Express Anger in a Healthy Way

posted by Linda Mintle

angry1We all get angry, right? But how we deal with others when we get angry makes a big difference. Here are 10 tips to express anger is way that helps your relationships, not hurts them.

1)    Press pause. Don’t respond immediately when you feel intense anger. Stop and don’t speak. My dear brothers and sisters take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry… (James 1:19).

2)    Stop trying to convert others to your point of view. Listen and accept differences.

3)    If you can’t calm down, don’t respond until you can. Stop the negative cycle by not engaging in the negative behavior. A quick-tempered person does foolish things, and the one who devises evil schemes is hated. Proverbs 14:17

4)    Stop talking about what made you angry. When you repeat the story over and over, you give it energy.

5)    Find the lesson in the anger. Is there something that needs to be corrected, changed, or dealt with better? Look for the lesson. Tremble and do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Palm 4:4

6)    Observe your feelings. Acknowledge the feeling and then let it go. Practice calming techniques. Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. Proverbs 16:32.

7)    Have fighting rules that keep anger from escalating. A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again. Proverbs 19:19

8)    When anger escalates, regroup. Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

9)    Look at the big picture. Is your anger worth the relationship? It is more important to be right then to be merciful? But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Colossians 3:8

10) Be around positive people who exercise good self-control when it comes to expressing anger. Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person,
do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

 

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  • http://dermologyus.wordpress.com/2012/10/06/tips-to-get-a-tan-free-skin-naturally/ Lisa Fletcher

    Fantastic tips..!! I am a short temper kind of human being and I never thought like this ever before but if I’ll ever get angry in future definitely, I will follow these guidelines to express my anger.

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