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Soft Porn: Reframed as Normal Thanks to Hollywood

posted by Linda Mintle

The headline in USA Today asks if hypersexuality is the new normal in Hollywood.

Miley Cyrus and the class of 2013 have decided to answer that question with a big YES. To make it big, you become raunchy and show all. We used to call this soft porn.

Now being raunchy is touted as the new strategy to stay on top of the business. I was told this by a Hollywood producer recently. He said, “You don’t understand. This is just business. It is a strategy for these women to bare all and act in provocative ways.”

I told him I do understand. I just don’t agree with making people commodities in order to sell product. Does it work? YES. That doesn’t mean it is a healthy strategy. Drug dealers are effective sales people, but we still don’t allow them to sell a deadly product.

Where is our self respect? How does all this hypersexuality impact real relationships? We have some data on this and it is not positive.

And  does anyone in Hollywood care about the messages this sends to young women and men? Apparently not! It is just business!

Congratulations Hollywood. You have lowered the bar for women. One argument is that people seem to enjoy this lower standard. Yes, people do enjoy porn! But let’s not forget the destructive process that porn has over a person’s life and relationships. I see that side. Hmmm… pleasure in sin. Now, there is a novel idea! These women are delusional to think that what they are doing is anything more than objectifying and commodifying their sexuality. If they separate their sexuality from their personal lives, that is called dissociation. We treat that as a psychiatric condition.

Sex is being bought and sold on the celebrity market. Don’t ask me to celebrate this or think for a moment that this is what people have to do to be successful. Look at Adele, or young Selena Gomez. At her  concert last week she said, “Let me tell you one thing, the sexiest thing I think — actually, I know — is class.” Here here!

The money makers are driving this new normal and women are becoming slaves to the dollar. You can reframe this all you want, but in the end, women who take this route are pimping themselves. And there is no respect in that.

 

 



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